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Worst Mother's Day gift ever :(

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Molly1989 · 14/03/2021 08:09

So after being up every hour with DS last night including being peed on at 3am, and just having had my first shower in four days, DH presents me with my Mother's Day gift. A toilet roll holder. I want to cry. He said I didn't tell him what I wanted, but I did repeatedly, and even if I hadn't, a toilet roll holder? Meh. Anyone else care to join me in solidarity?

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EmbarrassingAdmissions · 14/03/2021 12:11

@VanillaIce

I got three Toblerones, grabbed in a service station, one from each of my children.

I don’t much like Toblerone. DH does Hmm

He’s a good man, but Mother’s Day just doesn’t seem to mean anything to him 🤷‍♀️

How odd that a day that is centred on him doesn't mean anything to him.

And that he seized the opportunity to ensure a generous supply of confectionery that he likes but about which you're not fussed.

It's true that we could all use a few tweaks to our behaviour as we become purblind to ourselves. I hope you enjoy the meal, walk etc. that's he helped the children to plan.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 14/03/2021 12:16

@Wingingit15

Single parent here. Get nothing and no recognition !

Happy Mother's Day! Thanks

4cats2kids · 14/03/2021 12:17

You need to buy him some of that really rough tracing paper type 1980s bog roll as his next present.

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Wingingit15 · 14/03/2021 12:22

@MrJollyLivesNextDoor
Thank you. It’s not a great day x

Silverandgoldsparkles · 14/03/2021 12:24

A text from my dd 'Happy mothers day'.

Phoenixdays · 14/03/2021 12:24

Please work on your self esteem op. As a child brought up with a mum like you , I was nothing but angry and still am. Poor behaviour allowed continually and still is by my mum. Change it or leave. Do it for your children if you can’t for yourself

ThePluckOfTheCoward · 14/03/2021 12:30

@VanillaIce

I got three Toblerones, grabbed in a service station, one from each of my children.

I don’t much like Toblerone. DH does Hmm

He’s a good man, but Mother’s Day just doesn’t seem to mean anything to him 🤷‍♀️

If that was me I'd hide away those three Toblerones until Father's Day and then hand them over to the DC to give to their DF. Job done😉
earthyfire · 14/03/2021 12:34

No one in my house has aknowledged Mother's day to me yet. It's 12.30. My husband once bought me a bathroom bin for secret santa present and gave it to me in front of his family. To this day he still doesn't see what the issue with that was.

Nanny0gg · 14/03/2021 12:35

@Molly1989

I'm not really bothered about the lack of material gift, it's more the fact that he asked me what I want and I said initially not to worry and just to get me a bunch of flowers (to which he responded "where am I supposed to get flowers from?" Hmm) but he insisted I let him know what I'd like. What's even stranger is that he ordered the toilet roll holder using Amazon Prime, so it's not as if he stumbled across it in a shop. We have needed one for a while, but I just feel hurt that he considered it an acceptable Mother's Day present.

And yes, I'm aware I've been an enabler and need to work on my self esteem and respect, and eventually find the courage to leave.

Start by not cooking him breakfast.

Or lunch.

Or dinner

wintertime6 · 14/03/2021 12:36

[quote CuteBear]@wintertime6 sorry, read that wrong. You didn’t have flowers, but did you get a card? I think lunch is a nice idea, especially if he’s making you your favourite meal.[/quote]
No I didn't get any flowers, but yes I did get a card which was lovely. He's definitely not making my favourite meal, just some sandwiches, nothing special. So my present is the fact that I don't need to make lunch, yes maybe I'm being a bit ungrateful but it definitely doesn't make me feel very special.

SpeakingFranglais · 14/03/2021 12:36

@GoryGilmore

Get him a toilet brush for Father’s Day, complete the set.
Brilliant! Perfect 🤩
museumsandgalleries666 · 14/03/2021 12:46

Give him toilet rolls for fathers day to complete the set.

DavidsSchitt · 14/03/2021 12:48

"Brilliant! Perfect 🤩"

No, it's neither brilliant nor perfect. That's just a mutual disrespect and is completely ignoring the real issue.

