Page 11 | Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 2021-04-21T21:50:21+00:00

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together [grin] we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside [shock] is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

peaceanddove · 23/04/2021 15:55

An ex's best friend (Tony) was seeing a girl engaged to another bloke, by the time Tony found out he was already head over heels in love. He begged the girl to be with him instead and he even proposed but she refused. She carried on sleeping with Tony right up until her wedding, then finally ended it. It absolutely broke Tony's heart and it was years before he had a relationship with anyone else.

My Auntie's god-daughter had a very flash, white wedding that cost about £50K (and this was back in the early 90s). Four days into the honeymoon her DH told her he'd made a terrible mistake and that he was organising to fly home the next day without her. She never saw him again after he left their honeymoon hotel, and her poor parents had to fly out to bring her home because she was distraught.

DH's brother confessed to him that he had very serious reservations about going through with the wedding, just 2 weeks before the big day. DH strongly advised him to not go through with it, but in the end his brother did. But he looked terrible on his wedding day and DH and the best man had to tip a triple whiskey down his throat to get him down the aisle. 15 months into the marriage, BIL had an affair and asked his wife for a divorce, but she somehow talked him round. Then she got pregnant so it was even harder for him to leave. They're still together 15 years later and actually seem content, but there's no passion and they're essentially house-mates who have children together. I don't know if that's a happy ending or not?

AryaStarkWolf · 23/04/2021 16:10

@ancientgran

Hah, obviously you aren't as 'Irish' as the non-Irish posters who are enraged on your behalf What about the Irish posters who think it is offensive?

It doesn't actually matter if some people choose to use it, it is still offensive. My husband hates being referred to as BAME, he says he'd rather be called the N word. Does that mean we can all start using the N word?

It's not even offensive though, it was true, people did have loads of children in Ireland a generation or two ago, each of my parents come from families with 6 children each and theirs were small compared to others

and yes I am Irish, I never really use the term myself but my mothers generation do still

IbrahimaRedTwo · 23/04/2021 16:13

It's not even offensive though

You know you don't get to decide what other people find offensive, right?

It's stereotyping and a lot of people find the phrase offensive. If you don't, thats ok, but you are not able to decide for everyone.

AryaStarkWolf · 23/04/2021 16:20

@IbrahimaRedTwo

It's not even offensive though

You know you don't get to decide what other people find offensive, right?

It's stereotyping and a lot of people find the phrase offensive. If you don't, thats ok, but you are not able to decide for everyone.

No one in Ireland I ever met.......... Find it offensive if you want, most people I know say it because they know it's true that Irish families used to be pretty big (I've only ever heard Irish people say this term in real)

AryaStarkWolf · 23/04/2021 16:21

real life*

zukiecat · 23/04/2021 16:21

No, but my friend was getting married on the Saturday and her fiance phoned her on the Thursday to say he wasn't marrying her.

It took time and a lot of talking, but it seemed they had sorted everything, and were making plans for a new date. He had a lot of stuff at her house, but he gradually removed things until it was all gone, he phoned her one day that he never had any intention of marrying her, and he just went along with it to "keep her happy"

This was 1984, and she's never got over it.

HagenDaz · 23/04/2021 16:27

Does anyone remember Rory McIlroy breaking up with the tennis star 6 weeks before the wedding after she tweeted a photo of him in bed asleep?

BlueLobelia · 23/04/2021 16:30

I was in Australia when this happened. Italian count engaged to daughter of one of the richest men in Australia. Then ran off with his best man.

Summary and update below.

www.smh.com.au/national/nsw/sydneys-prince-montesini-stages-low-key-return-20160213-gmtbos.html

theleafandnotthetree · 23/04/2021 16:33

@IbrahimaRedTwo

It's not even offensive though

You know you don't get to decide what other people find offensive, right?

It's stereotyping and a lot of people find the phrase offensive. If you don't, thats ok, but you are not able to decide for everyone.

You sound a bit po-faced. But crack on, we're all different I suppose. Including in the things we choose to get offended about.

DroopyDaff · 23/04/2021 16:34

My brother was getting married to an American woman he’d met whilst working over there. Family members flew out at great cost. I couldn’t go as just given birth but paid for teen DC to go with my parents.

On the morning of the wedding as everyone was getting ready and the bride was getting into her dress, brother knocked on her hotel room door (wedding was being held in posh hotel in Las Vegas at great cost to her parents) and said he couldn’t go through with it. Poor woman was absolutely devastated. She was absolutely lovely as well. Brother fucked off to another hotel and the rest of my (very dysfunctional) family carried on with the holiday and wouldn’t hear a word against my brother! DC (young teen) was horrified.

