Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

[JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

@hannayeah do you think it was accidentally on purpose

Not a jilting but I flew all the way to the Caribbean for a wedding that was cancelled a few days before it was due to happen... the groom was still married to his ex 😳

My friend’s new husband, who she’d been with for 6 years before the wedding and engaged for 2, came out as gay a month after their wedding. No one suspected at all!

A colleague of mine was invited to a wedding by the groom, who was a friend of his. Colleague only met the bride for the first time at the wedding. It seems it was love at first sight. The bride and groom married and went on honeymoon, but as soon as they got home, the bride left her husband for my colleague, whom she went on to marry. 30 years or so and 2 adult kids later they are still very happy together!

Ive work in this field for ten years but never had any cancellations on the day, so far!

I did have a groom on the day doing a Ross and saying the wrong name,
Lucky it was his sisters name he said so the bride didn’t knock him out there and then.

However many couples who seem
To both hate each other and know that they won’t be married for long. I think they feel like they can’t leave like it’s too late, crazy really. Both ways you lose
Money but if you cancel it with a little
Notice you might claw some money back,
If the venue haven’t purchased drinks or
Food etc yet.

One wedding a guest got drunk and was ranting to the glass
Collector that she had been sleeping with the groom, it was awful that all the staff knew and the bride had no idea. She was rough as toast aswell and the bride was genuinely lovely.

The most memorable was a bride with a very tradition and religious family so wasn’t allowed to live with the groom before, so had no idea until he finally broke down and told her.. that he was a heroin addict. She was absolutely heartbroken, you would never have guessed it if you met him. Wedding which had been fully paid for, cancelled a
Couple weeks before.

Two women who were due to get married, one seemed
To push the wedding more
And seemed so excited, it was the other bride who’s family paid for the whole wedding. 5 weeks before ( a week after the final payments had been made!!) she told her fiancé she had been cheating on her and was leaving. The partner was blind sided,
Especially as it wasn’t her who was pushing the wedding. She was more angry than upset, why propose
To someone, get them
To pay for a wedding and then cheat and leave?? Just don’t propose? So cruel.

Brides crying outside because husbands on the day of the wedding are
Flirting with guests etc.

One wedding a guest went to bed and found his girlfriend in bed with his friend. He broke the door down,
Trashed the room, broke glass etc. The poor bride and groom lost their security deposit because the damage was so £££.

I think if this thread was moved to AIBU the thread would fill up faster and we'd have more juicy stories to read. I've read them all and I'm at most of them.

My mum's friends daughter left her husband shortly after the wedding to be with a man she met on her hen do.
My next door neighbour is a bigamist, the police came to my door a few years ago to ask if I'd seen him lately.
A woman in work went to a restaurant with her husband and children and discovered her DH had another family who were also there. Neither women knew about each other.

@yumscrumfatbum

My friends fiancee called off their wedding a week before the big day. He told her he was in fact gay and had decided he could no longer live a lie. My friend had no inkling at all. She was super supportive supported him in telling his family etc. It was heartbreaking for her.

This actually fucks me off that it was the 'woman's work' to put her feelings last and be 'kind' and 'supportive' and even tell his family for him!

He'd used her and lied to her, without any regard for the devastation it would cause to her, just like any other lying, using man. She was just a prop till he sorted himself out. It's a disgusting way to treat someone.

I was supposed to be a bridesmaid for a very dear friend who had emigrated to Australia. Since I was a fairly impoverished recent grad I had to scrimp to afford the airfare. Friend’s family (who I knew) and friends had agreed to put me up for the two weeks I was there and there were a bunch of wedding related activities planned for the time.

The day I arrived she called it off. It was the right decision. She just didn’t like the guy any more and knew they wouldn’t be happy, but I wish to god she’d done it earlier. All the activities were cancelled. Her family were in a state of grief or shock and really didn’t want to host me. My friend was not in the best shape and didn’t really want me around. I ended up spending hundreds on a credit card to travel to Sydney and stay in a hostel and try and make a holiday out of it. Took me over a year to pay it off on top of the 18 months of saving I’d done to be able to go in the first place. Even though I knew she’d made the correct decision not to go through with it, the lack of consideration in the aftermath really strained our relationship.

My friend has since married someone else (I didn’t go!). I went out to visit about 6 years later and she took me all over by way an apology, which was lovely.

A woman in work went to a restaurant with her husband and children and discovered her DH had another family who were also there. Neither women knew about each other.

I worked with someone who did this, he worked at my place through the week and 2 hours away at weekends. He also had a part time job as a driver. Had 2 homes, 2 families, 3 kids with one woman, 2 with the other, 2 of the kids were born within a month of each other. He was pretty open about it at work.

One day one of the women called my workplace, I'm not sure what happened at all after that. He left a couple of weeks later. There was plenty of gossip though.

The guy always looked exhausted.

I haven't been to one but had many cancellations on the day. (musicians)
It's not that unusual, sadly.
Have you seen the ones on youtube where they keep the pretence up, right until the last minute.

@NameChangedForThisFeb21 That's a terrible story, the poor woman. It must have been so upsetting to not even get a reason why or at least some empathy from these guys

When I was 20, a friend met a woman at a summer job and they fell madly in love and eventually set a wedding date for the next summer. We all told him don't do it. Too soon. They didn't even live in the same city and had only seen each other a handful of times - the rest of the relationship was on the phone (and before smartphones!). His family also didn't want him to go through with it. Oddly, her family was really excited and had put a ton of money into it, creating a large theme wedding. Two weeks before the wedding he told her he wanted to postpone it as it was too soon. Her family got really upset and basically told him, no, you are going through with it. Then his family got involved to back him up in saying he wasn't going through with it and basically the two sets of parents got into a big fight about it all. Eventually the groom to be's parents agreed to pay something like 30% of the non refundable costs and they called off the wedding!

