If you kept your surname upon marriage, what is your title?

[LudoBear]

Just that really!

Are you still Miss Maiden, Mrs Maiden, Ms Maiden or something else??

Ms married name even tho I'm divorced

Ms My Original and Only Name.

@MixedUpFiles

Ms. Mysurname

Same it has been since the day I was born

Yes me too, though I get "Miss" a lot at work (school).

@DontJumpInTheFountain

In Spain you give your child your first last name, and your husband will give his first last name. So the second last names don't get passed on. You can choose which last name you put first as long as all the siblings (of the same both parents) have the same last name and order.

Another Dr Maiden name here, when I got married it was too much hassle to change it for most career things so I only changed to dr married name for my medical records when pregnant, ended up having to change that back to maiden name when I sold my practice to comply with cqc check stuff. Now for minor stuff will answer to any combination of dr/miss/Mrs his name or maiden name, but prefer dr maiden and dislike Mrs his name.

[quote Increscendo]@DontJumpInTheFountain

In Spain you give your child your first last name, and your husband will give his first last name. So the second last names don't get passed on. You can choose which last name you put first as long as all the siblings (of the same both parents) have the same last name and order.[/quote]
That seems like much more sensible way of doing things. And I suppose that the fact that there is a choice to the order must mean that there's an equal chance of the female and male names being taken forward.

Thanks for educating me!

Ms if I’m choosing, but I’ll answer to anything as titles don’t really matter to me.

A former colleague got extremely irate that a trade magazine that came to the office for me was addressed to Mrs D Pelican. Never quite understood that one.

Ms. Birthname

But I'm in the US where the default is Ms, even for married women who take their husband's name.

Yes, now the trend is to put the mother's first. I have done that, and my husband's (British) goes after mine!

Ms. But titles aren't really used in day to day life are they? It's just for form filling.

@SeaSalt1979

Am surprised at how many Drs are on this thread. I wonder whether Drs are more likely to keep their own surname after marriage. Just a thought

I think you're right. Could be because Drs (PhDs as well as medical Drs) have built up a network and track record in their birth name? I have a PhD and I'm Dr birth name.

Miss Maiden name.

Just a few forms over the years that don't allow you to be a miss and married when I have had to use Mrs. I don't like Ms.

Miss, Mrs, Ms completely randomly. Whichever one I use, I'm annoyed by it!

Ms Maiden. If Ms isn’t available (it usually is) I’ll use Miss.

Growing up feminist in the 70s I couldn't wait til I turned 18 and became Ms Maidenname signifying a grown up individual and nobody's property. Will be that til I die. My sisters all did the did the same. Mrs Maidenname is my mother, she was too early in the movement and was happy with dad so she never reverted to maiden name. As Mrs Marriedname I only exist when elderly acquaintances of husband send Christmas cards.

Growing up feminist in the 70s I couldn't wait til I turned 18 and became Ms Maidenname signifying a grown up individual and nobody's property. Will be that til I die. My sisters all did the did the same. Mrs Maidenname is my mother, she was too early in the movement and was happy with dad so she never reverted to maiden name. As Mrs Marriedname I only exist when elderly acquaintances of husband send Christmas cards.

Miss Maidenname
Marriage is not about a name it's about committing to them

Ms MyName
Really irritated by numerous relatives still sending post to Mrs DHinitial DHsurname. And even my own parents, when posting something to both of us, will put only our first names on it, no surnames at all, because they seem to struggle with the idea that I haven't taken DH's surname (it's nearly 15 years now so they've had plenty of time to get used to it)

If I had kept my surname when I got married then I'd go with Ms My Surname (I wouldn't want to use Miss if I was married, regardless of if I used my name or my husbands name).

However perhaps irrelevant to the actual question but this is my feelings on it. I’m married and have my husbands surname. For me it was never a choice or a decision. I always knew I would take my husbands name if and when I got married. To me it’s the traditional way and thing to do. I love the idea of it. I couldn’t wait to change my name and be a Mrs. In fact I hate it if I’m referred to as Ms instead, I feel I should be addressed the correct way and the way I want to be.
I feel in terms of written address, if it’s just to me it should be Mrs My Initial Joint Surname. If it’s to both my husband and I the traditional form of address for a married opposite sex couple, Mr and Mrs Husbands Initial Joint Surname. Or if it’s more formal Mr and Mrs Husbands Full First Name Joint Surname.
If it’s verbal address, just me should be Mrs My Initial Joint Surname. If it’s both of us then again Mr and Mrs Husbands Initial Joint Surname. Or again if it’s more formal then Mr and Mrs Husbands Full First Name Joint Surname.
I’ve never felt like I’m less of a person or I’ve lost my identity, to me I feel it’s the correct traditional form of address for me as a married woman with my husbands surname, and I’d hate it if it didn’t happen.
I’m a traditionalist and to me my husband is head of the family. I correct anyone who doesn’t refer to me the way I want to be referred to. I know most will say it’s extremely outdated and sexist but it’s how I like it and I’ll never change it.

Dr Maidenname

I’ve never felt like I’m less of a person or I’ve lost my identity, to me I feel it’s the correct traditional form of address for me as a married woman with my husbands surname, and I’d hate it if it didn’t happen.
I’m a traditionalist and to me my husband is head of the family. I correct anyone who doesn’t refer to me the way I want to be referred to. I know most will say it’s extremely outdated and sexist but it’s how I like it and I’ll never change it.

You know it’s those kid of thoughts that lead to marital rape being legal for so long, don’t you? And women not being able to get mortgages alone. It is hideously sexist (head of the family 🤮).

Ms Maidenname

@TomHardyAndMe

I’ve never felt like I’m less of a person or I’ve lost my identity, to me I feel it’s the correct traditional form of address for me as a married woman with my husbands surname, and I’d hate it if it didn’t happen. I’m a traditionalist and to me my husband is head of the family. I correct anyone who doesn’t refer to me the way I want to be referred to. I know most will say it’s extremely outdated and sexist but it’s how I like it and I’ll never change it.

You know it’s those kid of thoughts that lead to marital rape being legal for so long, don’t you? And women not being able to get mortgages alone. It is hideously sexist (head of the family 🤮).

Well, I was (charitably?) assuming @happymummy12345 was actually being heavily ironic in her self-depiction as surrendered wife, but maybe not...

Technically Lady but I wouldn't use that with anybody I am Mrs. In fact first name is fine.

@Pheebs2021

Technically Lady but I wouldn't use that with anybody I am Mrs. In fact first name is fine.

@Pheebs2021, if you are in fact a scion of the landed gentry or above, would you do Mn an enormous favour and start an AMA to dispel the Mn myth that the UC invariably rattle around in ancient jalopies covered in dog hair, equally gracious to bin men and duchesses, and camped out in the former servants’ quarters of their crumbling piles, barely able to keep the wolf from the portico?