I voiced my dismay (as in WTAF!) that he’d done it right at the last minute in a really humiliating way as her family and friends had travelled from all over the US as well and there was a lot of guests, and my mother was furious at me .

From what I gathered afterwards it ended up in an ‘her or us’ situation as my mother didn’t want my brother living in the US permanently. He was 30 at the time.

Elbels · 23/04/2021 16:36

@namedchangedforthisone

NC for this as outing.

I had been seeing a guy from work for about 4 months, he seemed like a really nice guy we got on well and went on lots of dates. I was early 20s (read naive) had my own flat so if we weren't going out somewhere he would usually come to mine.

Went to his a couple of times usually to collect his dog to go for a walk or pop in to pick up post but never stayed there and wasn't in the house longer than half an hour. The place didn't look like a bachelor pad but nothing particularly girly either.

One day we went there and I saw on the kitchen side 2 printed out boarding passes to Spain. Young (naive!) me thought he had booked us a surprise trip so I didn't say anything to him so not to ruin the surprise.

A few days later we were in the canteen at work and another colleague said to him "not long until you're a married man" i looked him dead in the eye and he looked extremely sheepish.

Turns out his wedding was the following week and the boarding passes were for his honeymoon!

He wasn't on SM and I didn't have a clue who the Fiancé was so i had no way of contacting her to let her know what a vile scumbag he was.

I handed my notice in at work and left but found out a while later he had cancelled the wedding on the morning it was supposed to happen.

I hope he is wallowing in the swamp he deserves and that she went on to marry her Prince Charming

This totally bought a repressed memory back!

I once went back to a man's house after a night out where we were doing all of the kissing, he went to the toilet or to make us a drink or something and I was in the kitchen and saw a wedding invite on the fridge. Looking at it closer I realised it was to his wedding that was in a couple of weeks! A sort of funny story to tell friends when I was in my early 20s, utterly horrifying now I'm in my 30s and getting married.

Waterfallgirl · 23/04/2021 16:48

@DroopyDaff

My brother was getting married to an American woman he’d met whilst working over there. Family members flew out at great cost. I couldn’t go as just given birth but paid for teen DC to go with my parents.

On the morning of the wedding as everyone was getting ready and the bride was getting into her dress, brother knocked on her hotel room door (wedding was being held in posh hotel in Las Vegas at great cost to her parents) and said he couldn’t go through with it. Poor woman was absolutely devastated. She was absolutely lovely as well. Brother fucked off to another hotel and the rest of my (very dysfunctional) family carried on with the holiday and wouldn’t hear a word against my brother! DC (young teen) was horrified.

I voiced my dismay (as in WTAF!) that he’d done it right at the last minute in a really humiliating way as her family and friends had travelled from all over the US as well and there was a lot of guests, and my mother was furious at me .

From what I gathered afterwards it ended up in an ‘her or us’ situation as my mother didn’t want my brother living in the US permanently. He was 30 at the time.

So your mum basically scuppered the wedding because she wanted her son to stay in the UK?! Wow @DroopyDaff I know you said they were dysfunctional but 😱.

mumjustmum · 23/04/2021 16:56

Not jilted, but I called off my wedding more than ten years ago with 3.5weeks to go until the day, because I just knew we'd end in divorce. We loved one another so so much but were awfully toxic on both sides.
I lost a few grand, but my family were very kind in sucking up that financial loss.
It was devastating at the time, and on what would have been our wedding day, I cried and cried. My wedding dress is still in my sisters loft.

I am now married with three children, and although we aren't perfect, I know I made a good decision as to who to have my children with.
My ex is happily married with two children and doing well with work etc.

I still think of him every few days/a week. I think my heart will still stop if I saw him.

Whatawaytogo · 23/04/2021 17:01

@DroopyDaff

My brother was getting married to an American woman he’d met whilst working over there. Family members flew out at great cost. I couldn’t go as just given birth but paid for teen DC to go with my parents.

On the morning of the wedding as everyone was getting ready and the bride was getting into her dress, brother knocked on her hotel room door (wedding was being held in posh hotel in Las Vegas at great cost to her parents) and said he couldn’t go through with it. Poor woman was absolutely devastated. She was absolutely lovely as well. Brother fucked off to another hotel and the rest of my (very dysfunctional) family carried on with the holiday and wouldn’t hear a word against my brother! DC (young teen) was horrified.

I voiced my dismay (as in WTAF!) that he’d done it right at the last minute in a really humiliating way as her family and friends had travelled from all over the US as well and there was a lot of guests, and my mother was furious at me .

