What's the best advice you have ever received?

[NoEffingWay]

Mine was from someone who when they found out I had left my ex-h who said that there would be many who would judge me, but that they weren't living my life, and that being in a relationship which made me unhappy and depressed was not worth staying for.
Until that point, all I had heard from people was that I should think about trying harder to stay, and to think about what material goods I would lose (house and car).
Listening to them gave me the strength I needed to remember what was important, and that my feelings were worth more than bricks and mortar.

It’s ok to not be okay.

Never be financially dependent on a man.

Worrying about something won't help the situation.

I do get intrusive thoughts of worry sometimes, but I just repeat to myself 'Worry won't help' until they go away!

@BluePeterVag

Never take criticism from someone you wouldn’t ask for advice.

These are words to live by!

You are what your actions are - ie we are not our past.

And my first boyfriend at uni regularly came out with these classics, which I think are great:

Suck the marrow out of life
Roll with the punches
Carpe diem

This is a great thread idea OP!

@YetAnotherSpartacus

Never be financially dependent on a man.

This is absolutely what my mother advised me. And extremely valuable advice it is, too!

That scary things we have to face will be over in a few hours, a day etc. and we’ll look back and they’ll be done.

Accept things you can’t change.

This too shall pass.

When you need to communicate something important to someone - work out first what you are trying to achieve / what you want the result to be and then think about the best way to achieve this. Ie if you want someone to change their behaviour, humiliating them by telling them this in front of others is a unlikely to do the trick. A less informal quite word when both people are calm would have more success

Some great posts here. Three I particularly needed to hear:

How you spend your days is how you spend your life

Be careful what you focus on because what you focus on grows

Never stop trying new things

It's safer to reverse into a parking space and drive out than the other way around.

Every problem has a solution.

Get out of this country.

It’s advice I’m passing on to my kids, with extra emphasis, although Brexit doesn’t help matters.

Good advice from Mark Twain on the pointlessness of worrying,

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, most of which never happened”.

I only heard this one last week but it's already been incredibly useful - Done is better than perfect. I've been a perfectionist all my life and it's stopped me doing so many things. This week I just cracked on and did them. And they were better than if I'd stressed about making them perfect because I was more relaxed.

@TheresHope

Always pee immediately after sex.

BEST advice ever!! Game changer!!

From my Grandma (a very wise woman): Never rely on a man. Be independent, have a career, earn your own money and buy your own house. Be happy and secure enough never to have to rely on a man.

Everything written in the poem Desiderata, especially 'You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.' And 'And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.'

@Laila747

I go over this in my head countless times some days.... It’s so very, very true.

So true, the quote doesn't repeat itself but yes. This takes the pain out of how my mother feels so entitled to treat me badly. Some of it.

It won’t always be like this .. great advice to say on repeat, when I’ve been facing difficult health issues.
I also like Life is tough but YOU are tougher, got me through some challenging times.

It’s ok to take a step back from someone you love for the sake of your own mental health!

You can’t fix someone who isn’t willing to try.

My Dad to (very impatient at times) me - Rome wasn't built in a day.

The best way out is through

• it helps with procrastination.

When I started my first proper job: Always take the emotion out of it.

Thanks to this, I have a reputation of always dealing with things calmly, fairly and rationally.

Don’t count on anything until it is in your pocket.
Don’t ever discuss what you earn with other people.

Don't sweat the small stuff.