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Woke up and there was no milk. I lost the plot.

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steppemum · 09/02/2021 11:34

Just that really.
Bit of a last straw moment.

Ds is 18, his gf is also living here during lockdown, they tend to come downstairs at 2 am and have meals.
Last night they had cereal, and used up all the milk.
Shopping arrived this morning at 10 am, so we just needed enough milk for my morning tea. I get up at 6:30. He usually surfaces at 10-11 am.

I was furious. I acknowledge unreasonably so. So at 8am I went up and told him to get up and go to the shop and buy milk. I might have shouted. He said no, calm down mum, it's only milk, which obviously made it much better Hmm
dd2 then got up and went ot the shop for milk, in order to restore calm!

not sure why I am posting really, just fed up of holding it all together, and the bloody selfishness of teenagers.

yes they do help around the house etc etc. as does dh.

Just -
lockdown
home schooling
no head space
no me time
no coffee with friends
bloody meals, just bloody meals and shopping, x 6 x 3 times a day (and I don't do all the cooking and they get their own breakfast etc, but still somehow it is such a production line)

rant over, thanks for listening.

OP posts:
CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 14:25

@TeeBee

Wow! You're assuming me not screaming at my children has turned them into uncaring, lazy fuckers...funnily enough me treating them well means they do the same to me. I treat them the way I want to be treated. I'm not saying you shouldn't point it out to them, I am questioning the necessity for screaming and shouting when a simple conversation was needed. That's how we roll in my house. We treat each other nicely.
Good for you. The op had a moment and handled it the way she handled it. Sometimes that happens. Superior attitudes don't really help. We all know that it's better not to lose your shit but sometimes it happens. Your posts sound smug and sanctimonious and that's why people have said what they've said.
HelloDulling · 09/02/2021 14:26

@steppemum

You know when I starte dthis thread, I really didn't think that the strange thing for all would be that he and his gf were eating cereal at 2 am.

Didn't any of you do that as teens?
My brothers and I were often up after our parents and making tea and toast at 2 am wouldn't have been strange. Granted that would have been school holidays not term time, but that is one of the weird things happening in lockdown, the lines are blurred.

I don't find teenagers up late a surprise at all. But then I also used to read my book until I had finished, sometimes 3 am!

Up until midnight, possibly, but never making meals. And particularly not during term time. Am having to be strict with my teen re bedtime. It nay not feel like a normal school night to her, but it absolutely is and I need her to be in bed. It’s hard.

Re the milk, I would have gone bananas. I too get up around 6; by 9am I am on my 3rd or 4th tea. There is no way I would wait for the delivery.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 09/02/2021 14:26

@TeeBee

Wow! You're assuming me not screaming at my children has turned them into uncaring, lazy fuckers...funnily enough me treating them well means they do the same to me. I treat them the way I want to be treated. I'm not saying you shouldn't point it out to them, I am questioning the necessity for screaming and shouting when a simple conversation was needed. That's how we roll in my house. We treat each other nicely.
Well, considering the lack of empathy you have for the OP - in a veritable field of people who can see her point - I'd say that your children possibly won't have picked that up either.

You're assuming that the OP shouts and screams incessantly and that's just another pointer that indicates that you don't understand and can't comprehend the importance of the point she's making.

As you said, you roll how you like.

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Lweji · 09/02/2021 14:26

You can still send him to get milk early in the morning every day this week. Just because.

Or send her home if it is repeated. I bet he will stop eating so much in the early morning hours.

But you may want to get more milk. Get long life and tell him to use it instead.

Original poster
steppemum · 09/02/2021 14:26

@TeeBee

Wow! You're assuming me not screaming at my children has turned them into uncaring, lazy fuckers...funnily enough me treating them well means they do the same to me. I treat them the way I want to be treated. I'm not saying you shouldn't point it out to them, I am questioning the necessity for screaming and shouting when a simple conversation was needed. That's how we roll in my house. We treat each other nicely.
Funnily enough, so do we.

I think you missed most of my posts. There is this great facility on mn to just read Ops posts, you shoudl try it some time, you might get the whole picture then.

Funnily enough, most of the time he is great (have I said that at all? I'm not sure, try reading my posts)
But at the moment, today, lockdown has got to me.

OH SHIT I've just realised.....

I'm human.

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mootymoo · 09/02/2021 14:26

I sent my Dd to the shop for exactly the same reason on Sunday - late night chai or milkshake I think with her. Nocturnal creature that she is. Thankfully just her but to be honest I'll be glad when she goes back to halls, hopefully quite soon!

WeAllHaveWings · 09/02/2021 14:28

dd isn't getting favourite dinner, she just went to the shop for some milk! Honestly, it isn't a big deal.

She did much more than that. She recognised you were getting stressed out, she recognised her brother was making things worse, was she volunteered to go an get milk as she knew it would diffuse the situation caused by her brother. She went out of her way to help you and her brother when she didn't have to.

Lovely girl your dd, she did a nice thing. If she isn't getting her favourite dinner at least give her a hug and acknowledge what she did.

HellonHeels · 09/02/2021 14:28

@TeeBee

Wow! You're assuming me not screaming at my children has turned them into uncaring, lazy fuckers...funnily enough me treating them well means they do the same to me. I treat them the way I want to be treated. I'm not saying you shouldn't point it out to them, I am questioning the necessity for screaming and shouting when a simple conversation was needed. That's how we roll in my house. We treat each other nicely.
You might treat each other nicely but you're not averse to telling people to fuck off, are you?
TeeBee · 09/02/2021 14:29

HellonHeels...oh, absolutely not!

