Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

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Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

No, although I had such a strong compulsion to tell the driver taking me to my wedding to turn the car round and take me home, I really wish I had! I just put it down to nerves at the time.

But apparently my grandma's sister's husband was a bigamist. He ran off without explanation, leaving my grandma's sister with 5 young children and very poor (my grandma and grandpa and her other sister tried their best to help them). One day someone saw his wedding photos in the local paper! He'd never divorced my grandma's sister, so he was still married to her. Someone (probably my grandma) reported him and I believe he went to prison.

My uncle was jilted a couple of times by the same women.
They had been together years decided to get married.She didnt show.
Few years go by,same thing happened.
3rd time they did get married and are still married now.

This all happened when i was a child,so i dont know the ins and outs of it.

My Auntie told her parents a few days prior to the wedding date that she had changed her mind and couldn't get married. Her parents were great about it.
Not long after, she met someone else and they've been married for over 50 years now.

I worked for a guy whose best friend called off his wedding 4 days before. I had been in school with the bride to be. What was worse was his fiancee worked for him in a small office. She was devastated - lost her husband and her job. They started seeing each other again after a while without telling anyone and got married with no fuss again without telling anyone. I'd like to say it was a happy ending but as a friend said "wasn't it an unlucky day for her when she first met him"

Oh and one of my mother's friends (younger than her) discovered her husband to be had a wife and children in another part of the country a month before her "wedding" was planned. This was back in the 70s.

My sister worked with someone in the 1980s who had a whirlwind romance, was very quickly engaged (big party) and the wedding booked for just a few weeks after that.

Two weeks before the big day the bride announced that the wedding was off, they had split up and oh, by the way she had had a miscarriage. She was quite cheerful about it all, worked a shift on what would have been the wedding day and when the phone rang someone made a joke about "that's probably Barry asking if you're coming to the church" and she thought it hilarious.

My sister was only a teen but looking back she realised that the woman had probably become pregnant (unplanned) and her parents strongarmed them into getting married - there was still a bit of a stigma about being an unmarried mum in the 80s, and when she miscarried (or possibly discreetly terminated) she was suddenly, joyously free.

I was a guest at a wedding and just as the priest was asking if anyone knew of any lawful impediment the doors to the church flew open and my very deaf and very disorganised friend and fellow guest rushed in late (as usual) leaving the doors rattling on their hinges; skidded to a halt in the aisle and started looking for somewhere to sit. I don't think he realised what he'd done. His poor plus one, who none of us had previously met, was mortified.

Not been to enough weddings for this to happen.

I was on a forum for weddings in the run up and one poor lass had her fiance call it off six weeks before. He actually sent his mum to do it as he didn't have the guts himself!

He was shacked up with another woman who was expecting his baby within six months, it was a real kick in the guts for her. I hope she found happiness later.

@Crankley

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time.

I hope she had their marriage annulled!

@Ericaequites

A very snobby girl I went to school with was left at the alter. The groom had a father who had embezzled millions and turned out to be hiding in Provo, Utah. They had dated since high school. She then married a divorced pro golfer, went through his money like grass through a goose, and now lives in a Florida golf course condo significantly smaller and less nice than my house. She is an estate agent.

I’d hazard a guess that you and this girl weren’t the best of friends at school!

@Stichintime

Yep, 'Irish twin' is highly offensive.

To whom is it offensive?

Because I am Irish and also very close in age to my sister

And I’m not offended.

Perhaps you are offended on my behalf?

I called my wedding off 6 months before it was due to happen.
I knew it was wrong to go ahead with it and I knew that I had until the 6 months before date to cancel without any money being lost.
I couldn’t stand to tell my parents so I wrote to them.
He was a lovely guy and he is married now with children. It was just the wrong relationship for us.

My FIL was engaged to a woman back in the 50s. They went out for dinner one night and the next day her engagement ring arrived at his house in the post. This meant that she must have put it in the post before they went to dinner. It took him years to get over it. She was a fool, he was a wonderful man.

@Notjustanymum

Went to a wedding where the bride seemed really upset. Turns out she met someone while out on her hen do and fell head over heels in love with him at first sight, and he with her. She separated from her husband as soon as they got back off honeymoon, divorced him and got hitched to the other man and they are still together, over 40 years later! The divorced husband also moved on and has been happily married for 35+ years now. I guess the first marriage just wasn’t to be...

