Kids playing outside

[Jiggy16]

Trying not to be a grouch, what time do people feel is acceptable for kids (10/15 maybe around the age 10ish?) playing outside in the evening, shouting and loud singing, sometimes with whistles.

I dislike gang culture and children playing in the street or left ‘hanging around’. Peer pressure can be quite powerful and mischief for one is fun for another is minor criminal activity or disturbances for someone else.

No laws to stop them but there should be consideration of others. You don’t need yobbishness to have fun. Shouting and blowing whistles outside somebody’s house in the evening is unacceptable and intrusive.
Loud classical music works. A decent Wagner or Bach with the window open.

Mine (age 11) plays out till 8pm on a school night when it's light nights. 9pm at the weekend. Kids round here play on the streets but they tend to move about, they usually go to the field at the end of the road. Don't think there's much you can do about kids playing out, have ask the whistle blower to stop but they're not unreasonable to play out.

Gang culture. 😮

Gang culture 🤣🤣. Yep, bloody hide and seek and tag turning children into gangsters 😂

Gang culture 🤣🤣🤣🙈🙈 there were loads of us playing in our street when I was little and it certainly wasn't gang related 🙄

The kids the OP mentions are around 10, possibly going to secondary school in September. Why is it wrong they aren't playing in their gardens. Children need freedom sometime.

I'd put your tele on OP and ignore them.

Stop gang culture by playing classical music? Mumsnet is truly another world 😂

@Tinyspiky

is not good in this day and age

Sorry but why is it not good? I don't understand that comment

I said the reason before this sentence. The small children not being supervised is not good, imo.

@roguetomato

Tinyspiky, if they are out in the street and not in the garden, small children aren't supervised. That is not good in this day and age , it doesn't happen around here.

They're ten!!! Excluding any disability or impairments, if your ten year old can't play unsupervised, you're doing parenting wrong!!

OP, I'd go out and ask them to please stop with the whistle as it's disturbing your young children. They might take the hint and go elsewhere.

A gang is simply a group of people coming together. The culture is about peer pressure rather than parental influence. It’s not necessarily about knives and drugs. It’s about escalating inconsiderate behaviour, about littering, about illicit drinking or smoking as they get a bit older.

I’ve never lived anywhere where it’s the norm thank goodness and would never have allowed it.

Classical music disperses gangs/groups of youths. Odd, but true. I think it was first used in Canada.

It's the norm for kids to play out were I live thank goodness. I do live in the real world though.

I would say it's reasonable until it gets dark (which is probably when they are told to go home anyway).

if specific noises e.g. the whistle are annoying you, I'd suggest you politely ask them not to after x hour. You could also ask them if they could play a bit further away from your house?

OP, m why don’t you just tell them to move on as they’re keeping your kids awake? You could be nice but clear and firm. Kids need boundaries and this is one you can set. They’ll find another place to okay. Since when do kids rule the roost?

*they’ll find another place to play

DumplingsAndStew, my dc did play out side unsupervised at that age, but no one around here play in the streets. They go to the park.

My kids ages 9 and 7 play in the street with next door and next door but 1. They all go to the same school. I love them able to do this. I get them in around 8ish.

Classical music? No, I think Val Doonican would do the trick

@LST

My kids ages 9 and 7 play in the street with next door and next door but 1. They all go to the same school. I love them able to do this. I get them in around 8ish.

Mine played with next door and next door but 1 too, happy memories. However they played in each other's gardens. As they got older they'd go to the park, ride bikes, etc.

@LemonRoses

A gang is simply a group of people coming together. The culture is about peer pressure rather than parental influence. It’s not necessarily about knives and drugs. It’s about escalating inconsiderate behaviour, about littering, about illicit drinking or smoking as they get a bit older.

I’ve never lived anywhere where it’s the norm thank goodness and would never have allowed it.

Classical music disperses gangs/groups of youths. Odd, but true. I think it was first used in Canada.

OK so if a gang is "simply a group of people coming together". So you object to any groups of people gathering anywhere for any reason? How on earth have you ever lived anywhere where that's never happened? They're just kids playing out, hardly crime of the century.

@LemonRoses

I dislike gang culture and children playing in the street or left ‘hanging around’. Peer pressure can be quite powerful and mischief for one is fun for another is minor criminal activity or disturbances for someone else.

No laws to stop them but there should be consideration of others. You don’t need yobbishness to have fun. Shouting and blowing whistles outside somebody’s house in the evening is unacceptable and intrusive.
Loud classical music works. A decent Wagner or Bach with the window open.

You don't agree with kids socialising and playing out of their gardens? Get fucking real

Call out the window "Can you give it a rest with the whistle please? It's giving me a headache."
You have a 50/50 chance of either

• "ok sorry"
• "f off"

You won't know which you will get unless you try. Most ten year olds I know would say the first one.

LST. No, I think children socialising is good. I don’t happen to think on the streets, irritating others is the place to do that.
I don’t object to gathering for a purpose but dislike loitering without purpose. I’ve genuinely never lived anywhere this would have been seen as acceptable, nor do I know any of our friends who would have allowed it.

My kids play out in the street. In the summer I think 9pm is acceptable. They are just riding bikes, skateboarding, chatting. If they started with whistles they would get a flea in the ear.

Now that the nights are light I would say about 8pm during the week and 9pm at the weekend.

@LemonRoses

A gang is simply a group of people coming together. The culture is about peer pressure rather than parental influence. It’s not necessarily about knives and drugs. It’s about escalating inconsiderate behaviour, about littering, about illicit drinking or smoking as they get a bit older.

I’ve never lived anywhere where it’s the norm thank goodness and would never have allowed it.

Classical music disperses gangs/groups of youths. Odd, but true. I think it was first used in Canada.

I played in the street from about 5 until I was a teenager - I'm in the Welsh valleys, it would be weirder not to be out playing to be honest - and was certainly not involved in littering, illicit drinking or smoking. Groups of children don't necessarily mean these things happen.

Most of the awful behaviour witnessed over the past year has been in those packed beer gardens full of adults acting like dickheads, or walking up our nearby beauty spots dumping BBQs and crap.

Aged 10, I'd want them in by 8pm. And if I was aware that they were blowing a whistle right outside someone's house, I'd put a stop to it.

There's a difference between kids playing and being a nuisance. Young kids can't always tell a difference, but parents should be minding this.