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I'm totally fucked and had enough of home schooling now....

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Dickorydockwhatthe · 03/02/2021 14:58

And it's appears half the people on my FB feed are feeling the same. I don't even have young kids but the fact I have to force my teens out of bed, remind them to brush their teeth and get dressed is a battle itself. I have one child who refuses to go out and another who refuses to stay in. I'm so done with this shit. How our kids will ever catch up at school and the unseen damage this is doing to their mental health is just unimaginable. Sorry just a rant but I have given up nagging them as it's not helping any of us 😔

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WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 04/02/2021 19:31

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MissingM · 04/02/2021 22:57

All my kids do is cry, for their friends, for school, for the life they had before lockdown. They miss their clubs, they are told off every time they touch another child at school, they are so lonely, and they are still so little. This whole thing is truly hideous, and I am so sad for them and their whole generation.

BorderlineHappy · 04/02/2021 23:12

Im in Dublin and its so hard to get my kids up and running.
DS3 is in 1st year and is struggling so hard.
Doesnt help matters that i havent a clue about what hes doing.

Ds4 and 5 are doing little bits,which is not too bad as i can at least help them.
They need to be back in school,they need to go back and be normal with their friends.

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thewinkingprawn · 04/02/2021 23:21

@HolaChicos

We have tears from ds8 most days, he hates homeschooling and really misses his friends. It doesn't help that half of his class are in at school (not all key worker or vulnerable children) and then the school send out videos of those children playing at playtime or sending out messages to all parents letting us know that those children who are in school will be going sledging 😡
We have this too. Posts in the school FB group with pics of all the kids in doing forest school or playing in the snow. What jolly japes for them. My Y1 DS did a spelling test on teams with the kids who were in today. 6 kids on teams and what looked like an entire class full making a din in the classroom. It’s colossally unfair and I too will not put up with it beyond 8th March.
TwelvePaws · 05/02/2021 00:05

It’s colossally unfair and I too will not put up with it beyond 8th March.

What will you do? 😬

TwelvePaws · 05/02/2021 00:08

All my kids do is cry, for their friends, for school, for the life they had before lockdown.

Really? That’s all they do? I really hope you are exaggerating. But if you’re not, that’s dreadful and I hope you are asking for help for them.

MissingM · 05/02/2021 03:59

But what help is available? None of what they want can come true. They seem such small demands. How do you help such small children with the fact that all their requests, such as seeing their friends and being able to hug them, are impossible right now? It was awful at the start, but it's been almost a year now. It's such a long time in their short lives. I think they have given up all hope, and they no longer believe me that it will end. I keep telling them soon, but it never comes.

MissingM · 05/02/2021 04:00

And who knows how much longer it will go on? They need the routine of school, the affirmation of their teachers, to see their friends, but even when they do go back, it is not the same. They have no safe space to be carefree with their friends, which is what they need. It weighs so very heavily on my heart to see them like this.

MissingM · 05/02/2021 04:18

They were such happy little creatures before all this began, with lots of friends. It is so hard to see how far they have fallen from that happy place.

AliceBlueGown · 05/02/2021 08:15

@MissingM Please try not to pass this anxiety onto your children. If they are little then it is your job to find ways of keeping them happy. Your little children will bounce back.

Wannabangbang · 05/02/2021 08:24

Although i can see why its essential for the health of everyone, and must be done, yes I'm finding it very difficult. My 7yo is very hard to get motivated and it's an argument every day constant nagging to get her to do any work, also having to nag my 10yo to even do live learning at 8.45 when she would rather have a lie in when theres no where to go. My autisic 13 yo is so done with it, she has option of going to school but is phobic if covid so she won't leave the house let alone attend school and then my eldest who's 15 won't even get out of bed most days. Her keeps ringing me asking why shes not on live lessons expecting me to force her to do it, my reply to them was have you ever tried to get a moody woman sized person out of bed when she has nothing fun to look forward to? They weren't happy but I've tried and failed, i can't feel any more exhausted with it than i already do. I preferred the last lockdown and think it was fun and more educational in some ways as my kids were happy but we were doing our own thing. Now it's just s* and my kids hate me most days.

ItsAllComingBackToMeNow · 05/02/2021 08:41

I really don’t understand the argument that children are being “sacrificed” and that, because covid doesn’t affect children, their lives should be continuing as usual. We are all humans, children are the same species as adults and children cannot exist in a vacuum without adults. Even if the consequences of allowing covid to rip through the population does not directly affect your individual child, it will do eventually and in the future when the infrastructure collapses.

