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I'm totally fucked and had enough of home schooling now....

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Dickorydockwhatthe · 03/02/2021 14:58

And it's appears half the people on my FB feed are feeling the same. I don't even have young kids but the fact I have to force my teens out of bed, remind them to brush their teeth and get dressed is a battle itself. I have one child who refuses to go out and another who refuses to stay in. I'm so done with this shit. How our kids will ever catch up at school and the unseen damage this is doing to their mental health is just unimaginable. Sorry just a rant but I have given up nagging them as it's not helping any of us 😔

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HolaChicos · 03/02/2021 18:58

We have tears from ds8 most days, he hates homeschooling and really misses his friends. It doesn't help that half of his class are in at school (not all key worker or vulnerable children) and then the school send out videos of those children playing at playtime or sending out messages to all parents letting us know that those children who are in school will be going sledging 😡

DorotheaHomeAlone · 03/02/2021 18:59

@Brahumbug that is simply not true. Almost no children have died and very few under 30s in this country. Children absolutely are paying a huge price when they are at incredibly little risk.

MarshaBradyo · 03/02/2021 18:59

@HolaChicos

We have tears from ds8 most days, he hates homeschooling and really misses his friends. It doesn't help that half of his class are in at school (not all key worker or vulnerable children) and then the school send out videos of those children playing at playtime or sending out messages to all parents letting us know that those children who are in school will be going sledging 😡
Sad so glad we’re not getting this stuff. What are they thinking

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HolaChicos · 03/02/2021 19:02

@MarshaBradyo yep it's pretty shit to see really. Makes you feel like your child is missing out by doing the right thing.

orientalknife · 03/02/2021 19:03

At what point would you march/protest to protect your child's future?

MarshaBradyo · 03/02/2021 19:04

Hola I find it hard enough seeing dc in school uniform with friends whilst we slog it out on screen.

Let alone dc seeing friends together via video.

foxywheaton75 · 03/02/2021 19:07

Similar in our house too. Teenager who is not the most academic at best of times but struggles with online lessons and our WiFi is rubbish also.
He is missing his friends and as already mentioned just the normal hanging out.
I can see his lovely happy self deteriorating in front of my eyes.
I get the need for the restrictions but feel so bad for him.
ThanksThanksThanks to all those feeling it.

SinkGirl · 03/02/2021 19:11

January has been an utter nightmare for us. Our twins were supposed to be attending their specialist school full time. After two days they had to isolate, then the school went to two days a week for everyone due to low staff levels - they eventually went back for two days and immediately had to self isolate again. We’ve had constant meltdowns, self harm, night terrors, can’t engage them in learning.

But it’s just too simplistic to say it’s safe for schools to open. If they were open, there’d be constant cases and self isolation anyway which is even more stressful and disruptive. Children may not generally get terribly sick but their parents / families might.

I work in maternity and we were pretty much fine in the first two lockdowns - this time is completely different, such a massive impact on staff and more COVID cases in the unit. I don’t think some people realise how bad it is actually.

Theimpossiblegirl · 03/02/2021 19:11

@orientalknife

At what point would you march/protest to protect your child's future?
The problem is we're in the middle of a pandemic. Schools haven't closed to most children on a whim. Marching isn't going to help. Staying home is.
HolaChicos · 03/02/2021 19:17

@MarshaBradyo yeah ds finds it hard too. They have a zoom meeting every morning so you get to see who's in school and who's at home, the numbers for those in school seem to be steadily increasing week after week.

Gil55 · 03/02/2021 19:49

I hear ya. I have had a God awful day since yesterday's announcement from Scottish Government that only P1-P3 are going back at the end of February. I have two SEN kids - one 16 year old with Aspergers who detests school at the best of times and has no intention of engaging with online learning and the other with more complex needs who just doesn't understand why he's not in school and whose progress I have had to watch slowly regress during repeated lockdowns. And I am supposed to be working from home. I can't believe we are sacrificing our young people's futures for the mostly (because despite all the fearmongering in the media, that's what it is) very elderly population who are at risk of dying from this virus. We should all be back at work and our kids should be back in school receiving an education, which is their human right, now that the very elderly are being vaccinated.

Brahumbug · 03/02/2021 21:02

@DorotheaHomeAlone

I am afraid it is true. Deaths are not the only metric for assessing covid. Children maybe less at risk but the risk is still significant. They are also a vector for spreading the disease to more vulnerable groups. I do sympathise as my kids are equally fed up but we have to make sacrifices.

Scotinoz · 03/02/2021 21:05

We have two KS1 kids and both WFH/home schoo etc.

Gratifying to read that today seemed to be a shit day all around it it wasn’t just in our house.

