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What's the crappiest birthday you've had?

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MrsMagoo99 · 15/02/2021 14:55

So today is my birthday! Not a big one but still has been really crappy! No presents from my hubby just a card. No cards from anyone else either. Feeling really sad & down about it. What's your crappiest birthday?

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AprilThe8th · 15/02/2021 16:07

My 40th in April last year.We were meant to be in ibiza for a child free long weekend,ended up in full lockdown with a takeaway.Gutted.

FrangipaniBlue · 15/02/2021 16:07

We were put into lockdown days before my birthday last year, so my plans were cancelled.

It's looking increasingly likely that we will still be in some form of lockdown for my upcoming birthday, which is also a milestone one and for which all my plans never even really got made due to the uncertainty.

2 years running with no birthday celebrations.

2022 owes me BIG TIME!

ExplodingCarrots · 15/02/2021 16:09

@MrsMagoo99 yes, I do, but I keep them very much at arms length and I don't go out of my way to go to events surrounding them. I used to make sure I'd book time off work and sort childcare ...but then I realised they obviously didn't care for me like I did for them so now I feel totally fine saying 'no I can't come to that'. Luckily my closest friends did turn up and got extra drunk to compensate Grin

nicknamehelp · 15/02/2021 16:09

stuck in hospital over 200 miles from home with dd and no visitors allowed. Had no cards/presents as was all very last minute/emergency admission. Spent day worried sick emptying her bed pans.

Fuckadoodledoooo · 15/02/2021 16:10

Never had a great one.

My 40th last year was a low. Head down the loo all day in the midst of extreme pregnancy sickness.

PomBearWithoutHerOFRS · 15/02/2021 16:10

My birthday is on the 13th and has been crap a surprisingly large number of times over the years. The worst were my 30th, big party organised, catered, dj booked etc, invited over 100 people, and 8 came.
On my 50th, I was hospitalised, during covid, with piles the size shape and colour of purple quality street Confused
Most years I just ignore it completely tbh.

Branleuse · 15/02/2021 16:10

the one where my nana had just died and it was her funeral the day before my bday.

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MrsMagoo99 · 15/02/2021 16:12

@ParkheadParadise ooh no that's an awful prank from your brother! Sending you the biggest & warmest of hugs 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗 @Groovee I'm really sorry for you loss, sending you the biggest & warmest of hugs 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗

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MrsMagoo99 · 15/02/2021 16:15

@PomBearWithoutHerOFRD I'm really sorry you about your 13th, 30th & 50th, I sending you the biggest & warmest of hugs 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗
@Branleuse I'm really sorry for you loss, sending you the biggest & warmest of hugs too 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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TroysMammy · 15/02/2021 16:15

My 30th, I had cards and presents but went out the night before with work colleagues for a joint birthday/someone leaving party and either my drink was spiked or I couldn't hold 3 white wine spritzers. God the next day I was so ill. I couldn't remember some events of the night before and I still can't 23 years later.

On my actual birthday I had booked a restaurant for friends, bearing in mind this was 24 hours after the night out. I had fish and chips, the cheapest thing on the menu so I wouldn't waste food if I couldn't eat it. I topped myself up with non alcoholic cocktails hoping the vitamin C in the orange would help. No one took photos as I was such a miserable mess. I went home before 9pm, too ill to socialise.

I'm teetotal now but as my birthday is in January they are a bit shit anyway.

Goslowlysideways · 15/02/2021 16:15

I was 50 at the start of the first lockdown. No takeaways then! I had to work and decided the very best I could expect was a nice meal I made and a really good cake. The cake arrived when I was at work and my husband for some inexplicable reason left it in its box on the floor. My dog got to it - ate a tiny bit (luckily) - but I'm trying to get to it she properly destroyed it. The dog was fine but the cake was broken!
So it was a pretty crap day. Everyone said they would get me something when the shops reopened - but they didn't.
I bet my birthday is still in lockdown this year!
But I'm going to buy my own presents and at the very least have a takeaway. Oh and make sure Im in when the cake is delivered.

Happy Birthday lovely. I'm so sorry you're having a crap day. Buy something fabulous for yourself, order a takeaway and tell your husband he has made you feel crap. X

Whatisthisfuckery · 15/02/2021 16:18

Happy Birthday OP.

Last year wasn’t great. We’d just gone into lockdown and everyone was worrying. The year before I spent my birthday printing out bank statements for DWP.