It is horrible and frustrating. But I don’t think simplifying to this extent is helpful.

LadyCatStark · 05/02/2021 08:44

We lost it yesterday in DS’s maths lesson. Admittedly it was a statistics/ algebra mash up but he was stuck and I explained very clearly with pointing and examples and everything I could but essentially the sum boiled down to 3-2 and it got to the point where I was saying “what is 3 (holds 3 fingers up) minus 2 (puts 2 fingers down)?” And he claims it’s -1. This is a bright, grammar school boy who could do 3-2 when he was 3 years old if that 🙈

LadyCatStark · 05/02/2021 08:45

PS then he had an offer from a friend to go to the skate park and I sent him. So sue me!

Fucket · 05/02/2021 08:58

I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but DH and I listened to Planet Normal from the DT yesterday and they had a good section with a headmaster from Edinburgh 3-18 year olds. It made me want to cry. The way he described how the affects of the first lockdown didn’t really come to fruition until 2-3 months later and how he’s never seen anything like it. Then wham! Another lockdown. He’s been a teacher for 30+ years. He quite rightly says there is no one in government thinking of the children and how this is affecting them.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=LKf2GmtjAcc

Carycy · 05/02/2021 09:03

It’s a disgrace because it isn’t protecting anyone. My sister had to go to work the other day. She is classed as a key worker but not space for her kids in school. Who had to look after them while she went. My 70 something mother who has t had her vaccine yet. How is that protecting anyone?

LittleRedCourgettes · 05/02/2021 09:06

The government should fund the NHS sufficiently so that it can cope.

Teachers need to teach.

Kids beed to learn.

Please stop voting Tory folks! 🙏🙏🙏

MissingM · 05/02/2021 09:34

@AliceBlueGown I try to distract them by keeping them as busy as I can, but I can't make them happy. We do so many fun things at home, but they need their friends back, and they need to be able to play like little children again, without being told off all the time.

Wannabangbang · 05/02/2021 09:38

I agree, they need their peers and some fun. We can't wait for weekends here, a whole 2 days without having to harass them to do school work & we can watch films and bake and do fun things

Zenithbear · 05/02/2021 10:27

47TwelvePaws

there are so many extra ridiculous rules.

🙄 Well, I’m sure they’re not actually ridiculous and are there to try to keep children and staff safe.

Yes a lot of them are actually. Box ticking.

michaelwilson · 05/02/2021 11:35

Kids are different so I need just to accept it :D If they are over 10 I don't think you will be able to do something about it. If they are younger you have a chance to behave them more correctly :)

Iheartsheep · 05/02/2021 11:39

Iv had enough now as well. Homeschooling primary aged and secondary aged dc. Iv been furloughed in order to do so which I know is a massive privilege and I'm grateful but being stuck in our small house with no where to escape is getting suffocating. It was fine in the summer when we could break the day up with a bbq or a play in the paddling pool but the weather is so lousy we can't even go for a walk.

Gil55 · 05/02/2021 13:06

The bottom line is the Government have prioritised the lives of elderly people, because, no matter the hysteria in the media, that's the age group most at risk, over the lives and possibly futures of our younger generation who will be paying for these repeated lockdown's, in so many different ways, for years to come. And don't even get me started on what they have done to the SEN community.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 05/02/2021 13:09

@Gil55

The bottom line is the Government have prioritised the lives of elderly people, because, no matter the hysteria in the media, that's the age group most at risk, over the lives and possibly futures of our younger generation who will be paying for these repeated lockdown's, in so many different ways, for years to come. And don't even get me started on what they have done to the SEN community.
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Titsywoo · 05/02/2021 21:37

My DS13 is miserable. He is autistic and really struggles with the home/school thing and I've always had a fight with him to get his homework done. Trying to get him to do remote learning is really difficult and I work very long hours (luckily at home). The school message me every day - why didn't he turn up for registration, this work wasn't submitted etc etc. I get they have to do it but I just feel pressured and even more stressed. I am trying my best and have told them that. I'm also supporting DD who is in year 11 and working very hard but motivation is waning especially as she has no idea if and when she will be doing exams! Totally done here and can't wait for half term...