What's the best advice you have ever received?

[NoEffingWay]

Mine was from someone who when they found out I had left my ex-h who said that there would be many who would judge me, but that they weren't living my life, and that being in a relationship which made me unhappy and depressed was not worth staying for.
Until that point, all I had heard from people was that I should think about trying harder to stay, and to think about what material goods I would lose (house and car).
Listening to them gave me the strength I needed to remember what was important, and that my feelings were worth more than bricks and mortar.

@caringcarer my dad said the exact same to me!

My grandmothers - "never run after a man or a bus - there's always another one coming". To be taken in moderation of course!

From mum:

What other people think of you is none of your business.

Never put anything smaller than your elbow in your ear.

From my boss:

Never respond to an email when you're angry.

If you don't know then the answer is no!

‘Be kind to yourself’
Said to me by my consultant when I was diagnosed with a chronic, life changing condition.

‘If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, why say it to yourself’
my very wise mum,

"Dead leaves, dead men" - from my friend who used to be a driving instructor. This has literally saved me a few times on autumn days when driving on leaf strewn lanes.

How you spend your days is how you spend your life.

I was guilty of wishing away the present in a job I hated because it paid well and I was saying ‘once I have x in savings, I’ll quit’.

Then I realised I wasn’t happy day to day and I should stop wishing away the present.

Does this mean there could be people sleeping under them or that you could lose control driving over them if they’re slippy? Sorry!

@BluePeterVag

Never take criticism from someone you wouldn’t ask for advice.

Oooohhhhh love this. One I'm certainly adopting.

You can cut anyone you want to out of your life for any reason you want.

If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything.

Also I had good advice about interviews - to remember those on the other side are nervous too, about making the right decision etc.

@Magic00 it means slow the f* down because they're slippy as anything!

"Don't discuss this with anyone except your counsellor." My granddaughter, 9, last week.

From my grandmother
“Least said, soonest mended”

I’m a hot headed thing at times, but her words have helped me to hit the pause button!

No response is a response and it's a powerful one

Breathe...just breathe...

in.....

out....

.....breathe......

This too shall pass.

It migh pass like a f*ing kidney stone. But it will pass

And my fathers secret to a long life which will share with you all....

Keep breathing in and out ...

When an ex finished with me (many years ago!!)
He said,

"Life is a book, it's just the end of this chapter and time to start a new one"

So whenever I'm having a rubbish time, I tell myself to turn the page and let the new chapter begin.

@Joiningthegossip

When an ex finished with me (many years ago!!) He said,

"Life is a book, it's just the end of this chapter and time to start a new one"

So whenever I'm having a rubbish time, I tell myself to turn the page and let the new chapter begin.

I bet you wanted to punch him at the time though didn't you? 🤣

@Joiningthegossip

When an ex finished with me (many years ago!!) He said,

"Life is a book, it's just the end of this chapter and time to start a new one"

So whenever I'm having a rubbish time, I tell myself to turn the page and let the new chapter begin.

Did he work for the hallmark channel? Cheesy

@Rathmobhaile

My grandmothers - "never run after a man or a bus - there's always another one coming". To be taken in moderation of course!

That’s fabulous! A great life maxim

'Never get married' my Nan.

@Joiningthegossip

When an ex finished with me (many years ago!!) He said,

"Life is a book, it's just the end of this chapter and time to start a new one"

So whenever I'm having a rubbish time, I tell myself to turn the page and let the new chapter begin.

Yeah I think I may have kicked him in the balls for this. Put that in yer book mate.

Listen to your anger and steward it wisely - from Sarah Bessey. Such good advice - if I had had that advice a bit earlier in my life it would have completely changed my life for the better (don't act when angry is terrible advice - it made me not listen to what my anger was telling me, and I REALLY needed to listen to what my anger was telling me. It was the only thing giving me to strength to say NO when I really needed to say NO).

No-one told me this but I have learnt it and it is excellent advice so listen up!
The quality of your relationship is measured by how well you handle disagreements. If you can't do this civilly and constructively - your relationship is crap. (need to work on the wording of this to make it more snappy. .

More advice from me.
Maintain your financial independence - always. Its your forcefield against whatever is thrown at you. It gives you choice. Never hand you choices to someone else.