Nobody really knows what people in the public eye are like. However, in a hypothetical world, if Meghan and Harry were to say: " We were paid 117 million dollars by Netflix, and tomorrow we are going to give 100 million dollars of it to homeless charities. We will live on the rest.", I would applaud them for that action and feel positive about them for ever more.
I almost feel that anyone with privilege and masses of wealth can only really make a positive impression by giving it away. Otherwise we wonder why they haven't done so. The luxury and advantage seems to put the super special beyond everyday understanding. To me, their world is similar to the complexity of the stock market. Investers manipulate the invisible commodities that are risks and projections. They bet on shares tumbling, and create false scenarios. Celebrities gamble with amorphous commodities such as popularity and backlash: they create a false atmosphere of excitement in order to get more money. Increasingly today, influencers use weakness, vulnerability , guilt and failure as much as talent and success to ratchet up their own visibility and commercial value. So hardly any publicity is bad for them. That isn't ethically good for them, I don't think, and I can't take any of it seriously.
But saying the Royal Family are as bad or worse, whether true or not, doesn't make me think, that's ok then, go and spend another half a million dollars on a baby shower. You can only really express who you want to be by being good, not by changing perceptions of who is most right in your family and persuading a mass of strangers to agree with you.
I just turn off the whole thing. Oprah's expensive jet is just mind-boggling to me. 'Sell it!' . I want to say. Get close to humanity by physically raising up human beings directly with your money. Probing and peering into lives of embarrassment and regret in order to uncover the naked truth of the human condition isn't good.
But I think the RF should have given Harry the option of a life away from being a working royal much earlier, so that he could have built his own life around one of his passions, such as conservation, and created a nest which would be more pleasant for any future wife. He is worried about Meghan and she is worried about him, and isn't a positive situation.