On the subject of taking your father's name, yes, the surname I was given at birth was my father's. As was my brother. My brother has never been expected to change his on marriage though. It's his name. He was MasterMiller as a child then when he became an adult he was given the respected title as an adult male of MrMiller.
I on the other hand traditionally would have been MissMiller as a child but would have stayed the child version until I was a "respectable married woman and took MrsDhName"
I advocate the titles (if ever needed- which I'm not sure they are as much as we think) as...
Boy - master (which has gone out of fashion).
Man - Mr.
Girl - Miss
Woman - Ms (or some other title , I'm not attached to the letters, but a title that is recognised when I change from child to adult- not unmarried to married- Ms does that for me).
As an aside, my children also all have their father's surname. It was something I wasn't bothered about. I had my first two children quite young and although I was together with their dad we were unmarried (my choice). I felt people were more likely to think he may not be their dad, perhaps a step dad. Or just my partner and not their biological dad. I didn't have that worry for myself. I suppose I felt that I carried them, gave birth to them and felt a tie that didnt need a name. It was discussed though. And neither my ex partner or my now husband just presumed that would be the case. We talked over it together and came to a decision we were both happy with, just as we jointly chose their first names.
I understand that other couples/parents will do differently though. Double-barrelled, taking the mother's name or choosing something completely different as a whole family.
I also accept that it's everyone's choice to change their name on marriage if that's what they choose, I just don't like the presumption that women should automatically change their name and as in my case with family that I'm seen as being difficult because I choose differently.
But that's different to the issue of title. I do wish that the change of women's title comes with being an adult and not to do with marital status as does a man's. I would be lying if i didn't say I hope that just naturally becomes the norm in the same way we have naturally let go of MrsFredSmith for instance.
Having said that all, it's about respect for people's choices. If someone tells me they have changed their name to MrsWhateverTheFuckYouWant on marriage I will happily call them that. I wouldn't dream of calling them MsNameTheyWereBornWith. I would like the same respect of my choices. And that's not given to me a lot of the time.