Just got my maintenance award for the year WHOOP WHOOP

[ThatWomanInTheDress]

£3.36 a week

No doubt like all of you I’ve daydreamed about what I would do if I hit the jackpot. But this type of money is mind blowing.

Can’t decide what I’m going to buy DD first. So excited!!

@CleanQueen123 that made me chuckle 😂. Haha. How very dare you he's probably thinking "I've just funded your dry bread and water.. Be grateful!"

It's absolutely disgraceful. I'm glad you see humour, OP, women generally have so much more grace and character.

I think the maintenance system needs to be scrapped and started again - with the non-resident parent being forced to pay proper money, regardless of their situation. If it took all of their benefits, well, too bad. Children need to be housed, kept warm and have food to eat.

It's just as well that I'm not in charge because these £3 a week men wouldn't be fathering any more children. Ever.

@Pebbledashery he's very much of the value nuggets and beans school of thought when it comes to feeding himself children.

Spending money on ingredients that need any form of proper cooking would be unthinkable. And as for using any of that money to feed myself...

And there was me feeling all sad about receiving a whole £7 a week!

I’m sorry @OP, that’s unbelievably shit

@CleanQueen123 least your daughter can be grateful for driving lessons in 60 years time 😂. Honestly, these men are just disgraceful. They really are. Don't deserve to be called dad. What makes me laugh is it my ex was the resident parent and I had as little contact with my daughter as he currently has.. He'd be STRAIGHT onto CMS demanding I pay!!

That's so true. Men wouldn't hesitate to go straight for whatever they felt they had a right to. And would be very vocal if it wasn't forthcoming.

I don't believe the non-resident parent should have to live in a shoe box and give every spare penny they have, but the amounts shown on this thread are depressing and pathetic.

It's nice they will take 3.36 a week off a man on benefits saying that's all he can afford and a single mum on benefits they will take 100 a month off for old overpayments of tax credits saying 'you can afford it'

I don't get the argument that an RP isn't allowed to rely on benefits to provide for their child if the NRP isn't either. Surely the glaringly obvious difference is that the RP has the kids. Has to work around them, be off if they are sick or have an Inset day, deal with school holidays, and lately, home schooling. I had my working day totally fucked up today by an ill child. My ex, who does the same job as me, has not once, in the last five years, had to have a day off due to his kids. He can work more hours, early or late. He can seek promotion not worrying about how he is going to juggle everything because he chooses to only have them eow. Quite frankly, I would bloody love sometimes to come home to an empty house, decide what I want to watch / eat / if I want to go out, not argue about homework, screens, food, bedtimes, uniform, kit, music practise etc. So if an RP can't find suitable work and needs benefits, whilst doing all that, it's not really the same as an NRP who has total freedom to come and go and work (or not) as they please, is it.

@Welikebeingcosy

It's nice they will take 3.36 a week off a man on benefits saying that's all he can afford and a single mum on benefits they will take 100 a month off for old overpayments of tax credits saying 'you can afford it'

So much this! I lose nearly £100 per month because of an overpayment of HB (which incidentally was the councils fault but I still have to pay it back) Yet my ex has a nil assessment for CM because he "can't afford it" Its a fucking joke. Or it would be if it was actually funny.

It really is a joke.
I am owed over £18000. He has had 3 more kids with random young girls AND runs his own business in other peoples names (changes name of place and ceo each year to avoid tax etc) while claiming uc now, who have started giving me £29 a month for 4 children. He has got away with everything while I work my arse off to provide for my children. So bloody infuriating. Imagine if we owed inland revenue ! Different story i am sure.
Also I couldn't sleep knowing my children weren't provided for.