Just heard Nikki Grahame has died

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What a week 😭tragic

This is saddening news. The poor woman.
But her and Pete with Tourettes were adults capable of consenting to appear on BB. Would it not be patronising and as if we were hiding away people with MH problems if they were not allowed to appear? I remember with Pete there being a lot of buzz about increasing visibility and normalising Tourettes.

I remember her saying that her anorexia stopped her going through puberty and made her infertile. Now it’s taken her life so sad. RIP

so sad it's obscene that her friends were having to crowd fund to get her treatment. Treatment for anorexia is so hard to access it's often gone too far before help is given.

I believe anorexia had the highest mortality rate of any mental illness? 38, it’s so sad, it’s such a devastating and depressing mental illness. Her family and friends must be in bits.

Her mum was saying in an interview last week, Nikki had been in many many different treatment centres all her life It was so sad to hear.

The photos on the Go Fund Me page were horrific. I don't understand why she wasn't sectioned? I'm not an expert on such things but I would have thought those photos would have been enough to warrant such action.

Regardless, I hope she is at peace now. And it's very sad that lockdown contributed to it

Ahh, bless her. :(

Very sad
I was a big bb fan
She was clearly very ill for a long time
RIP

Poor soul many women I know (including myself) strayed down that path or close to it when we were younger but made it out the other side. It sounds like her ED was so deeply entrenched. This past year can’t have helped, having so little distraction from the noise in your own head and being confronted with your own face on Zoom during your social interactions. Rest easy.

@ilovecarbs90

The photos on the Go Fund Me page were horrific. I don't understand why she wasn't sectioned? I'm not an expert on such things but I would have thought those photos would have been enough to warrant such action.

Regardless, I hope she is at peace now. And it's very sad that lockdown contributed to it

Sectioning someone doesn’t necessarily help with an eating disorder though because some people still wouldn’t be able to eat.

I’ve spent time in a psychiatric ward before and there was a girl there with anorexia. She would ask people to get her food, then fiddle around with it and throw it all in the bin trying to make it look like she’s eaten some. I’m sure she wasn’t fooling her psychiatrist but it’s so hard to treat.

Often, the only way to treat people with severe anorexia is tube feeding against their will which often doesn’t work because it’s only a temporary fix. Nikki had said in her autobiography that when she woke up from her induced sedation to find that she’d put weight on, she’d feel furiously angry and resolve to get even thinner.

She talks about how she pulled her feeding tubes out when they were put in, causing scarring and infections on her stomach.

God those photos on the go fund me were just so so so tragic :( wish she could've seen how beautiful she was to the world.

Very sad.
I'm sure she will be missed very much by those who knew her.

I don't think she should have been allowed on big brother due to the way the show rations food if they lose challenges or only provides them with cheaper food meaning they might not be able to eat food that they are comfortable eating.
That's a very obvious reason why someone recovering from an eating disorder shouldn't be allowed to participate in the show.

Very sad, such a troubled young woman, I hope she's at peace now

@hullabaloo68

so sad it's obscene that her friends were having to crowd fund to get her treatment. Treatment for anorexia is so hard to access it's often gone too far before help is given.

I think it's a bit more complicated than that, in her case. She had had countless courses of treatment over the year.

Some people just can't be saved

*years. Over the years.

A lot of well known people have died of anorexia, Karen Carpenter and Isabelle Caro being notable examples. It clearly is very, very difficult to treat :(

Very sad. I read her book and it is inspirational- I'd hoped she was getting the better of her anorexia 🙁

@LondonWFuck

It really fucks me off when people come into threads like this to ask who the person is. Have you not heard of Google? Have some fucking respect.

RIP Nikki

My thoughts exactly and I also completely agree with your subsequent post about the poster who couldn’t even be bothered to spell her name properly despite the fact that it is written in the thread title.

RIP Nikki. Absolutely tragic. Poor poor Nikki, and her poor family and loved ones. I just hope she is at peace now.

I felt really saddened to see this and it is such a horrible way to go for a young woman. I am not sure how the big brother producers could have ever justified her involvement in the show as such a vulnerable person.

I have a distant relative who had anorexia and it eventually killed her. She by some miracle made it to her 60s but suffered enormously for decades as she had no resilience to illness. Every time she caught a sickness bug or had an infection her family were worried it would be the thing that killed her.

I did some work experience in an eating disorder unit and it was extremely distressing for me. It was full of articulate, clever women and girls who were killing themselves. It just seemed such a waste and I often wonder if some of the individuals I spoke to ever got better.

I hadn't heard about this until I read it on here. Very sad as she was so young.

I know she'd had lots of treatment but it's very hard to access residential units that treat anorexia where I am 3 counties have to share 14 bed's so you have to be at death's door to get one. As soon as you reach a safe weight your discharged its not the units fault there's just someone behind you waiting for your bed. Then sadly adult provision is nearly non existent.

She was in residential care. Sometimes it is simply not enough.

I'm no expert but I'm sure anorexia can be so severe that it becomes impossible to stomach any food even if you want to. I didn't know she pulled out her feeding tubes though. She was incredibly sick. Poor Nikki.

I’ve read Nikkis biography several times over, and had always liked her. I think they sadly the illness had been with her for her entire life - and to be honest from what I can make out - the only real respite she had from it was a short period at the height of her fame.

I genuinely hope that her story will help at least one person. It’s incredibly sad. I actually would recommend reading her autobiography (though nit if you have an ED as I believe it’s incredibly triggering.)

Sorry I was just trying to make the point of how hard it is to access care for Anorexia obviously for some any amount of care is simply not enough. But treatment would probably be more effective if it was offered before the patient was clinging to life. I'm speaking as someone who had to leave her 14 year old in a unit not knowing if they'd be alive or dead when I returned this was after a year of begging for help.