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It's time to teach DH a lesson WWYD

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Gcnq · 24/02/2021 19:58

OK
Background: it's a pandemic and we've been stuck with only each other and DS for company for about a year (neither of us critical workers and DH is clinically vulnerable so REALLY cautious). We don't actually hate each other but as you can imagine there's been endless nit-picking, complaining over nothing, irritation on both sides.

So, DH has been consistently complaining about whatever meals I cook. This is lunch and dinner every single day (thankfully he fixes his and DS breakfast every day). Yknow, it's too much, it's not enough, it's too whatever, it's not whatever enough...

I'm done basically.

He finally went too far in a discussion about healthy food groups with DS, part of DS home-learning assignment, he says

"Bought oven chips are healthier and better than the chips mummy makes"

Let me get this clear. In making chips I basically slice up a normal potato into chips, put about 1 teaspoon of olive oil on a baking tray, do a sort of pick up and drop motion with the sliced potato so it's all coated enough to brown nicely when cooking.

He's basically insulted my cooking for the last time.

I'm thinking of just serving up sliced cucumber and carrot for him tomorrow night? Maybe a whole week? What would you do?

OP posts:
PheasantPlucker1 · 26/02/2021 00:13

Your chips are unhealthy, so just serve him the one chip. With piles of steamed cabbage to fill up.

Yummy healthy nutrients.

WaterBottle123 · 26/02/2021 07:32

Well done Op!

Bet he expects normal service to be resumed today...

justanotherneighinparadise · 26/02/2021 07:38

I would be serving everything with oven chips for the next two years. Then he’ll have one of this seven a day with literally zero effort on your part.

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drspouse · 26/02/2021 07:56

Well done OP!

Longdistance · 26/02/2021 08:36

The kitchen utensil is now missing and can be found up the dhs ....

Honestly, he sounds like a stroppy teenager. Long may your cooking for ds and you continue and stroppy pants can starve.

MessAllOver · 26/02/2021 08:54

Bet he expects normal service to be resumed today...

Yes, his attitude will probably be that the silly wife's had her strop and now she can get back to kitchen duties.

THisbackwithavengeance · 26/02/2021 08:54

Well done OP. Good for you for making a stance. I cook every day for my DH and he says thank you, that was delicious after each meal even when it was decidedly non descript.

SciFiScream · 26/02/2021 09:25

My DH does the majority of the meal planning, shopping and cooking in our house because he criticised me for the above once too often.

I just stepped back and left him to it. He complains occasionally about how hard it is to think of all these things but I just ignore him.

He works full time and I'm part time. Grin

I always tidy up after meals - that's my contribution. Lately he's been interfering with that too and whenever he does I just walk off and leave him to it. I think he'll get the picture.

SciFiScream · 26/02/2021 09:33

In response to DHs moans about meal planning I decided to write a list of all the meals that at least 3 out of 4 of us will eat. I got to about 42.

It's a shared note on our smartphones. He even interfered with that!

If I do the shopping he even tries to control that - more fool him the shop changed their layout and messed him up. Grin

Sometimes I'll help out in the kitchen but he tries to control that too.

I say, if I'm going to do [insert task] I'm going to do it my way! Including choosing which knife to use!

He's his own worst enemy and hasn't cottoned on yet. Grin

Thebookswereherfriends · 26/02/2021 09:36

Just make him a sandwich for lunch and dinner. Explain that you as he never seems to be happy no matter what you cook you thought it’s easier to just make a sandwich.

Ninkanink · 26/02/2021 09:38

Uhm no...he can make himself a sandwich, fgs.

Babdoc · 26/02/2021 09:46

A little off topic, but why do you assume DH can’t cook as well as do the DC bedtime routine? I was a widowed single mother ever since my DC were babies, and managed to do everything every night for 16 years as well as work full time. Every lone parent does the same. Maybe you should try a complete strike, OP, and make DH do the lot.

sashh · 26/02/2021 10:37

I'd ask him for a meal plan with all the nutritional details of each meal and totals for the day and week.

Do not cook anything without the details provided. He can turn this into a home ed activity with DS.

Ninkanink · 26/02/2021 10:42

@sashh

I'd ask him for a meal plan with all the nutritional details of each meal and totals for the day and week.

Do not cook anything without the details provided. He can turn this into a home ed activity with DS.

No...

Ask him for his detailed plan, then if he comes up with one tell him ‘great, now you know what you can make for yourself every day from now on’.

Ninkanink · 26/02/2021 10:43

Anyway OP has already told him he can cook for himself.

Stick with it @Gcnq, do not back down.

Tiktaktoe · 26/02/2021 21:27

Just make sure he cooks for himself and cleans up after himself.
I couldn't be dealing with that shit!

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