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What's the crappiest birthday you've had?

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MrsMagoo99 · 15/02/2021 14:55

So today is my birthday! Not a big one but still has been really crappy! No presents from my hubby just a card. No cards from anyone else either. Feeling really sad & down about it. What's your crappiest birthday?

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Quail15 · 15/02/2021 16:51

My last birthday in December 2020. A few days before my area went into tier 4 lockdown. My nans funeral was arranged for the afternoon of my birthday so my husband booked a restaurant for the following weekend and planned to take me shopping so I could choose my present....

Tier 4 started the day of the restaurant booking and shopping trip so no meal and no present for me.

My family 'forgot' my presents and cards - they were understandably focused on my nans funeral. I always make the birthday cakes for my family so no one thought to get me a cake.

I couldn't even go home and get drunk as I was 5 months pregnant. Fingers crossed the next one is better. I hope yours is too X x

Gingernaut · 15/02/2021 16:54

Happy birthday @MrsMagoo99

🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗❤

Whattheduck · 15/02/2021 16:54

My 50th last November
It wasn’t so much it was crappy it was just I couldn’t celebrate it the way planned.I felt for my daughter as she had spent ages organizing a family meal at my favourite restaurant as a surprise but it’s been put on hold.The whole day just felt flat despite everyone’s best efforts under the circumstances

DrMadelineMaxwell · 15/02/2021 16:55

Mine today is a bit crap.

Happy birthday op.

MrsAvocet · 15/02/2021 16:56

My 21st was "interesting".
With hindsight it is funny, but it wasn't at the time. It was the first day of an inter-railing trip with one of my friends from University. Started badly with a horrific Channel crossing during which I really thought I was going to die from a combination of severe sea sickness and fear that we were going to sink. Then when we eventually arrived in Paris, our bravado quickly disappeared and we began wishing that we had booked accommodation in advance. We were being harrassed by strange men, and turned away by multiple guest houses and it was getting dark. Eventually we found a horrible hostel with space so took the room. It was in a very dodgy looking area and we were scared to go out so we bought a loaf of bread and a tin of sardines from a corner shop. Unfortunately the tin didn't have a key to open it so my friend tried to cut it open with her Swiss Army Knife but ended up cutting her hand quite badly in the process. We were panicking that we were going to have to take her to hospital but eventually it stopped. We couldn't eat the sardines as they were full of her blood by this stage so it was dry bread for supper. And at some point we found a pay phone to call our parents so I remember being squashed im a smelly phone booth holding my friend's hand in the air and pressing on the wound whilst she told her Mum that everything was fabulous and we were having a great time!

SadderThanEeyore · 15/02/2021 17:00

Worst was spent alone (small child in bed) black and blue with a fractured skull thanks to a close relative because I inadvertently caught him cheating on his wife a few days before my birthday. Backfired as his wife divorced him, but not great. My family are fairly shit on the whole, you'd think some of them would have spent the evening with me.

This weekend wasn't great either. DH did the last minute supermarket trip the night before my birthday and just bought for the sake of it. Pisses me off massively because I put so much thought in for him.

Bubbles1st · 15/02/2021 17:01

Shared my birthday with an ex - we went to Norwich for a night away, had an arguement after drinks that night. The next day we didn't make up and he left me there and made me get public transport home - 2 trains, a bus and 3 hours later it's safe to safe we didn't make up very quickly.

We ended a few months later - surprised it lasted that long

chilledteacher · 15/02/2021 17:01

Last year, 8 days before full lockdown was announced in March. Toddler DS had slept beyond 9, what a result we thought.
Birthday lie in. Went to get him but couldn't keep him awake. Blue lighted to A and E, spent the entire day in the red area trying to keep him awake. Severe case of tonsillitis diagnosed. Then had to drive around to find an out of hours pharmacy with antibiotics as A and E only had 2 days of his 10 day course. Finally got home in time for a late birthday pizza!

SadderThanEeyore · 15/02/2021 17:01

Oops, just realised that sounds like I was a small child! I was an adult, my small child was in bed so I was effectively alone

heartcurrent1 · 15/02/2021 17:04

19th birthday. My beloved grandad who raised me had a heart attack I called the ambulance because he looked off kept blaming my nans chips typical him! He then died a few months later in the hospital at his bedside I had an MMC clearly all stress related, but that year was absolutely with shadow of a doubt the worst year of my life.

10 years later I have 2 beautiful boys and a baby girl on the way, each time I've got pregnant I dreamt of him I don't dream of him at all which has lead me to believe he's my children's guardian angel & they couldn't be luckier to have the most amazing man watch over them xxx

EKGEMS · 15/02/2021 17:07

My 16th-was 1989 and we just had a category 5 Hurricane Hugo blow through my state and afterwards with no power we packed up and left for a few days. We came back and power was out for another ten days. Happy birthday OP!

rc22 · 15/02/2021 17:11

About 5 years ago. I had a stomach bug so spent my birthday running back and forth to the toilet with sickness and diaohrrea. It was on a Tuesday so went out on the Friday for a birthday meal with family but was still feeling a bit ropey and without much appetite so didn't really enjoy it.