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MrsMagoo99 · 15/02/2021 16:19

My 16th was awful, my birthday fell on a school day & 4 out of 5 very close friends forgot my birthday, I was crushed. Especially as my twin sister loads of presents from her friends!
My 30th birthday was pretty crap too, hubby got me household items for my birthday, duvet, pillows & a steam mop!

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Canitbemagic · 15/02/2021 16:19

A couple. One was with a newborn and ex and I had separated in may after 6 months of verbal abuse by him and his family. He said he wanted to come to the zoo that we always went to on my birthday, as a family day out. It was grim. He came in the car with us, didn’t speak to me or the D.C. we got out and went and queued up for tickets and then did that thing of waiting for me to order all the tickets but he didn’t offer to pay etc. Then found out he had brought sandwiches and drinks for himself but not us. Just grim.

sheslittlebutfierce · 15/02/2021 16:20

Loads of crappy birthdays. Perhaps these are the worst though

First ExH went away with friends for the weekend of my birthday many years ago. No present, no card and presented me with a demand for money to get the car out of the pound 150 miles away. That was the day the final straw was broken. The marriage was over.

A number of years later I contracted swine flu a week before my birthday and didnt leave my bed for 14 days - I have little memory of those two weeks so 'birthday? what birthday?'

Jasmin3Tea · 15/02/2021 16:23

Found out my (now ex) boyfriend was gay and was on hookup sites two days before my 25th. That was quite bleak and I was so upset I couldn't eat the food at my favourite Indian restaurant for my birthday meal with my family! 💔

Scottishskifun · 15/02/2021 16:23

Happy birthday MrsMagoo99!

My worst has to be my 30th. My work cancelled my leave and sent me half way around for 5 days of back to back meetings including dinner meetings with jet leg.
I managed 1 hour of downtime for a swim the entire day of my birthday! Flew home exhausted and annoyed!

MrsBerthaRochester · 15/02/2021 16:23

My 30th is up there. Found out a few days before that my ex had cheated on me. With prostitutes and it was in a newspaper. He only told me because a friend saw it and texted him (anonymously) that if he didn't tell me she would. Sadly I was so mentally unwell that ai stayed and had two further DC's with him.

MrsBerthaRochester · 15/02/2021 16:28

My 40th was crap too actually. Meal at local pub after I cried to exdh. . My best friend of 35 years didn't get me so much as a card or even text me. When it was her 40th she demanded a meal out and I got her jewellery,PJ's and a bottle of champagne.

EvelynSalt · 15/02/2021 16:29

Happy birthday OP! Thanks

Mine was probably my 27th - my horrible ex husband had been making a huge deal of the massive surprise he had planned. He picked a fight the morning of my birthday, was violent, insisted it was cancelled and he'd lose "thousands", then insisted we still go. Needless to say I went along to avoid more violence.

Turned out he'd booked a nice but fairly standard room in a fairly standard hotel. He proceeded to go to sleep for the whole afternoon, before waking up and making me go for dinner with him where he stared daggers at me all night then threatened to drown me in the canal outside.

From there onwards, less one monstrous husband, every birthday has been alright (even the shitty ones, including being dumped the day before!).

Chin up OP, can you order yourself something lovely?

Eastereggfan · 15/02/2021 16:29

My dad was dying of cancer, my partner at the time had gambled away his month's salary, had drank so much the night before he pissed the bed. I woke up on my birthday to drive 5 hours to see my dad and he didn't even utter happy birthday. God that's depressing to read back. But I am well rid of him.

Cissyandflora · 15/02/2021 16:31

I woke up and my family had gone on holiday. That one was memorable.

polyjuicepotion · 15/02/2021 16:32

Hey MrsMagoo,
Happy Birthday!
I am sorry you are feeling sad.
Why not take the matter into your own hands and treat yourself to something nice? After all, no one knows better than you, which present you'd like! Can't you go and do some online shopping for nice things, for yourself only? Oh and don't forget to buy a card (and only a card!) for your husband's next birthday! Better yet, make one yourself, out of some scrap paper that you took out from the recycling bin. Grin

Nocaloriesinchocolate · 15/02/2021 16:32

Another one with parent death, this time my beloved Dad 3 days before my birthday. The worst part was my s* other parent, his wife, giving me a birthday card printed to OUR darling daughter. I know she was grieving but the tone deafness of it!

ExplodingCarrots · 15/02/2021 16:32

Seems to be a running theme with 30th birthdays ! I'm definitely going on holiday for my 40th.