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 14:30

And you kiss your children with that mouth @TeeBee 😱

Original poster
steppemum · 09/02/2021 14:30

You know the funny thing is.

I know that I don't need to get a lock, or long life milk, or draw a line on the milk or anything, because I am pretty sure, after this morning, that they won't use the last of the milk again.

Which, I suppose is testament to the fact that under some teen attitudes, they are actually pretty good kids.

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GreenSlide · 09/02/2021 14:31

@TeeBee

Teenagers need reminding sometimes of the importance of things and of social etiquette. I can't imagine the stress my household would have if I screeched at people over a bit of milk...and I get the pain of no tea first thing. I certainly wouldn't be screaming at them in front of their partners. I hate people shouting at me so I try not to do it to them. And bloody hell, I get the midnight feasts...I have my two DS' doing it nightly. So many Weetabix-glued bowls.

But I really don't understand why you just wouldn't wait until he got up and say 'ohh, you buggers, you drank all the milk last night. Next time, could you just make sure you leave a bit for your poor old mum as I have to get up early and you know how much I need my morning brew.' In my house that would have resulted 'oh, sorry mum, never realised/forgot. Yeah sure'. They might forget the odd time but mostly they'd remember. I couldn't live with these dramatics.

And do you actively encourage your daughters to take the passive path of least resistance with their boyfriends? This is how women are supposed to act in deference to men isn't it?

Jasminexx · 09/02/2021 14:32

Am Confused how this post has caused so much drama and arguments 😂😂 literally everyone has their own pet peevs and I think every mother has screamed over something that seems so trival at some point. Everyone has an opinion and don't see the issue with any of the matters, the gf living there, so what he's 18 and she's happy for her to be there, the fact he eats at 2am and again who cares I didn't do it but my brother use to and I also don't think the milk is a massive issue and that's Coming from someone who has 2 big strong mugs of coffee first thing in the morning, I'd be pissed off but I probably would have waited until he woke but then again I've kicked off about other things before that may seem stupid. Just think this thread is quite funny haha

SmallPrawnEnergy · 09/02/2021 14:34

@TeeBee

Wow! You're assuming me not screaming at my children has turned them into uncaring, lazy fuckers...funnily enough me treating them well means they do the same to me. I treat them the way I want to be treated. I'm not saying you shouldn't point it out to them, I am questioning the necessity for screaming and shouting when a simple conversation was needed. That's how we roll in my house. We treat each other nicely.
And you’re assuming op losing her shit ONCE makes for an uncaring one. Take your patronising and condescending “my household is caring” comments and take them to the same place YOu should be fucking off too.
Notbuyingit · 09/02/2021 14:36

YADNBU. I don't think I've ever even seen an AIBU that I am more sure about. Anyone who thinks YABU here has serious issues and needs help.

Poshishchap · 09/02/2021 14:41

In my opinion you shouldn't keep long life/UHT milk for emergencies, this simply hides the problem. The OP did the right thing, I would have lost my shit with my teenage child and girl friend. Someone would be going to the shop, and it wouldn't be me.

1starwars2 · 09/02/2021 14:42

On the subject of UHT (which OP has sensibly ruled out), my children refer to as "cardboard milk" and I think that it's a great description.

I reckon a carton of long life oat milk would be a best bet for emergency stocks personally.

GabsAlot · 09/02/2021 14:45

theres just no need to eat at 2am if hes up at 9am doing lessons he can eat during the day
its not doing him any good or his digestion

Original poster
steppemum · 09/02/2021 14:48

@GabsAlot

theres just no need to eat at 2am if hes up at 9am doing lessons he can eat during the day its not doing him any good or his digestion
Grin Grin

I'll let his digestive system know shall I?
Along with every stident in the country I should think

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CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 14:49

@GabsAlot

theres just no need to eat at 2am if hes up at 9am doing lessons he can eat during the day its not doing him any good or his digestion
Can you have a word with my teens as well please. Because they seem hungry 24/7!!
TeeBee · 09/02/2021 14:52

GreenSlide 'And do you actively encourage your daughters to take the passive path of least resistance with their boyfriends? This is how women are supposed to act in deference to men isn't it?'

Ha!!...the opposite. My children's dad is a screamer...I got rid of him because of it (and various other reasons). It was hideous. I won't tolerate that shit in my house. And guess what, he still thinks its okay to do the same to his children...and they really have no relationship with him because of it. So you parent your children how you want...it doesn't dictate how I want mine treated, or what lessons I want them to learn. They have a problem, they can tell me. If I have a problem, I'd rather calm down and talk to them about it when I'm calm and set boundaries. You scream at me and I can bet your bottom dollar there will be zero cooperation from me. That's the example I want to set my children...because I don't want them to be like their dad, screeching at their partners and children.

GabsAlot · 09/02/2021 14:52

yeah i know kids and all that but its not healthy is it noodles pizza at 2am

maybe he has the munchies

ImnotCarolineHirons · 09/02/2021 14:56

@TeeBee give it a fucking rest. Look, here's your medal 🏅 now will you shut up?

CandyLeBonBon · 09/02/2021 14:56

You scream at me and I can bet your bottom dollar there will be zero cooperation from me.

Rather like others feel when they're told to fuck off I'd imagine!

Nanny0gg · 09/02/2021 14:57

sanctimommy

Genius.