StarryStarryArm · 15/02/2021 17:21

I spent my 30th birthday in a mental health hospital with PND.

gamerchick · 15/02/2021 17:34

@SadderThanEeyore

Worst was spent alone (small child in bed) black and blue with a fractured skull thanks to a close relative because I inadvertently caught him cheating on his wife a few days before my birthday. Backfired as his wife divorced him, but not great. My family are fairly shit on the whole, you'd think some of them would have spent the evening with me.

This weekend wasn't great either. DH did the last minute supermarket trip the night before my birthday and just bought for the sake of it. Pisses me off massively because I put so much thought in for him.

Your close relative fractured your skull?

(You don't have to elaborate if you don't want) I'm just a bit shocked.

Dunairbeanat · 15/02/2021 17:40

Happy birthday OP it's mine today also so best wishes to a fellow Aquarian.
My worst was my 30th, spent a few days being tested for Paget's disease after an emergency referral from a Well Woman clinic. All clear, have never been so grateful to that lovely female GP.

SadderThanEeyore · 15/02/2021 17:45

@gamerchick yes. They threw something at me, because it was my fault for seeing them rather than their fault for cheating

ImRealHonest · 15/02/2021 17:48

Last year.

Had recently found out STBXH was cheating. One of my closest friends had recently died and another moved back to the U.K.

My sole remaining close friend in this country, who I’ve sat beside at work for 13 years, so knows every single minute detail about my life and I know the same about hers, completely forgot, until a colleague had spotted it on the intranet and asked her why nobody had sorted out the usual department birthday lunch.

I got no cards. No presents. Nothing. Family and friends in the U.K. don’t send anything because of unreliable post. My trip to the UK the following month when my family were going out for a meal for my birthday was then cancelled due to covid

This year I’ve refused to add a year on to my age. Last year didn’t count - both in terms of my birthday and in terms of ‘achievements’ during the year

JumpLeadsForTwo · 15/02/2021 17:53

My 40th when my mum forgot my birthday, had a major breakdown and told me she wanted to kill herself (for an unrelated reason) was a particular highlight! They've been much better since (and she didn't)

Mammyofasuperbaby · 15/02/2021 17:56

My birthday is days before christmas so it generally sucks but;
My auntie died on my 20th. Dm walked into my bedroom sobbing and I just knew. She had been sick for a long time but it was hard.
In 2019 I lost a baby 5 days before my birthday so we were mourning and my next baby was due on my birthday the next year (my last birthday)but they were also sadly lost.
So my birthday is hard as it has strong connections to 2/3 of my losses however I also found out I was expecting my youngest on my last birthday after being rushed into hospital due to an ongoing illness. Thst baby survived

DarcyJack · 15/02/2021 17:57

Just had it on Friday. DH and DS (26) both made midnight flits to Asda and came back with flowers cake choc - to be fair they were okay. It was just that both of them had forgotten until they saw the Facebook messages start to come in. Then they bickered over my birthday takeaway and both refused to dish it up so I did. Not the end of the world but very poor considering what I do for them.

TheSandman · 15/02/2021 18:00

My 40th. Told my wife in no uncertain terms I didn't want a surprise party or any fuss. So she organised a party and told me about it. I spent the day doing housework and preparing for a party I didn't want and the evening being polite to people I wished hadn't come to my house.

Insomniacexpress · 15/02/2021 18:02

Huge row culminating in finally telling EXDH I was divorcing him.

TwirpingBird · 15/02/2021 18:03

Last year. We just entered the first lockdown, ryanair sent me an email that morning to cancel my first trip home in a year (now 2 years), and I spent my day with my head down my toilet as I was 10 weeks pregnant with DD2.

Oh. My DH bought me a fitbit, so I could 'get fitter' .... I dont think I spoke to him for the day. But then again, I was puking a lot.

NoJetter · 15/02/2021 18:04

My 31st. I should have asked my husband to take the day off. We usually do for each other’s birthdays but for some reason that year he didn’t. I was at home alone with 6 week old ds1 who had colic and was screaming his head off inconsolably for about 20 hours a day. I was in a terrible place mentally with ptsd from the birth, family hundreds of miles away and no friends in the area yet and spend the whole day crying, holding a crying baby telling him I was so sorry I was his mummy. Makes me quite sad to think about it now. Things have since improved!!

frazzledasarock · 15/02/2021 18:04

Every single birthday till I was in my 30’s when my DC who were really little did a ‘treasure’ hunt for me hiding presents they’d saved of sweets and their favourite bits of jewellery and something they'd made in DT at school.

Prior to that, as a child I didn’t even know when my birthday was till I went to school and the teacher told me. And when I was married to ex he made a point of creating arguments on the day and making sure attention was focused firmly on him.

Nowadays all of DH’s family message me birthday wishes and send me cards and I get gifts and made to feel super spoilt. And I know it’s not very MN to admit it, I love that once a year I get spoilt and friends and family make a point of remembering me and getting in touch with me to wish me well.

It’s because I know how super shit it feels to be forgotten that I make a point of remembering but friends and family on their birthdays and sending them personal thoughtful gifts.