If you kept your surname upon marriage, what is your title?

[LudoBear]

Just that really!

Are you still Miss Maiden, Mrs Maiden, Ms Maiden or something else??

I use Mrs and Miss I guess. I couldn't be bothered changing my bank accounts etc solely for a title change but I would use Mrs on anything new.

DH took my name rather than us both keeping our
names and he asked if I would use Mrs so I do to a certain extent.

Every person I know who kept her Maiden name is Mrs Maiden name. Only met 2 who use ms and that was post divorce with married name. I wish I’d kept my Maiden name but I’d have used Mrs (I dislike ms and think it’s causes more judgement than Mrs).

Dr SeaSalt. I get really annoyed at Mrs and if people want me to have an official title then I might at least use my professional one. To be fair, my kid is also SeaSalt even though Dh and I are married and DC is his kid.

Mrs Mynameivehadforever

I dislike ms and think it’s causes more judgement than Mrs

Could you explain what you mean by this please?

Ms
Really, I would prefer if we adopted the French style, adult women are all Mrs, only little girls are Miss. It works for men.

I'm in my 50s and have used Ms since I was a teenager. Inspired by this thread I might change to Mrs.
For clarity, I didn't change my name on married, children are hyphenated.

Ms. I hate being called Mrs, makes me feel like my Grandma!

@Kendodd

Ms Really, I would prefer if we adopted the French style, adult women are all Mrs, only little girls are Miss. It works for men.

This isn’t true. Married women in France are Madame and unmarried are Mademoiselle.

Dr maiden name
Mrs married name

I like the differences. Husband would like me to use Dr more often as he's proud of me. I prefer Mrs.

@m0therofdragons

Every person I know who kept her Maiden name is Mrs Maiden name. Only met 2 who use ms and that was post divorce with married name. I wish I’d kept my Maiden name but I’d have used Mrs (I dislike ms and think it’s causes more judgement than Mrs).

I don’t think I know what any of my friends use (Ms/ Mrs / Miss). I use Ms literally just for forms. Letters and cards from family and friends in the post would just be addressed to First Name Surname. I know that most of my friends have kept their own surname but I can’t think really of a situation where I’d find out whether they go by Ms or not.

DC’s school have been down as Miss I think but they chose that themselves as I didn’t fill in Miss on any form. Doesn’t bother me, I’d assume half their data is wrong or out of date. I sign off emails to the school with my first name.

Ms

Ms, have been since I was 17 or 18, pre and post marriage.

Sorry punctuation fail on my part in fact rereading it it makes no sense at all ! I ment it defeats the object to detach your title from your relationship to men by using Ms only to ditch Ms for Mrs when your married.

I use Mrs Maiden as I’m married 🤷🏻‍♀️

I had an English teacher at high school who I admired. She got married in the 80s and explained to the class that she would not be changing her name and would continue to be called MsNameSheWasBornWith. I hadn't heard of Ms as a concept before that and didn't know of any woman who hadn't changed their name on marrying. I was suitably impressed by her decision, her explanation and her reasons and vowed I would also never change my name.

It's something I feel quite strongly about and hope it will change so that a women's marital status is as immaterial as men's. I was a Miss as a child and that status should change when I become an adult. Not when or if I decide to get married.

I can remember my granny being called MrsGrandadsFirstNameSurname so eg. Mrs Fred Smith. I was shocked it still happened but it wasn't uncommon for her she said and she just accepted it. I see it as various levels of a theme...

Mrs Jean Smith (husbands surname)
Mrs Fred Smith (husbands first and surname)
Offred

Dr Birth Name. 'Maiden name' is a ridiculous, patriarchal expression that suggests that women's birth names are like balance bikes or starter bras, something you grow out of later on when you upgrade to the 'real' thing. DS has both our surnames. It wasn't even a discussion, or only which order sounded better.

Ms or Doctor, but sometimes use Mrs as my DCs have taken my name rather than their father's so at school it naturally becomes Mrs.

Dr MaidenName
Mrs MarriedName

I always use Ms

@Phrenologist

Dr Birth Name. 'Maiden name' is a ridiculous, patriarchal expression that suggests that women's birth names are like balance bikes or starter bras, something you grow out of later on when you upgrade to the 'real' thing. DS has both our surnames. It wasn't even a discussion, or only which order sounded better.

I love these analogies!!! I’ve always hated “maiden name” too, but couldn’t express why.

Prof. Surname.

Am surprised at how many Drs are on this thread. I wonder whether Drs are more likely to keep their own surname after marriage. Just a thought

@Soothes - I work in a school and we have plenty of teachers who use Ms. It’s not a made up Mumsnet thing ! I have always been Ms Myname through two marriages. It’s the 21st century after all.

@SeaSalt1979

Am surprised at how many Drs are on this thread. I wonder whether Drs are more likely to keep their own surname after marriage. Just a thought

I would have said there was a fairly strong correlation between female education levels and the likelihood of rejecting reactionary sexist nonsense.