Kids playing outside

[Jiggy16]

Trying not to be a grouch, what time do people feel is acceptable for kids (10/15 maybe around the age 10ish?) playing outside in the evening, shouting and loud singing, sometimes with whistles.

Also, just ask them to stop blowing the whistle.

The dc in our street mostly come in when it's dark. Being in Scotland, in June, that can be pretty late. I'd never allow whistles and I always come out to correct screaming in the evening even though it's not usually my dc as they are well warned about being considerate. Most of the neighbours love hearing them play but the ones directly next to me don't so I'm mindful of that. I'd not mind a bit of they asked my dc to be quieter if something specific was annoying them. I'd just mention that the whistle and very loud noises are your disturbing dc so could they be a bit quieter please.

Also LOL at gang culture 🤣🤣🤣

Until the lampposts come on

Wouldnt like the whistles but kids playing outside not a problem for me.
Kids play out where I live we have lots of green space and I think it's lovely to see them all out.
It's good for them.

Oh and answer to your question OP kids come in by 7ish where I live.

The kids (anywhere from 6 to early teens from what I can tell) around our end play our until it starts getting dark or cold, whichever comes first. My 8 y old plays out until 7-7.30 ish at this time of year.

Whats wrong with the street? Usually till its dark in summer.

What kind of absolute sadist gives a child a whistle.

@LemonRoses

LST. No, I think children socialising is good. I don’t happen to think on the streets, irritating others is the place to do that. I don’t object to gathering for a purpose but dislike loitering without purpose. I’ve genuinely never lived anywhere this would have been seen as acceptable, nor do I know any of our friends who would have allowed it.

Then you and your friends must live in very weird places. I've never lived anywhere that kids didn't play out.

Foolintherain. No, not weird places at all. Perfectly ordinary towns and villages. None of their friends hung around on the streets. They went to friends houses, had activities, went out for a purpose or were at our house.

@LemonRoses

Foolintherain. No, not weird places at all. Perfectly ordinary towns and villages. None of their friends hung around on the streets. They went to friends houses, had activities, went out for a purpose or were at our house.

Of course they did.🙄

Foolintherain: I've never lived anywhere that kids didn't play out.
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I've never lived anywhere that they do, neither would I.

@LemonRoses

Foolintherain. No, not weird places at all. Perfectly ordinary towns and villages. None of their friends hung around on the streets. They went to friends houses, had activities, went out for a purpose or were at our house.

That's how it should be.

@LemonRoses even as older children/teens? Where on Earth did you live?

@Maggiesfarm

Foolintherain: I've never lived anywhere that kids didn't play out. .... I've never lived anywhere that they do, neither would I.

That's massively strange

@Maggiesfarm

Foolintherain: I've never lived anywhere that kids didn't play out. .... I've never lived anywhere that they do, neither would I.

So you'd deliberately choose to live on a main road/unsafe area just to avoid children playing out? Very odd.

LST:

That's massively strange.
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Not strange at all, quite normal in many places. A lot depends on the area, type of housing, etc. It just wouldn't be seen as acceptable.

Where I live is fairly average, houses with small drives, some semi, some detached, not big - 3/4 bedrooms. Certainly nothing special. People have children of course but they play in their back gardens or go to the park when they're old enough.

I think if any children did play in the street there would be complaints from the residents. I wouldn't like it but doubt I would complain.

God what a sad world that there are places where its frowned upon for children going out to play.

Although I have never actually heard of these strange lands before.

[quote supersonicginandtonic]@LemonRoses even as older children/teens? Where on Earth did you live?[/quote]
No, not as older children or teens. They were too busy by then.

They played with friends throughout their childhoods, of course. It simply wasn’t on the streets or at a recreation ground. As older children, it was at the watersports centre where they worked, at friends houses, at the tennis club, at the rugby club or after orchestra in the recreation area. Their friends came to us to use the pool or play badminton etc.

We’re not unduly risk averse. We wanted to know where they were and who they were with. Peer group behaviour and norms can have a significant negative impact on the behaviour of individuals.

Have you tried asking the kids to move along else where. If you have little kids it might be that older ones would respond positively to you asking them to be a bit quieter to let the little ones sleep.

I can imagine the whistle is annoying. Maybe he’s training to be a professional raver!

@GintyMcGinty

God what a sad world that there are places where its frowned upon for children going out to play.

Although I have never actually heard of these strange lands before.

This! I’m not in the UK, but mine have been playing out from 11am til 7pm today, barring lunch and a couple of pass bys for ice lollies and water! They play out and rotate between our house and their friends houses nearby. That’s childhood to me.

@LemonRoses

A gang is simply a group of people coming together. The culture is about peer pressure rather than parental influence. It’s not necessarily about knives and drugs. It’s about escalating inconsiderate behaviour, about littering, about illicit drinking or smoking as they get a bit older.

I’ve never lived anywhere where it’s the norm thank goodness and would never have allowed it.

Classical music disperses gangs/groups of youths. Odd, but true. I think it was first used in Canada.

I grew up on the outskirts of London and we played out with the kids in our street all the time. There were about 10 of us. We drifted apart as we reached secondary and made other friends and saw them at weekends instead. We were definitely a gang - we did crazy things like 40 40 home, and football. Once, we even decided to do a sponsored run after a school friend was hospitalised. We took it very seriously, ‘trained’ by running up and down the road, and persuaded the neighbours to come and watch the run and sponsor us. Raised just over £100 for Great Ormond Street. I am so glad you wouldn’t allow it - who knows where it can lead?

babybythesea Thats very nice. Similarly, my children who have never been allowed to play out still managed to grow lifelong friendships, raised money for charities but they never played football. Maybe that’s a shocking absence from their life.

Peers involved in anti-social behaviour from aged seven upwards is a strong indication of risk of youth violence. Unsupervised large groups of children increases risk of peer group dominance over parental influence and choice of friends.

When the street lights come on.