What's the best advice you have ever received?

[NoEffingWay]

Mine was from someone who when they found out I had left my ex-h who said that there would be many who would judge me, but that they weren't living my life, and that being in a relationship which made me unhappy and depressed was not worth staying for.
Until that point, all I had heard from people was that I should think about trying harder to stay, and to think about what material goods I would lose (house and car).
Listening to them gave me the strength I needed to remember what was important, and that my feelings were worth more than bricks and mortar.

@BreakfastOfWaffles

The perfect is the enemy of the good.

From an old boss of mine who always favoured a "good something" over a "perfect nothing". So true.

This is actually a quote from Voltaire.

'Be brave enough to be bad at something new'

'You don't ask you don't get!'

'You will never regret being silent, but often regret saying too much'

Treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.

An old college teacher once told me ; if you come across a hard section of the exam, read the question, then go back and do all the easy ones first. Your subconscious will spend time in the background thinking about it and more than likely you’ll gain confidence and be able to answer it when you get to it again. If you run out of time you’ve not wasted time on a hard question and not answered what you could have.

Play to your strengths, not your weaknesses.

I echo the previous poster who said about taking time to think things through when angry.

An ex did something very hurtful to me and I am so so grateful that I took the silent route as opposed to lashing out in retaliation. In the end, he looks like an absolute joke to the people he was slandering me to, all because I didn’t react or antagonise him in any way. I made it clear to people that I’ve wasnt going to discuss our relationship in detail but that he was very much a dangerous individual and that’s all I said on the matter. All the while he’s going round badmouthing me to good friends because I left him and him shagging everything he can get his hands on. Silence sometimes speaks volumes

Don’t sweat the small stuff

Pick your battles (especially with teenage children! 🤦🏼‍♀️)

Life’s a marathon not a sprint

Be aware of tiny triumphs

Trust your gut 💪🏻

To follow on my previous post, I was advised that no matter how I felt about him still, how much I missed him, when people show you who they are, believe them. When I left him I blocked him and cut him out of my life. He tried to get to me through others saying he was going to kill himself and he didn’t know what he’d done. A friend told me to not respond, they want attention, even if it’s a negative way. Cut them off at the source and they’ll find another source to emotionally suck dry. So so true. I have nothing to do with him, there’s no drama, no vitriol, and whenever I see him I smile and quickly move on. Revenge is a living your best life

You can’t change other people’s actions, you can change how you react to them

Life is not a dress rehearsal

Maya Angelou said "when someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time'

So many times in my life I've ignored what people are showing me about themselves, because I didn't want to believe it. Never again will I do that.

Not unrelated to Maya Angelou and people remembering how you made them feel... The way to leave people feeling they've had a great conversation is to let them do most of the talking.

And I know Kate Moss got flak for saying "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels", but my God I'd love to fit into my clothes right now.

“Ditch him and move to London”

Said to me separately at 2 different parties in my late twenties by randoms older than me. So I did left my job and boyfriend and like Dick Whittington went to London on my own. Best advice ever! loved living in a global city met interesting people doubled my salary and met a fab husband!

"Everything will be ok in the end - it always is"

A landlady:
Look after your skin (bloody wish I had)
If you find a good man, marry him (still going well, 30 years on)

Advice to my DC:
If you know you want kids, don't faff about with someone who doesn't (I've seen far too many women reach their mid-late 30s with a bloke who doesn't want DC and end up having issues)

And my late DM to me:
Don't go wishing your life away

You can have success or excuses but you can’t have both.

Always trust your gut

Don’t go to sleep on an argument and show that you value the ones you love most more than others.

The sun WILL rise tomorrow.

Just remember - if you threw the world's problems in the air, you'd be happy to catch your own.

It's helped me put things into perspective on a number of occasions.

Self validate your own successes, however small. You will become far less reliant on external validation and more in charge of your own happiness and contentment.

‘Never post something on SM that you wouldn’t stand up in front of a School assembly and say’……I gave this advice to DD about 5 years ago. Imagine my pride when I heard her using that line with the new Girl Guides she helps out with.

Dont let him emotionally manipulate you like he does mum. - Said by my brother about our father. The significance of him being the one to say it was astounding. My DH had been trying to tell me for years that I was in FOG with my father but I couldn't see it / couldn't deal with it.

@Missusblusky1

An old college teacher once told me ; if you come across a hard section of the exam, read the question, then go back and do all the easy ones first. Your subconscious will spend time in the background thinking about it and more than likely you’ll gain confidence and be able to answer it when you get to it again. If you run out of time you’ve not wasted time on a hard question and not answered what you could have.

Play to your strengths, not your weaknesses.

I’m using this tomorrow with some of my team who have a workplace test tomorrow 😋

From my dad - Nothing ever stays the same.

From Mumsnet - if you look at a group of toddlers can you pick which ones were breast fed and which were formula fed?

In general - sleep on it!

Not making a decision is still a decision. You are choose to do nothing.

From a man who had seen a lot of life, when my relationship was imploding: "Follow your head. Your heart will fuck it up every time."