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Borrowing uniform from school tomorrow

160 replies

BrighleyS · 07/03/2021 17:56

Hi
I'm new and just joined really just to ask advice/Query

Is anyone else having to make their kids borrow uniform from school for the first few days till we can get new stuff.

I realise it was totally irresponsible not to check before tonight. Like ridiculous really!

Anyway, My daughters Skirt, tights etc won't be ready in time etc, Am I unresonable to make her loan spare ones from the school, just for Tomorrow.

Anyone else doing this? If so What are you having to borrow.

I want to prove to her she won't be the only one!

OP posts:
Bimblybomeyelash · 07/03/2021 19:19

If the school has said it’s OK, then it is OK. But she won’t be one of many. Borrowing uniform is the kind of thing that a secondary schoolgirl HATES. So if she feels angry and embarrassed about it then you just have to accept it and not just tell her to be ok with it. Can you drop her off at school early, to give her time to go and sort it out before the others arrive?

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 07/03/2021 19:21

The secondary school I worked in had spares (usually given to children who chose to come in not in uniform). They tended to be very traditional styles of skirts however and every child I took there to get a spare was mortified by it. Most would call their parents and ask them to quickly pop something in rather than wear the spares.

Will the skirts definitely be the same style as she already wears?

user1493494961 · 07/03/2021 19:23

Just let the hem down, you only need a pair of scissors to unpick it.

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SmileyClare · 07/03/2021 19:23

Anyone can perform an emergency repair with a needle and thread.

It'll be embarrassing for your dd to borrow from lost property, particularly on her first day back. Secondary school is tough for children, and things like this single your daughter out as different from her peers. Sad

I would have no idea if my dc's school had spare uniform. I've never asked.

It's done now but don't make this your regular solution to uniform issues.

Sandgrown1970 · 07/03/2021 19:27

It’s great for you and your daughter that the school have agreed to loan items of uniform to you.

However, your question was about proving to your daughter she won’t be the only one.

I’d be surprised if she wasn’t the only one. I don’t think most parents (and teenage girls) will have left it to the very last minute to check. I think most parents and teenagers would find borrowing from another parent less embarrassing. It’s also not up to school to provide this sort of service. It’s only for unavoidable emergencies. This was avoidable. If you weren’t going to check uniform, your daughter should have made sure she was prepared. She will definitely be in a minority if not the only one in this situation.

KettleWentBang · 07/03/2021 19:28

No way could I make my kid wear schools loan clothes.
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LemonadeBudget · 07/03/2021 19:30

Ah. Just seen she's at secondary, not a wee un.

Ouch.

WhiskyIrnBru · 07/03/2021 19:31

@Rillington

I am shielding and have used Amazon/Online ordering. No excuse for your child to have to borrow uniform.
Judgemental much?!
WhiskyIrnBru · 07/03/2021 19:34

For the record our school has a uniform rail where people are welcome to pick up stuff at no cost. We also donate. It's good for the environment and also good for helping parents out.

Lot of snobby comments on this post.

Justgorgeous · 07/03/2021 19:36

It’s really not fair on your daughter you haven’t sorted this. I would think she’s feeling a little apprehensive about going back as it is.

WhiskyIrnBru · 07/03/2021 19:37

@Magnificentmug12

Just seen she is in secondary school! Ouch, that’s very embarrassing and I don’t think you would be able to convince her she won’t be the only one because she probably will.

Borrowing from the school makes you look poor (even if you are rich) and kids can be so so cruel.

You should have done better. I would give her the day of sick if it was me and get her the uniform because you should not make her pay in embarrassment for your failure.

Are you for real?!

"Pay in embarrassment for your failure"

Beyond nasty.

Siepie · 07/03/2021 19:40

I did once fall in a very muddy field on my way to secondary school. I was lent very unflattering jogging bottoms from PE lost property, but if your DD's school has confirmed they have plenty of spare skirts, that won't be an issue.

I don't think secondaries are generally set up for lending out clothes in the same way that primaries are. Your DD might be the only one, but if she can go to the office or wherever first thing, the other students don't need to know.

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/03/2021 19:40

I would try and sort the skirt for your dd if possible, not because I’m a snob. But because it will save her the embarrassment.

Can you mend the damaged one or her wear the short one? If the short one is too tight, perhaps could she wear it and then nip in before first bell and change for a bigger one? At my dd’s school, the girls seem to wear the same size skirt from the start to the end of secondary and they get shorter every year....

NerrSnerr · 07/03/2021 19:43

@WhiskyIrnBru

For the record our school has a uniform rail where people are welcome to pick up stuff at no cost. We also donate. It's good for the environment and also good for helping parents out.

Lot of snobby comments on this post.

Both my children wear second hand uniform every single day. It is still very true that some secondary children are cruel and may pick on a child for wearing lost property clothes.
sijjy · 07/03/2021 19:49

I think it's fine op. You obviously have your reasons and school have said it's fine. Don't really see a problem with that. This has reminded me that I haven't checked my boys shoes still fit. 🤞🏼 they do. Also it's not that easy to get things at the minute. I've had to order my 14yr old ds mens joggers for pe. Nowhere had any in his size. As school sent a email Friday evening informing me all pe would be outside now because of covid testing.

Howdoin · 07/03/2021 19:49

I want to prove to her she won't be the only one!

Pretty sure she will be the only one going into school and getting changed into borrowed uniform tbh. I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t just send her in something else for a couple of days with a note explaining why.

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 07/03/2021 19:50

I want to prove to her she won't be the only one!

How's that going, OP?

CompleteBarstool · 07/03/2021 19:58

I'm not getting the snobby, holier than thou attitudes on this thread.

The OP admits she's in the wrong for not checking sooner but even if she had checked sooner then there's no guarantee shops would have the right size or colour that she needed in stock.

A child is more likely to stand out for wearing non-uniform items than second hand/supplied by the school items (after all, how would the other pupils know it's borrowed?)

Also FWIW I work in a boarding school and had to find a uniform skirt in the "spares" box on Friday ready for a returning pupil who has grown out of her old one.

JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority · 07/03/2021 19:59

I just can't believe that people are waiting until the night before to check school stuff is ready.

I am so disorganised but between my teen son and i , we have made sure everything is clean, pressed and ready.
My son was keen to get his stuff sorted because he doesn't want to look like a twat quite frankly!

I can't believe that you're not just going to getvthe needle and thread out and repair the skirt....or get dd to do it herself!

PointlessUsername · 07/03/2021 20:03

Judgemental much?

Nobody knows OP's circumstances maybe low on funds at the moment.

Sure asking the school for a lend of a skirt isnt an everyday thing.

twelveblackboots · 07/03/2021 20:03

@BrighleyS

I love how people are so nasty and basically saying i'm evil.
😂
JackieweaverhasALLtheauthority · 07/03/2021 20:06

@PointlessUsername

How much does it cost to get a needle and thread and sew the skirt?

Tangohead · 07/03/2021 20:09

Let her wear a short skirt and tights, not the end of the world. Girls usually hike skirts up anyway. Do not send her in her own clothes and borrow from school that’s too tragic. They probably don’t even have any spares.

M0mmyneedswine · 07/03/2021 20:19

I have never heard of school lending uniform, ours had to wear their pe kit if they had to change

whatsleep · 07/03/2021 20:21

Our local high school have set up a swop shop on Facebook fir people to sell or donate uniform to others. might be worth looking to see if there’s something local to you. Not for tomorrow obviously, but if you struggle to get hold of uniform, due to lack of stock, it might help. Could you pop to school early and pick the uniform up for her so she can arrive at school in uniform? I guess this depends on how close you are and if you have time.