The OP hasn't said why exactly she hasn't just gone and had a shower in 4 days but playing stupid games won't improve the situation.

@Wingingit15 how old are your kids? In my experience as soon as they hit nursery they start with the cards and little homemade gifts

Mrsmadevans · 14/03/2021 12:50

@sandgrown

My friend's son bought her a tin of processed peas ! He was only about 8 at the time and used his own money Grin
That is adorable Smile
EnoughnowIthink · 14/03/2021 12:50

I got nothing and they are with their dad. No one has even phoned. I suspect I will be sending them to live with them after this. Had enough of being taken for granted. Once I can get on a plane, I shall be looking for work abroad. 14 fucking long years I have done this all by myself, no support from the ex other than them going to see him every other weekend. They have wanted for nothing and this is the best they can do. Shite.

Mrsmadevans · 14/03/2021 12:51

@4cats2kids

You need to buy him some of that really rough tracing paper type 1980s bog roll as his next present.
IZAL Grin
hiccupgate · 14/03/2021 12:54

I once got given baking trays ("because we need new ones") and metal straws (never something I've expressed an interest in) for my birthday. Today is not going much better. See also the year that my dad bought my mum a thermometer and measuring spoons for Christmas.

DenisetheMenace · 14/03/2021 12:54

Mrsmadevans

sandgrown
My friend's son bought her a tin of processed peas ! He was only about 8 at the time and used his own money grin

That is adorable smile”

Isn’t it Smile

One of mine once bought me an old fashioned lemon squeezer in a charity shop, with their pennies. She had no idea what it was but thought it was just about the prettiest, sparkly thing she’d ever seen.

Mrsmadevans · 14/03/2021 12:54

The toilet holder is a really shitty thing to buy you OP . l am so sorry, he really needs a good talking to Flowers

Kiwiblue02 · 14/03/2021 12:55

I feel for you and reading what he has done makes my blood boil :(
You need to work on your self esteem. He's disgusting and you're allowing it. I'm v concerned you're not showering and cooking for everyone on what should be YOUR day. What are you scared of?
I hope you find strength within and realise soon you deserve so much better.

Mrsmadevans · 14/03/2021 12:56

@DenisetheMenace

Mrsmadevans

sandgrown
My friend's son bought her a tin of processed peas ! He was only about 8 at the time and used his own money grin

That is adorable smile”

Isn’t it Smile

One of mine once bought me an old fashioned lemon squeezer in a charity shop, with their pennies. She had no idea what it was but thought it was just about the prettiest, sparkly thing she’d ever seen.

That is so lovely a memory for you to cherish , it's priceless Smile
DenisetheMenace · 14/03/2021 12:56

hiccupgate

I once got given baking trays ("because we need new ones") and metal straws (never something I've expressed an interest in) for my birthday. Today is not going much better. See also the year that my dad bought my mum a thermometer and measuring spoons for Christmas.“

This thread is telling me I might be a bit odd - I love measuring spoons! Would be thrilled.

eddiemairswife · 14/03/2021 12:59

A lot of competitive hard-done-by-ness going on here. We were very hard up and I was pregnant with our second on my first Mothers' Day. My husband bought me a rolling-pin, as I had been using a milk bottle to roll out pastry. I was delighted, and it is still in use over 50 years later.

EmbarrassingMama · 14/03/2021 13:01

That’s shite OP, I’m sorry. I’d have thrown it out the window.

I can commiserate, I have a toddler and am pregnant and exhausted. I was granted a lie in, which I appreciate, but no card, flowers or breaksfast whcih I find a bit upsetting.

willibald · 14/03/2021 13:02

@EnoughnowIthink

I got nothing and they are with their dad. No one has even phoned. I suspect I will be sending them to live with them after this. Had enough of being taken for granted. Once I can get on a plane, I shall be looking for work abroad. 14 fucking long years I have done this all by myself, no support from the ex other than them going to see him every other weekend. They have wanted for nothing and this is the best they can do. Shite.
Do it! Honestly, you've done your bit. Take back your own life and then you won't be disappointed.
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