What's the crappiest birthday you've had?

[MrsMagoo99]

So today is my birthday! Not a big one but still has been really crappy! No presents from my hubby just a card. No cards from anyone else either. Feeling really sad & down about it. What's your crappiest birthday?

I spent most of my 27th birthday sleeping or in pain unable to move having been hospitalised as I'd spent the previous 12 hours constantly throwing up (pregnant!).

Miscarriage on my 25th birthday wasn't great.

@Fuckadoodledoooo

Actually this one, today (41).

I'm sat crying trying to get my baby to sleep because my husband has gone on one of his rants about how he earns all the money, does everything and I'm ungrateful.

My crime was saying I prefer lurpack to the Aldi version. Apparenly, if Aldi isn't good enough then I'm a snob and should find someone who earns more money.

He does this every year. Doesn't do anything for my birthday and tries to suck any joy out of it. He's been trying to pick pick pick all day and I've been so careful with what I say.

An off hand remark about lurpack for fucks sake.

Kick him to the kerb and use some of the child support to buy you and DC Lurpak.

, and a Happy Birthday.

Age 6 I think. I had chicken pox.

My 21st . Was meant to be having two celebrations. Friday night in my in my old home town with all my school friends- I set off mid afternoon but train delays meant I didn’t get there til well after midnight and I actually turned 21 alone on the train.
Saturday night in London with uni friends- all day was getting message after message from people dropping out. In the end one friend turned up, who didn’t have any ID because her handbag had been stolen a few days before so we couldn’t get in anywhere.

When I was 13 my granny had just died and her funeral was on my Birthday.
Then when I was 23 my other granny died while I was living away from home and for somer eason my parents decided to write and tell me about it, rather than ringing me.
I received the letter telling me about the death and funeral on my birthday.
So they were 2 particularly memorable ones.

The year my dad died, the day before. Was pretty shit.

Happy birthday

@Fuckadoodledoooo

Actually this one, today (41).

I'm sat crying trying to get my baby to sleep because my husband has gone on one of his rants about how he earns all the money, does everything and I'm ungrateful.

My crime was saying I prefer lurpack to the Aldi version. Apparenly, if Aldi isn't good enough then I'm a snob and should find someone who earns more money.

He does this every year. Doesn't do anything for my birthday and tries to suck any joy out of it. He's been trying to pick pick pick all day and I've been so careful with what I say.

An off hand remark about lurpack for fucks sake.

I’m so sorry and I’m thinking of you.

You deserve better. Buy the Lurpak tomorrow and start making plans that will make you happy.

Happy Birthday x

My boyfriend of 4 years dumped me the week before my 21st.

Last year, my 40th, I had a sinus infection and felt grotty for the whole week.

Tomorrow I feel well but we're in lockdown!

Nowhere near as bad as the ones described on here though so I can't complain.

I got dumped by my first boyfriend 2 days before my 18th birthday, that was pretty crap!

@thewreckofthehesperus

My 32nd, tail end of a horribly emotionally abusive and controlling marriage. We were together from a young age and he had completely ground me down to a shell. I was financially supporting him, working full time in a stressful job and dealing with my father's terminal illness on top of everything.

For a year I had suspected something was up, he was showing all the signs of an affair but i just couldnt allow myself to believe it of him.
That day was the final straw, he 'took me out' and spent the day complaining and ignoring me. Went shopping to buy me a gift but ended up spending more money on himself, no cake and no card. Even ended up ordering his favourite takeaway which I didnt particularly like just to try please him. He refused to come to bed with me, saying he wanted to stay up late and I ended up crying myself to sleep wondering how the fuck my life had ended up like this.

Next morning while he was passed out I took his phone and went through his messages (first time I had ever done it but it was my last chance to save my sanity) Found messages going back a year between him and a mutual 'friend' who had been at my hen and my wedding etc. Full of 'I love yous' and 'I wish I could start my life over' her birthday had been a few days before mine and he had gone all out for her just to rub salt in the wound.

I took my screenshots and kicked his arse out of the house. He had stone walled and gas lit me for a year, denying there was any problem and treating me like shit. I bought him out of the house and divorced him but it took me years to get my head together and I'll never forgive him for what he put me through. Hes a pathetic piece of shit who wouldnt know happiness if it was staring him in the face but I can finally now say hes no longer my problem and I am so much happier without him in my life.