From what I gathered afterwards it ended up in an ‘her or us’ situation as my mother didn’t want my brother living in the US permanently. He was 30 at the time.

That woman dodged a truly awful bullet

PuttingOnTheKitsch · 23/04/2021 17:04

Can we agree that every perspective and opinion on the phase "Irish twins" has now been covered?

It's derailing a fascinating thread.

SunshineCake · 23/04/2021 17:06

[quote VenusClapTrap]@SunshineCake ha ha no, sorry to spoil the story but we split up after going out for a year. He broke my heart actually; but I’m pleased to say I’m fully recovered and married a far nicer man in the end. he was bloody good looking though [/quote]
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AliasGrape · 23/04/2021 17:19

Super outing so I sense a name change in my near future but it happened to me - not on the day but just under a week before.

Years and years ago now.
Everything booked, paid for, guests from abroad had arrived in the country. He just started saying he had doubts, went back and forth for a day or two, wouldn’t say why or what had changed and in the end it was me who told him to fuck off then but only because he didn’t seem to have the balls to say it out loud. Swore blind there was no one else, turns out there was and he’d got her pregnant but when I bumped into him a few years back was still claiming to have never cheated so who really knows.

Honestly it devastated me after 12 years together, I thought I’d die and sometimes I wished I did. I am married now and have a beautiful baby and very happy but fuck me if it didn’t take a long long time to get to the point where I could trust anyone again.

sturdywiththewordyshakespear · 23/04/2021 17:31

A work friend of mine - who is a real sweetie - was on his stag do (about two weeks before the wedding) when one of his ushers broke the news that his best man had been shagging his fiance for months. The best man then punched the usher in the face and they all jumped on the best man and got chucked out of the bar they were in - and my friend went back to the flat he shared with his fiance and he packed his stuff up and moved out that night. It was horrendous. At work we were all invited to the party in the evening but he had about 70 people (big families and lots of uni friends several of whom were flying in) to put off for the full day and another 70 odd for the evening. He didn't tell us the full story for months (understandably). All his close friends had known and been putting masses of pressure on the best man and fiance to stop or tell him and they kept saying it meant nothing and weird stuff like that. Poor guy. He's got a smaller group of friends these days but he's happily married with 3 little-uns now.

cortex10 · 23/04/2021 17:35

I worked for an organisation where a senior manager was still employed despite not turning up to the registry office for his marriage to the Chief Executive's PA a few years before. She'd resigned not long afterwards but we all thought he'd got some nerve (or had something over the other executives that meant he was untouchable).

JonSnowIsALoser · 23/04/2021 17:42

These are sad stories, but I do have respect for people who decide not to go ahead with a wedding if it doesn't feel right, rather than going on with it because cash has been spent.

There's too much societal and family pressure on weddings and getting married anyway, and some people are just not ready for it. It's not for everybody, it's an enormous lifetime commitment and I'm not surprised people get cold feet. It would be great if they arrived at the decision not to get married before the wedding rather than at the altar, but to be honest it's better that than a miserable life together ending in divorce anyway. At least it's honest and it does take an enormous amount of guts.

OldieMama · 23/04/2021 17:43

My mum nearly called it off on the morning of the wedding to her first husband. She just didn't want to marry him. Alas she went ahead anyway as she didn't want to let everyone down. They ended up getting divorced ten years later after enduring an unhappy marriage. Then she met my dad. She always said trust your instincts. She always regretted going ahead with the wedding.

LCHH123 · 23/04/2021 17:53

My mother went to a wedding where the bride married a completely different person to the one that everything thought she was going to marry. It was quite a surprise for the guests.

Also, all the presents were in the wrong names.

Mummyyyyyyyyyy · 23/04/2021 17:58

A friend of my then fiancé had not turned up to his own wedding, he just drove to a car show. Apparently he & his girlfriend had been together since school & their mums we're friends. He said they were just blindly going into the marriage to please their parents. I found it hard to imagine him doing it as he was now happily married to someone else & they had a young daughter.
It did worry me a little as he was my fiancé's best man. I've been happily married for 30 years (& he is still with his wife). I did wonder about the jilted bride.

FirstTimeMumma2021 · 23/04/2021 18:01

Not been to a wedding like this before but remember when we were shopping for an engagement ring, guy working in the jewellery shop said his friends fiancé was sick of waiting so when it got to the next leap year she got down on one knee and proposed in public. He said the poor guy didn't want to even say yes but couldn't say no as it was all so public

Fuckfuckfucked · 23/04/2021 18:03

Here in kerry Irish twins is a term used regularly a few people in my village have Irish twins, i myself currently pregnant miss out by 1 month dam it

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