Had to do sums to check if wasn't the same people !

I'm with Disconnect - I'm Irish, I am an "Irish Twin" and gave birth to "Irish Twins". Not offended by the term.

Years before I was born my uncle jilted his fiancé on the morning of the wedding. It was left up to my mum to go and tell his girlfriend. My uncle is a total arse though so she had a lucky escape. He’s done loads of other crappy things since and no-one speaks to him now.

My husband is still friends with his best friend who dumped his fiancee a few days before the wedding but they are not as close now. My DH totally supported his friend's fiancee and was super lovely to her and her family without being judgemental to his friend.

My Husband was supposed to be best man, the wedding was overseas.

My husband asked the groom to be like 4 times are you sure this is going ahead and that we should book this, and our flights - I think my husband had some kind of sixth sense about it.

We get to the overseas destination and the groom pulled out - my husband and I spent the night with the bride to be at their venue for the reception and she had lots of wine. It was a sad night. Just us and a close couple friend of her and her.

Lots of people had travelled internationally for it, so my husband and I ended up hosting people and arranging day trips so that the people who travelled had a good enough time. Her mother was mortified and really pissed off.

We also helped her and her family out and visited her a lot when we got back to London, even though she lived the other side of London to us. She was a lovely lovely person and had a quite full on family so this was going to be a big wedding.

In the end she has a life long disease condition so has had a tough life but she struggles through.

I suppose it is best he didn't get married in the end but it was very hard for her.

Was looking forward to reading this thread until I hit the "irish twin" reference. I think there have been some excellent explanations as to why it is. Just because you aren't aware of the terminology or aren't offended by it, doesn't make it ok. Thank you to those who called it out.

What an offensive term, meant to put down catholics and women who give birth, yes really terrible phrase and godawful stereotype.

Not exactly the same but years ago I went on a girls trip with a friend and a few other women I didn't know all that well. One was very nice; outgoing, friendly, chatty. The entire trip she kept talking about her long time boyfriend "Charles". Out in a pub during the trip and happened to run into some mutual acquaintances one of whom happened to work with "Charles". After quite a while of drinking the mutual acquaintance came up to our group, led me and Charles's girl outside and told her that Charles had gotten married that same afternoon. Many of the coworkers had attended the wedding. It as awful.

I think 'Irish Twins' is actually rather a lovely expression! How can anyone be permanently offended by the term?

Wow...as an Irish person, from a huge Irish Catholic family, I never realised I should have been so gobsmackingly offended by my own use of the term “Irish Twin”. I guess I should be apologising to myself for that .

Yes. The wedding went ahead but he left the reception to get cigarettes and never returned. Turns out he had been having an affair. Brides brother and cousin did a number on him when he finally showed his face. This was all years and years ago. The 'groom' still walks with a limp. : )

My friend was on a stag party where the groom cheated on the bride, another stag attendees wife heard & told the bride, the messenger was shot!!!! The wedding went ahead but bride & groom were barely talking & the 2 families completely ignored each other. Separated shortly after.

Also know another woman who was caught snogging the best man at her wedding. Herself & husband are still married.

My mate’s grandmother back in the 1930s. Left Ireland for the US to save money to get married. When there was enough she got the boat home. Unfortunately during the journey her husband to be died. She didn’t know until she arrived back. The wedding was arranged a month after her arrival. She married his brother instead.

A mate 30 years ago arrived at the church, no sign of the groom. This was pre mobile phones.we all waited an hour or more...the groom was killed on his was to the church

[quote JeanneDoe]@NameChangedForThisFeb21
That’s a horrendous story. Your poor cousin.

By the way, sorry to be “that person” on the chat but Irish Twin is a fairly offensive term/has negative connotations for Irish people.[/quote]
It’s not offensive. I’m Irish and and a Irish twin. Always perplexed why this comes up on MN. Anyone who finds it offensives seriously needs to cop on.

Anyway back to the topic. I attended a wedding and the bride was very very late, the priest said he’d give her 5 more minutes or he’d had to cancel. No one could get her on the phone. The groom was devastated. Turned out she had a car accident was unconscious and in A&E. she made a full recovery and the wedding went ahead 5 months later..