I have a new partner now and he's the polar opposite, treats me well and I feel properly cared for for the first time! Makes me feel special everyday and has made an effort for every birthday I've had since we've been together.

Onwards and upwards

That's horrible. Mine isn't comparable I mean I wasn't married. It was a few years ago, a silly first real boyfriend that lasted (but shouldn't have) till I was 22. 7 years Ish. I think cause mum had died two months earlier and they were both so there for me made felt worse. Its how they can look in your face and smile, pretend. Its worse than the act. (Yes, it was my bestie) I still miss her. Can't imagine if your married, children. It hurt like hell though. To cheer us both up months later he's blowing my phone up. I send him a pic of a hot guy and told him I was hooking of tinder. (Spoiler didn't, Tinder frightened me to death, a nice lady on Match hooked me instead) Isn't it strange how we let ourselves hang around in destructive relationships for so long. I mean you had your dad to deal with and he expected you to support him. Seriously! Evolution didn't equip us to put up with weak men. Your ex sounds like an energy vampire. Glad you found Mr right. Its a strange comfort isn't it unburdening the bad helps you feel good again xx.

@ExplodingCarrots

Happy Birthday Op

For me, milestone birthday . I never usually celebrate due to having a birthday near Xmas. Was encouraged by friends to have a party and celebrate milestone birthday. 90% of people dropped out on the day...most with the shittest excuses and some lies. Was very embarrassed and hurt. I've gone back to only celebrating with DH and DC with cake and a takeaway. Never again.

Regarding a non-attended party, we threw one around Xmas about 5 years ago.

Effectively we invited two groups; my work colleagues (whom I socialise with) and their family members, where appropriate; and our friends made through Scouts, about 25 invitees all up.

All of my work colleagues bar one, pulled out on the day, one after the other.

I was embarrassed, too. It has affected my relationship with them to this day.

Luckily all the Scout friends came so we had a nice enough evening.

But never again.

My 16th. I had gastroenteritis.

I felt ok first thing and went to church, but by lunchtime wasn't so great. Managed a couple of bites of a ham sandwich before heading upstairs and throwing up multiple times. Threw up in bed at one point so then went to my mother's.

Friend rang to say happy birthday but I really didn't want to speak to anyone, so shouted to my mum I was going to be sick again. She didn't think I could be so ambled up and told me friend had mentioned there had been food poisoning cases at school. I promptly threw up over her!

Your birthday's not looking so awful now, is it???

Happy birthday for yesterday!

Fuck me; I forgot when the (then) love of my life dumped me on the the morning of my birthday after shagging me!*

Time does heal!!!

*yes, there was another woman lurking in the background and I did get my revenge because of their inappropriate work relationship. Perhaps not my finest hour but felt fucking good!!!

Probably going to be the one coming up as it's my dad's funeral on the same day.

Other than that I remember I had a truly gutting 9th birthday I had a day at the zoo planned with some friends then on the morning I started vomiting and it all had to be cancelled I remember being devastated 😂

My 31st was spent in hospital,enforced bedrest so bedpan etc and terrible food.Serious pre eclampsia so lots of frowns and prodding. DH brought toddler DS to see me looking like he'd dressed him from the rag bag - ridiculously I fixated on that!

The nurse who came to stick yet another needle in me saw my DoB and said " is that today?" I agreed and she gave me a big hug.

48 hours later DS2 arrived via emergency c section 7 weeks early, and eclipsing all my future birthdays!

For my 30th (rather a long time ago now), my then boyfriend didn't produce any presents, card etc and just banged on and on about needing to go to the tip. I thought 'Aha! Surely this is a plan to get me out for a birthday treat' - but no - we went to the tip.

Happy birthday. My worst one was my 25th when I was dumped by someone I’d fallen for deeply. 2 days before I’d been driving along the motorway to see him happy, young, in love, the sun was shining and I was singing along to the radio, he dumped me the night of my birthday despite telling me he wanted to marry me etc...it took a year to get over it all.

Happy birthday for Monday OP, I hope you ended up enjoying your day.

My worst birthday was probably when I was around 14-15. I had school that day and everyone was a bit miserable when I woke up, just as I was about to leave for school, I said "it's my birthday today by the way" presuming my family had forgotten as no one had wished me a happy birthday. My mum was furious and bought out a cake she had made for me, and got a can of coke and smashed it all up in front of me. I ended up living with my Nan after this and rarely see my mum now.