What's the best advice you have ever received?

[NoEffingWay]

Mine was from someone who when they found out I had left my ex-h who said that there would be many who would judge me, but that they weren't living my life, and that being in a relationship which made me unhappy and depressed was not worth staying for.
Until that point, all I had heard from people was that I should think about trying harder to stay, and to think about what material goods I would lose (house and car).
Listening to them gave me the strength I needed to remember what was important, and that my feelings were worth more than bricks and mortar.

That I didn't have to be a perfect mother, not even the best mother I could be. That I needed to be a good enough mother.

It was a hugely liberating concept, and I think I'm a better mother, and a happier mother, for it.

To choose what the top 3 things to focus on in life and put everything into it and o drop most of the rest. For me that's work, children, socialising.

The maya Angelou saying '.. people remember the way you make them feel' I apply to most work conversations where possible

The 80/20 rule. Work out at work what is the 20% thing for the year and make sure that consistently looks amazing. Do average at the rest.

It’s okay to not be ok

In a marathon, 20 miles is halfway

1. Don’t do something you love for a job, you’ll grow to hate it, and then you’ll have no hobby (my dad, when I was thinking about doing a degree in outdoor pursuits).

1. No one has written a book about you and your baby (my HV when I had my first baby).

1. Yeh, you could marry him, he’s ok. Not like the last one (DBro re DH. We’ve been married 20 years).

My dad saying that things always work out right in the end. And fast forward a year - whatever problem is worrying you now will be long gone.

Don't eat yellow snow

The babies haven't read the books

" Happiness over stability".

Do you want to be right or happy?

Watch out for people who talk badly of others and gossip. They are doing it about you too.

Do what feels peaceful to you.

My dad always says you're judged by the company you keep. Which I don't like, but suspect is true.

Don't fight with pigs, you'll both get dirty but the pigs enjoy it.

It was one I saw on here years ago :

If someone is a good friend and you get on well, but you have repeatedly seen them treat others badly or poorly, when it benefits them, your turn will come.

What's the mn drains and radiators one?

There's no such word as 'can't'.

When my ex cheated on me one of his friends, who had cheated on his ex wife, told me he (my ex) won’t feel guilty for long so tie up the details of who is having what/the house sale while he does!

‘Pick your battles’ -my mum explaining how a lot of stuff when you’ve got small children and are knackered really doesn’t matter. Pick the stuff that does matter and focus on that.

If you don't know what to do, do nothing. Just wait.

@Notabove25

My Dad says the same "about the company you keep" - maybe a
Generational thing

However I am not on Facebook or any other social media mainly because of the sorts of jobs we both do but employers always stalk candidates they are interested in on social media and this could be the difference between getting the job or not if a "friend" looks like a total waste of space!

Another couple of top pieces of advice are:-

Never go to sleep on an argument

And

If someone says or does something that upsets you never say anything. Remain silent and give yourself time to assess and consider your response

If something is bothering you just think yourself will this be worrying me in five years time ?

Always pee immediately after sex.

If someone on MN says don't Google it, Don't Fucking Google It.

Dump bad men.