Things you do that your Mother doesn't approve of/thinks are unladylike

[noirchatsdeux]

Lighthearted!

My mother thinks it's terrible that I drink beer. Ladies don't drink beer. I'm 52 and she still pouts when she knows I've had some!

Any other unladylike ladies on here?

So many that have already been mentioned above but particularly swearing or wearing nightwear past 7am
Also I should brush my hair and reapply apply lipstick in anticipation of dh arriving home

Ladies should never use water on their face.
A full beauty regime should be followed each night before bed- cleanse, tone, moisturise, eye cream, night cream and each morning only not night cream!
A lady should be fully made up before leaving the house.
A lady should never leave the house without her girdle, (or if she’s feeling modern my mother occasionally refers to it as her roll on). (Control pants).
A full petticoat should be worn with dresses and even with lined skirts or a lady is not properly dressed.

My mother at over ninety does all of the above.
I don’t!
She finds it shocking and thinks I have
Let Myself Go!

Nothing, because she's as un ladylike as me haha

You've all reminded me of more!

Not actually having owned a skirt since about 1999
Wearing black all the time (I have a psychological condition that means I can't wear colours. That's just an excuse, apparently...)
Not wanting to live with my partner of 11 years
Being divorced (twice)
No children
Eating in the street
Travelling abroad on my own...I do for my work (not for the last year, obvs) and go to some rather dodgy countries. I've not told my mother about 99% of my travels since 2000 (she lives on the other side of the world so unlikely to find out)

Drinking wine straight from the bottle, drives her nuts.

@SoundWithoutAName

Drinking wine straight from the bottle, drives her nuts.

Saves on washing up!

Going out in the kids with mates.

I thought she was gonna disown me when I turned 18 and went on a Club 18-30 holiday. Women getting drunk is vulgar.

Meanwhile my brothers would come in high off LSD and Ketamine as teenagers and whilst she didn't overlook it it was very much "oh boys will be boys"

I tore her a new one when she told my DD (5 at the time) not to sit on the sofa with her legs wide apart as it was "unladylike". Well done mum, shaming a 5yo

Does anyone else's mum think "knackered" is a swear word?

*on the piss not in the kids 🤦🏼‍♀️

My mum's absolute no 1 hate is pregnant women who don't cover up. I've been in 32 degree heat with her and she loudly exclaimed how "unattractive" a woman with a HUGE (and gorgeous) bump wearing only a vest top and hot pants was. FFS what is she supposed to wear?! The irony is, my mum's belly is twice the size of the pregnant woman's and she had something very similar on that day.

she was horrified that I bought maternity leggings and Jeans, pregnant women should wears only muumuu dresses and preferably not disgrace themselves by appearing in public past the 4 months mark. She's VERY uptight about sex and I think she sees it as a display of evidence of sex, or something.

Swearing is totally unacceptable. Yes to a pp, 'knackered' counts as swearing. One does not use the word 'fart'. Ever.

Breastfeeding is utterly disgusting and if you insist on it must be done in private. She told me she'd prefer it if I didn't do it in front of her. I told her it was my house and I'd feed my baby wherever I chose. So there.

Pierced ears, even the lobes, are 'common'. As is drinking pints. Luckily she has never seen me drink a pint.

•Tattoos.
•Calling my daughter a name she didn't like.
•Swearing.
•Not making my own jam.
•having 3 cats.
•Not pruning my buddlea at the correct time of year.
•having more than one pot of moisturiser and one mascara. Can't possibly use both!!
•having more than one towel in the bathroom (her and my was share one ....eewwww).
•the list is endless, my mother loves and also lives to moan and pass judgement.

My mother has a major issues with me having my ears pierced and that I have a tattoo. I've been quite firm with her now, I know she doesn't approve, I don't flaunt them in front of her but I also do not need or desire constant reminders that she disapproves.

I’m really surprised at the number of mothers objecting to breastfeeding. What possible objection could they have?

I lost my mum some years ago. I don’t think there was much about sister and l that she disaproved of. She was a naturist and a feminist.

My friends thought mum was cool. I miss my mum.

@Bunnybigears

I have tattoos my mother is appalled although she would be appalled if I was a man as well so technically its not that its not ladylike she just thinks they are common

Yup me too.

@user143677433

Excelling in my profession.

Her greatest wish for me was that I might be a PA to someone important. Instead I am the “someone important”. It’s deeply disappointing and distressing to her. She lies to friends and family to downplay my job

This is hilarious! How could you let her down like that?!

Working after marriage.

@GoLightlyontheEarth

I’m really surprised at the number of mothers objecting to breastfeeding. What possible objection could they have?

I think for my mum at least, breastfeeding was not encouraged at all for her, so when she sees her daughters doing it she almost feels left out. It also requires a more child-centred way of doing things (for best results you breastfeed on demand, especially when the babies are very little) which is at odds with the routine-focussed way that she was taught. Nobody wants to think that they've done something wrong.

Plus there are some very misogynistic attitudes around about "flaunting" your boobs or "it's really for the mother, not the baby" or "attention-seeking" or "common" that she probably internalised in a more sexist era when she was raising babies.

When nearing the end of a 15 hour bus journey and wanting to look presentable don't whatever you do brush your hair because it is the 'height of bad manners'

@nestlestealswater exactly!

This thread is interesting, so many that could be my actual mum

Oooooooh where to start

My weight she's obsessed with it too fat/too thin, not a day will go past without her commenting 'your too thin' 'have you been over eating' 'I wouldn't eat those if I were you' 'your not eating enough' It's bloody endless.
Drinking, especially if it's beer. She sucks in the air when I drink beer 😂
If my dd isn't in a fancy dress with her hair done like a princess. God forbid her wanting to wear comfy trousers and get messy.
The fact that I want to do most things in my life different to how she did it. She absolutely hates that I make my own decisions and have my own way for doing things. She's a bloody control freak.

Why do some of your mums not like breastfeeding? That has baffled me??

Eating baked beans. They are common apparently

Oh yes when I was pregnant. At the beginning, oh you look rather small, your bump is too small is there something wrong, you can't be eating enough. A couple of months later. Oh dear you need to watch your weight your getting really big. Are they weighing you? It's going to be difficult to get that weight off.
Fast forward to now, lost the baby weight over the course of a year. Oh you are too thin 😩😤
Drives me nuts

@cateycloggs haha yes she did grow up in the 70s! In Birmingham. She hates any chunky or platforms shoe!