My lumpy midriff immortalised in wedding photos

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My youngest Dsis is getting married (fingers crossed) in September this year. Eldest Dsis is abroad, and will not make it to wedding because of the travel restrictions where she lives.

She's asked me to be one of 3 bridesmaids, my eldest DD is a flower girl.
I'm happy to be, and especially as Dsis can't make it, I want to make sure I'm doing everything to make sure her wedding goes smoothly and she enjoys the day.

But good Lord. I look like a sack of potatoes in the dress. I'll also be standing next to two, slender, beautiful 20-somethings, as a 5'2" mid-30s mum of two - one of whom quite recently left my potato body!

I've lost around 40lbs, very happy with that, but any advice on what I can do to help the entirety of my lower half (where the dress clings) I'm intending to eat well and exercise until the day - recommendation on anything... apart from running... I'll try it if I really have to!

Any excellent shapewear? The kind that doesn't roll up or down, preferably neck to ankle and one where you don't wet yourself trying to go to the loo.

I'll post a pic of the dress if that helps?

Maybe you could use a safety pin to ruche up the dress on one side? If you pin it at the top of one hip the fabric will kind of drape over your tummy which can be more flattering. It’s hard to explain but I hope that makes sense!

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She is tiny. She can get away with pins.

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Yes I was coming back on here to suggest some kind of sash or belt.

OP can you post an anonymous photo on here, people might be able to offer better advice that way?

Although frankly I think it's an awful dress, even if I had size 6 bridesmaids there are better style dresses. Does she want to make you look like you've all stepped out of a lingerie catalogue photoshoot??

Jesus, you’d need to be 5’ 10 and a size 6 with Michelle Obama’s arms to look good in that. As pp said, it will show every lump and seam.

I’d rather go NC with my family than be photographed in that dress 😂

Could you tactfully sound out the other bridesmaids, who may well hate it as much as you do? That dress will be unflattering and uncomfortable on nearly everyone. You can't wear a bra if you've got breasts, toast-rack chest on display if you haven't.

Just show the bride this thread. No comment. Just the link.

@rainbowowl I just wanted to say I completely and utterly feel your pain. My sister married and I was one of four bridesmaids. Two! TWO of which were siblings- one, an actual, genuine, billion dollar Hollywood movie star, and her sister, equally gorgeous. The other bridesmaid was a very petite and beautiful woman. And me, dumpy, dumpy, me.

I wore a 'swimming costume' of shape wear, with those cycling short shape wear underneath. The dress I wore was backless which was good news for my huge tits.

You are a kind sister. Agree with all the other posters who say no one could look decent in that, bar Angeline Jolie, perhaps.

It's utterly dreadful. Unless you are tall and slim with a perfect figure it will look hideous. Surely she doesn't want her BMs to look so dreadful, and feel so self conscious?

This is what I wore!

Shapewear + a bridesmaid bouquet of flowers to cover the stomach area + a stole/wrap/pashmina to go around your back and flow down from your arms in the pics to hide any lumps and bumps. I'm sure you'll look fab and the wrap will give you a bit of coverage and confidence.

Well done for loosing so much weight that's an amazing achievement!

Have you tried it on in front of your sis? Mine would want me to feel comfortable and would understood having recently had a baby that that kind of dress is not forgiving or flattering.

Oh those dresses are evil, I'm a size 8 but all my weight is hip dip/ love handles and whenever I've tried those satin slips on it shows off EVERYTHIGN.

I'd be looking for a rib to thigh Spanx and then adding a waist cincher to keep it up without straps.

Although my sister would look fabulous 🙄

Oh and I'm 25 and pre-kids and as I said, looked like a bloody lava lamp (the insides) in those dresses

Sorry OP, that dress is hideous. Just say you're not wearing it but will be happy to do everything a bridesmaid would do on the day but you need to feel comfortable and that dress makes you feel awful about yourself

I mean; you can't even wear a bra.

Either that or change after the service

Op, you are a wonderful human.

That dress is horrendous. Im a size 10/12 and it's making me shudder!

Imagining my hips, thighs and giant breasts in that

I just think you are a lovely person for going through with it! I hope PP have given you some helpful advice as I don't have any but just wanted to wade in and say I think you're very good!

The dress is awful. Can you even wear a bra with that? Honestly OP just talk to your sister. I'm sure she wouldn't object to you searching for a slightly different style in the same colour

I'd look awful in that dress too. My dsis let me pick my own for her wedding and I'm very grateful. I'm 5'1" bmi 24 ish.

You are being unbelievably kind, your sister maybe stressed etc but really she's being very inconsiderate/unkind too!

That dress is ridiculous, to echo others, it's an unflattering style for 99% of women, I'm very petite but wouldn't look great in it thanks to my wobbly tummy!

Matching bridesmaids are a bit naff and I always think it's nicer if bridesmaids choose their own dress - I just wanted mine to feel comfortable and as gorgeous as possible!

This isn't your fault - satin bias cut dresses are ridiculously hard to wear. I'm 6-8 and I wouldn't look good in a dress like that.
I would have to wear double layer shapewear.

@absolutehush

ooh who was the movie star?

The bride is thoughtless choosing dresses like that. Ask her to change the dress.

Tbh that's a very unforgiving style unless you are about 18.. I would to suggest to buy your own dress of the same colour which is more flattering and let the other two wear it..

That dress is horriffic. It looks like a nightie.