A woman in work went to a restaurant with her husband and children and discovered her DH had another family who were also there. Neither women knew about each other.

I dated a guy whose father was actually convicted of bigamy (among other things). He was a long-haul trucker (this was in the US) and had an entire other family in another state. The tax service audited his first (and only wife because the other marriage was invalid) wife and that's how it all came out.

Shocking AF.

I know of two -

One, lovely girl, friend of a friend , her fiancé cancelled literally hours before the wedding. Had been shagging some slapper woman who he worked with and got her pregnant. She was gutted and took a long time to meet someone but is now happily married and has a baby. He's single and living alone in misery

The other - another lovely girl, good friend. Bloke was a wanker all the time. Very controlling. He waited until she had handed out all the invitations. Then said it's off. He was " bored" Did it to her twice! She still married him but they got divorced when he became violent . Thing is, you wouldn't touch him with a barge pole!

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

Was it that awful film set in Puglia BTW?

I don't find the term Irish twins offensive and have heard plenty of people with close together babies use the term. (I'm Irish BTW)

NameChangedForThisFeb21
That's so sad, your poor cousin.
How can people be so cruel....

@Crankley

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time.

Wouldn’t have been the slightest issues She’s have just reported him, marriage annulled, he sent back.

@LordEmsworth

"Irish twins" is offensive because it stems from the belief that Irish Catholics in the 19th century were poor, uneducated, feckless, and had no self-control. Hence they procreated quickly and had children they couldn't afford. Hence the Great Famine, Irish people died of hunger because they couldn't stop shagging like rabbits, it was all their own fault.

So yeah, pretty offensive. The fact that a lot of people use it without realising where it comes from, does not make it less offensive.

More like they had no birth control mostly. Still can't find it in me to get that offended. Irish people did for long periods of time tend to have large families, it is still a very natalist country with a realitively high birth rate amongst developed countries.

a girl i was best friends with split up with her fiance at their own big fancy engagement party infront of everybody. she was very much an attention seeker and loved being the center of attention and always had some drama going on. No longer friends with her due to other reasons.

Lest we forget Rod Liddle who abandoned his wife on their honeymoon to be with his lover, who he then knocked about.

@SchemeOf10

My cousin planned her wedding and had everything booked. Had family flying in from all over. Sent out her invites. Her parents paid 50%, she paid 25% and her husband to be was supposed to pay 25%. It all went into their savings account. He was short on his but was due a work bonus so she just knew his whole amount would come in one go, just before final payments were due. She had bought all personalised favours and cheese boards engraved with names etc.

One day she showed him the evening menu and asked him to make his final choices. He did, no problem. He then kissed her goodbye and went to work and never came home. He text her saying he didnt want to go ahead as she was too controlling and had pushed him into it all and she has never seen or spoke to him since. They still live in the same county. His mum collected all his things from their house. He did not pay a penny towards the wedding so her and her parents ended up paying for it all. When packing up his things she also found his families stack of invitations (he had never posted them). She has never even had a reason why. He moved on within 2 months and is still with the girl now, 4ish years later.

She lost a lot of respect though as she had a limited guest list (due to the very expensive venue she chose) but had been rather ruthless and offended quite a few of our family members. Like inviting me (her cousin) and my husband and my mum (her aunt) but not my brother (also her cousin). She did this to a lot of families so it was nothing personal. She had her sister as bridesmaid but not her niece. Because she didnt want tween bridesmaids. But she had her other niece who was a toddler. It was all about the aesthetics of the day (which is fine, its her day). But she burnt a lot of bridges. She had been quite insistent people book their accommodation early. Sending lists of suitable places and things and constantly asking if you had booked yet. And it was a midweek wedding so lots of people had decided to make a few days of it and booked time off work. Also afterwards over 50% of the people had booked hotels and cottages for the week of the wedding. After sending out her initial "wedding wont be going ahead" message she never spoke of the bookings again. Never asked if people had managed to get refunds or showed that she cared people were now left short. I dont believe she paid her parents back either.

In some cases such as this, the person calling it off made the right decision!

On the lighter side, in the summer of 1996 I was looking at venues for my own wedding and we visited a very professional place. The boss said that he’d hosted three weddings a week every summer for five years without fail “except for this coming Saturday”.

A lovely couple had come in the previous year and asked to book 15th June 1996. The boss, looked at his diary and being a big football fan, said “you do realise that that’s the day that England play Scotland in the group stages of the Euros? Are you absolutely sure that’s the date you want?”.

Bride gave tinkly little laugh. How could he be so ridiculous? Obviously her wedding was infinitely more important than watching some football match on the telly. Groom went along with it. They paid the deposit (not an enormous amount - maybe a couple of hundred quid). When it became obvious that in fact a large number of their friends and family would much rather stay at home and watch the footy than attend their wedding they postponed the wedding, and venue boss kept the deposit to spend on beer to drink while watching the match.

@disconnected101

• ancientgran @NameChangedForThisFeb21 You might not realise but "Irish Twins" is really offensive. Really? I had no idea! I'm Irish and an 'Irish twin' (sibling & I born opposite ends of the same year). I've never found it offensive.

Almost snap: I’m Irish and have Irish twins and can’t see how it’s offensive.