Kids are over it, hideously behaved through boredom/lack of stimulation/lack of parental input etc, and we’re at breaking point.

I read articles about people saying parents who are struggling at home schooling are at fault - bad time management, don’t care about their children etc - and literally want to punch them.

I do care about my children, I just have an employer who expects me to earn my salary and to do so requires me to work during normal working hours when the rest of the industry does.

I’m generally an reasonably stoic person but this lockdown has me (and husband) completely defeated.

Lovingmylife · 03/02/2021 21:14

I didn't even really try to do school work with dd7 apart from to mention it a couple of times as I was on calls and have so much work to do. It's shit. She cried at bedtime as she has had no one to play with all day..I'm going to try blow.off some meetings tomorrow as she has been so sad today.

carolinesbaby · 03/02/2021 21:20

I am completely, utterly fucked off with "home schooling". Fucking live lessons for a six year old on Teams! We have an old home PC which will run Teams - but doesn't have a camera. We have an old iPad, which won't run iOS recent enough to run Teams. I have a work laptop but I am restricted to what I can run on it plus I'm using it work work. So my 6 year old is trying to do fucking Teams lessons on my phone. It's completely unfair and unsustainable. I will put up with this til 8th March, no longer.

CountessFrog · 03/02/2021 21:28

I didn’t consent to it, that’s the thing.

I wouldn’t have, either. I would have properly shielded the vulnerable. The decision to restrict my liberty was taken without my consent.

carolinesbaby · 03/02/2021 21:32

@HolaChicos

We have tears from ds8 most days, he hates homeschooling and really misses his friends. It doesn't help that half of his class are in at school (not all key worker or vulnerable children) and then the school send out videos of those children playing at playtime or sending out messages to all parents letting us know that those children who are in school will be going sledging 😡
ThT is ridiculously unfair. I think I'd complain to the school about how insensitive that is when most kids are locked up at home being ignored while their parents try to work.
MrsGulDukat · 03/02/2021 21:41

I have a 13 year old with zero motivation and I'm still going out to work 3 days a week.

I've had to resort in using her gadgets to get her to do her school work. She has to buy time on them by doing the work.

I'm gonna throw a party when she goes back to school.

Beaniecats · 03/02/2021 21:48

@CountessFrog

I didn’t consent to it, that’s the thing.

I wouldn’t have, either. I would have properly shielded the vulnerable. The decision to restrict my liberty was taken without my consent.

This, absolutely
Seriouslymole · 03/02/2021 21:56

[quote Brahumbug]@DorotheaHomeAlone

I am afraid it is true. Deaths are not the only metric for assessing covid. Children maybe less at risk but the risk is still significant. They are also a vector for spreading the disease to more vulnerable groups. I do sympathise as my kids are equally fed up but we have to make sacrifices.[/quote]
And yet, “we” are not making the sacrifices, are we? Our children are. We are fucking over our children’s present and their future because we need to “protect the NHS”. The NHS is a service which should be serving us, not being protected at massive, massive cost to the next generation.

@orientalknife - March on - I’m right behind you.

SinkGirl · 03/02/2021 21:59

@CountessFrog

I didn’t consent to it, that’s the thing.

I wouldn’t have, either. I would have properly shielded the vulnerable. The decision to restrict my liberty was taken without my consent.

It’s not possible to “properly shield the vulnerable”, since those who are most vulnerable are those who are most reliant on care, assistance, medical treatment etc. Do you honestly not think that if this government could have kept this in control by only shielding the vulnerable they’d gave done all this? The vulnerable have been shielding but it’s not sufficient.
SinkGirl · 03/02/2021 22:01

The NHS is serving us, but if nearly half the midwives in your local unit are off with COVID or self isolating, who’s going to assist in the birth of our babies? Same goes for any other acute service.

What exactly is the NHS supposed to do if infection rates are out of control?

goldielockdown2 · 03/02/2021 22:11

I didn't consent to it

Exactly how I feel. Exactly what my 10 year old DD said yesterday. 'I didn't agree to this set up'.
It's not a question of being willing to put up with this, I'm having to go along with it like everyone else but I'm not willing. The resentment is really starting to kick in with my kids now, and myself. I can't blame them for how they feel as I'm not happy either.

GloGirl · 03/02/2021 22:20

@orientalknife

No kids should be locked down

It's a fucking disgrace and I'm surprised there isn't more uproar

Pretty much.
CountessFrog · 03/02/2021 22:21

www.juliusruechel.com/2021/01/bystander-at-switch-moral-case-against.html?m=1

Reading this sort of captured how I felt, roughly.

I work in the NHS. So does DH. So did my mother.

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