It's time to teach DH a lesson WWYD

[Gcnq]

OK
Background: it's a pandemic and we've been stuck with only each other and DS for company for about a year (neither of us critical workers and DH is clinically vulnerable so REALLY cautious). We don't actually hate each other but as you can imagine there's been endless nit-picking, complaining over nothing, irritation on both sides.

So, DH has been consistently complaining about whatever meals I cook. This is lunch and dinner every single day (thankfully he fixes his and DS breakfast every day). Yknow, it's too much, it's not enough, it's too whatever, it's not whatever enough...

I'm done basically.

He finally went too far in a discussion about healthy food groups with DS, part of DS home-learning assignment, he says

"Bought oven chips are healthier and better than the chips mummy makes"

Let me get this clear. In making chips I basically slice up a normal potato into chips, put about 1 teaspoon of olive oil on a baking tray, do a sort of pick up and drop motion with the sliced potato so it's all coated enough to brown nicely when cooking.

He's basically insulted my cooking for the last time.

I'm thinking of just serving up sliced cucumber and carrot for him tomorrow night? Maybe a whole week? What would you do?

Give him a raw potato and say it's healthier

Get him to cook?

I wouldn’t “serve” him shit on toast!

Hand him the (figurative) apron and tell him to crack on.

I’d stop cooking for him. Surely that would be more effective?

Just cook for yourself. When he asks why just say you complain constantly about my cooking so I stopped doing it.

Cook him nothing. I wouldn’t even give him an empty plate - he can piss off.

Stop cooking for him.

I'd be another handing him a raw potato, and telling him, 'go hard, mate'.

You need to pull him up on this shit right now. My good friend's DH has always made snide little comments just like this to their DD. In isolation none of them would seem that big of a deal, but the drip drip drop over time is so disrespectful and sadly the DD, now a teenager, speaks to my friend in exactly the same way that DH does while thinking the sun shines out of her father's arse.

Stop doing any food related activity if you can. If not then cook for you and DS and leave him out. If he complains say in a very reasonable tone that you'd took on board his criticism of your cooking and decided it would be best for all parties if he catered for himself from not on. Don't get drawn into a discussion about whether this is reasonable or not. If you waiver, remind yourself that you are not his personal chef or his servant.

This crap really gets on my nerves - you are partners not master and slave.

Not raw potato - I’m sure that’s poisonous - but maybe steamed cut into chip shapes. Only serve with something that demands chips though - nothing that steamed potatoes would be nice with.

Then tell him it is up to him from now.

Just cook for you and your DS and tell your DH he knows where the kitchen is

Yes a lot of "Stop cooking for him" replies
That's what I was thinking too!
But if you understand that will sort of mess up our "routine" if DH has to cook for himself alone later on, he can't to DS bedtime story sort of thing, and it's double mess in the kitchen

But I am seriously considering it.

Haha I have zero intention to make anything involving chips or potatoes for a lonnnnng time.

I'll probably go on strike making chips for a year

He can, he cooks for all of you or he cooks after ds bedtime, or he learns to appreciate what you do for him!

@Gcnq

Yes a lot of "Stop cooking for him" replies That's what I was thinking too! But if you understand that will sort of mess up our "routine" if DH has to cook for himself alone later on, he can't to DS bedtime story sort of thing, and it's double mess in the kitchen

But I am seriously considering it.

Who washes up?

If it'll upset your routine, swap entirely. He does all the cooking, you do what he'd be doing. Make sure to whinge about the food.

This crap really gets on my nerves - you are partners not master and slave

Yes, I mean the thing is, he's really stepped in to do a lot of DS home-learning, and is normally a decent man good partner etc but... Christ it's like because he's done that he can just gripe about my cooking all the time. For no reason.

@Gcnq

Yes a lot of "Stop cooking for him" replies That's what I was thinking too! But if you understand that will sort of mess up our "routine" if DH has to cook for himself alone later on, he can't to DS bedtime story sort of thing, and it's double mess in the kitchen

But I am seriously considering it.

It’s not double the mess for you because he’s a grown up who can clean up after himself

@cheeseismydownfall

You need to pull him up on this shit right now. My good friend's DH has always made snide little comments just like this to their DD. In isolation none of them would seem that big of a deal, but the drip drip drop over time is so disrespectful and sadly the DD, now a teenager, speaks to my friend in exactly the same way that DH does while thinking the sun shines out of her father's arse.

That's really sad

Cook for yourself only tomorrow and the next day and the next day.

If he has the guts to comment reply each time "you've told ds you can do it healthier. So you make it for you both"

Can you not just say all these digs are hurting your feelings and ask him to stop it?

Just tell him tonight (so that he can't complain he's had no warning) 'By the way, I've been thinking about it. As you don't like my cooking, from now on we'll take turns. You're doing a week starting tomorrow and then I'll do a week'.
Sit back and watch him backtrack at a million miles an hour....
If your feeling slightly generous, you could ask him what household job he wants to swap for it!

Alternatively just serve him a plate of oven chips every day whilst doing you and ds whatever else you fancy cooking.

He can watch your unhealthy dinners and smugly eat his plate if oven chips