Things you do that your Mother doesn't approve of/thinks are unladylike

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Lighthearted!

My mother thinks it's terrible that I drink beer. Ladies don't drink beer. I'm 52 and she still pouts when she knows I've had some!

Any other unladylike ladies on here?

Swearing. 🤣

@Wearywithteens

My mother called me ‘shameful’ when I casually mentioned that my DH does all the washing including my underwear...

Mine calls me spoiled for the same reason

My mother has an issue with my hair, my weight, my qualifications, my job, my kids, my not being religious, my options, my clothes, my decisions, my exdh, my subsequent divorce from said exdh, my house, my decor, my garden, my spending habits, my enjoying anything, my holiday destinations, my choice of dentist, gp and butchers. I'm such a disappointment to her that I took a leaf out of my siblings book and went no contact. Now she can be disappointed in whatever she likes as none of her offspring are in contact to hear it anymore. Result! 🎉

Too fat (so “let myself go”) and, like a PP, failed to wear kaftans. This was compounded by my failure to do any housework.

Also was very disappointing for marrying a non-rich man and then shock horror having to return to work when I had babies (might have been nice if she had helped out financially rather than judging, as she was certainly rich enough!). Catchphrase when I was a child: “Why can’t you be more like [insert whoever she had decided was thinner/more popular/worked harder that week]?”

Getting a child to pull a finger in order to allow you to fart.

Burping the alphabet.

Not always having an immaculate home and garden...what will people think! 🙄 I don't actually care.
Any kind of mess
Children making noise...and noise in general ( she lives in the middle of nowhere and we live in a major city) very common!

My mother doesn't like women to wear trousers. I always wear trousers except in the Summer.

When I was a teenager (in the late nineties/early noughties) my mother used to get terribly cross with me for smoking walking down the street. She used to tell me it was 'common'.

To be fair she was right, it is a foul thing to do (I haven't smoked for years now).

She is also doesn't approve of having children out of wedlock and always said she'd be very upset if I did. Well I did and she wasn't upset she was delighted to be a grandmother regardless - both times!

My DM hates the fact that I don’t iron, am not obsessed with housework, am not constantly redecorating every 5 minutes and that I have a potty mouth. Oh, and also the fact that I’ve never had children and don’t want any! I think that in general, I am just a massive disappointment to her

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

Getting a child to pull a finger in order to allow you to fart.

Burping the alphabet.

You see, that just made me laugh. I am apparently very common :o

Eating, weirdly. Especially meat. And since she's got older, her appetite has got smaller, so if I go over for food she's aghast at the 'sheer volume' of food I eat. I'm 5ft7, very athletic and active and under 9st!!! Yet this doesn't extend to my kids who she LOVES feeding. Buys 3 punnets of raspberries ('they like to have one each Bones!').

I thought my mother was awful but apparently there are many others out there just as bad.

Me not deferring to a man before making a big decision
Me talking instead of ‘listening’ to the man present
Me working in a pub as a student . She thought it was totally unseemly.
I’ve brought my daughter up to ‘sleep around’ according to her.
She keeps buying me matronly clothes with brooches and ‘lovely dresses’. An obvious hint that she disapproves of my dress dense.
She was convinced I was a drug addict and kept checking my arms for track marks whenI was young. God knows why
I would never swear in front of her. She’d drop dead on the spot.

Wasting money. We waste a lot of money. She is a total miser.

Putting anything in your mouth in the street. She wasn't keen on breastfeeding either especially where someone could see it.

@justasking111

Putting anything in your mouth in the street. She wasn't keen on breastfeeding either especially where someone could see it.

Well she might have a point.... if its a penis or a lamp post fair enough....if its a mars bar, not so much!

I'm about a stone overweight. My mum thinks it's disgusting. My morbidly obese husband is apparently fine though.

As Peter Griffin so eloquently put it "only fat women are fat".

Yes also to not ironing everything , and eating too much/ being over weight

Mine has relaxed a lot in older age, but I'm still not thin ('slim') or attractive enough. Thank f she doesn't know how much I drank and shagged in my 20s!

My MIL told me I had to have flowers on the table at our wedding because otherwise what would people think. We had bowls with floating candles and it looked amazing. And the only people there shallow enough to think less of me because of the lack of flowers was her and FIL.

Loads -
Breastfeeding
Not making my own curtains
Not sewing socks
Having lights on when it's not quite dark

You want like a list?!

Not so much "unladylike" as "age inappropriate" according to my mum - having my hair long now I'm past the age of 40! I'm 50 next year and I'm not cutting it!

She doesn't like that I'm happily single

Wearing trainers

Not shaving my legs (or anywhere else)

Not ironing (I don't even own an iron since dd left school, mum thinks this makes me a complete slattern)

She couldn't understand my breastfeeding past 6 weeks, apparently that's plenty

Swearing isn't an issue, she's Glaswegian she can turn the air blue faster than a sailor! made for some...interesting incidents when the grandkids were learning to talk

Tattoos and piercings aren't an issue either as she has a few herself.

My mum doesn't know about any of the fwb or Ons or flings I've had since splitting from ex, she thinks I've been celibate for 19 years!! ooh if she only knew! She'd be horrified!

Going to nightclubs - 'you'll never meet a decent husband there - why don't you join the Young Conservatives?' !!!!!!!!

She may have a bit of a point, met my ex at a club. Met my previous ex via an activist group aka protestors event! Fuck knows what your mum would make of that, I know mine wasn't impressed! With either scenario!

But she hates me being single even more, her suggestions for "nice" places to meet men have included:

Doing am dram
Getting a nice little part time retail job (I had a full time well paid admin role related to my degree at the time)
Join a rambling group (I have no interest in rambling)
Ballroom dancing!

Regarding my leaving ex for infidelity (didn't tell her straight away for obvious reasons I think)

"But are you sure he cheated? He might only have been...tempted?"

"Yes I'm sure the baby that's due in a few months is final proof"

"But it might not be his" 🙄

Gimme strength!

Nothing, my mum thinks I'm fabulous!

My MIL told me I had to have flowers on the table at our wedding because otherwise what would people think.

Mine went one step further and bought a load of flowers from Aldi on the morning of the wedding, and put them on the tables. I had asked her not to do this.

Some people are unbelievable.

Your OP reminded me of my DM and Dsis. Sister loves beer but my mum thinks it's unladylike. Anytime we were out mum would make her order a half instead of a pint so it looked more feminine

I could write a book of these but the most horrifying thing of all was when pregnant I choose to wear figure hugging clothes (I am slim and look good with a bump).
Apparently I should have worn “flowing dresses” as seen on lady di in 1982