I'm totally fucked and had enough of home schooling now....

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And it's appears half the people on my FB feed are feeling the same. I don't even have young kids but the fact I have to force my teens out of bed, remind them to brush their teeth and get dressed is a battle itself. I have one child who refuses to go out and another who refuses to stay in. I'm so done with this shit. How our kids will ever catch up at school and the unseen damage this is doing to their mental health is just unimaginable. Sorry just a rant but I have given up nagging them as it's not helping any of us 😔

If you work in the NHS then you know that this is nonsense.

Mandatory lockdowns are leading to the deaths of countless individuals through cancelled/delayed medical operations, suicides, drug overdoses, loneliness and isolation in nursing homes, and more.

What do you think would have happened to medical treatment, surgeries, mental health services, social care and etc if the virus were allowed to spread without these controls?

If schools were open, they’d be frequently closing bubbles due to positive cases. If the need for self isolation were removed to enable children to stay in school, this would have an enormous impact on transmission.

Believe me, I know it’s shit. We are having an awful time. I just don’t understand what people think a viable alternative is?

Ot is hard half term cant come soon enough!
Not sure they had a choice on school closures, the staff were dropping like flies at our local schools and my kids isolated 3 times each last term! Glad the numbers are dropping now school closed. Just want normality but cant see how that can happen as vaccinations of top4 groups arent going to make a major difference to schools....

@MarshaBradyo

How old are your dc op?

What’s the provision like?

It's all pre recorded lessons with a teacher on chat or online quizzes. Kids don't feel they are learning anything. Eldest slept in bed all day yesterday. I rang the school to tell them know he wasn't engaging etc and he hasn't been set work for some subjects or at least that's what he's telling me and they didn't really say alot!! I would have hoped they would have spoke to him as he's not listening to us. I then get an email to say they are monitoring engagement and both children have low engagement 🙄. At that point I said fuck it and drunk some gin. I know they aren't engaging the 16 year old walks out most days or refuses to get out of bed. Dh took his phone off him and he basically ran away. So yes they are home learning and I don't need you to tell me so. I need help 😭😭😭😭

The government isn't doing this for fun.
There is a terrible pandemic. The health service is being overwhelmed. We need schools closed as when they opened in September rates of COVID exploded.
It's rubbish but it's essential.

I am not sure what the alternative is either. All I know is that this virus, while awful, kills a small minority of those who catch it. Can you imagine how much worse it would be if it was any more deadly? Doesn’t bear thinking about.

This thread made me feel sort of normal. I am on the same as you all 😢 I work at the hospital and so passionate about my job and yesterday I came home with my two beautiful kids who worked so hard with their remote learning, I planned of taking them out but the other one wants to stay in and other one wants to go out. Then I have a husband who made me feel like I am slave and to do everything just cause he works from home or earn the more money. I am feeling so resentful! Its my second marriage (5months)

I just want to know what the plan is for education when they go back. Those children who have started primary or secondary, year 10 and year 11s, 12's. They've effectively missed a whole year of learning. I'm worried they will put extra pressure on them to catch up which will even be more detrimental to their mental health.

I have 2 teens (and a younger one), there are good days and bad days and very bad days indeed, you are not alone.

If it's so essential schools are closed, people should keep their DC at home, like they did in March/April/May/June/July

I am now having to work with key worker children every day, and DH is also having to work out of the house while our own children are lying in the dark, logging into Teams from their bed and then sleeping or watching TV. If they don't have a huge sibling row when they happen to meet in the kitchen at lunch time then it's going well. So now we're going to have to send them in to school- as we're both key workers this will be easy to sort. This lockdown will never end if every one who can send their child in to school does so though! Every one has had enough of home schooling. It's crap. I wish DH and I could choose our holiday as that would be the next eight weeks sorted (nine including half term). But for now I will have to drag DD though her GCSEs from 5pm - 9p. She's bored and and lonely and if/when I do take her to school she'll have to sit outside for an hour because I need to be at work by 8:30am (and work until 4pm with no break or PPE haha!) And I'll have to pay for the public bus for to come home, even though I've already paid for the school bus,which isn't running atm.

@OP I have come to the conclusion that if DC1 fails his GCSEs, because his MH plummeted, and he really did not see the point given no-one can tell him how his grades will be worked out, and because, bloody hell we are all living through a world-changing event that it is quite difficult to ignore, and quite reasonably affects his motivation and aspiration, then he can simply resit them. No tragedy.

[quote Ihatemyseleffordoingthis]**@OP* I have come to the conclusion that if DC1 fails his GCSEs, because his MH plummeted, and he really did not see the point given no-one can tell him how his grades will be worked out, and because, bloody hell we are all living through a world-changing event that it is quite* difficult to ignore, and quite reasonably affects his motivation and aspiration, then he can simply resit them. No tragedy.[/quote]
I think I need to accept this too. I just wish the school would either help me or get off my case and stop reminding me of what I already know.

I’m up with my 10 year old right now who is tearful and anxious and lonely. My 13 year old is entirely unmotivated and uninterested in almost everything. I am juggling WFH, Google classrooms, Teams, clutching at my sanity, I’m bored, drained, fed up, I’m trying desperately to feel optimistic but it is not coming easily to me.

I have hit a wall today! Two teenagers, one doing a levels and the other GCSEs and trying to wfh. Eldest is not too bad, quite self motivated but the youngest has totally given up. Just sits there with books in front of them not actually doing anything. I checked this evening the work he had done today (and already sent to the teacher) and I am honestly embarrassed, an 8 year old could have done better. I have made peace with the fact he will be failing and having to retake next year as there will be no time for those in exam years to catch up.

The only consolation for dc at critical ages is that covid is a get out of jail card... People know some schools did f all and others broke every gut to move forward...

My dc arnt at critical ages so that pressure isn't on us

@HolaChicos

We have tears from ds8 most days, he hates homeschooling and really misses his friends. It doesn't help that half of his class are in at school (not all key worker or vulnerable children) and then the school send out videos of those children playing at playtime or sending out messages to all parents letting us know that those children who are in school will be going sledging 😡

WTF 😯☹

I'm fed up as well. I have two teens but I'm working long hours so have to leave them to get on with it. Ds13 has SEN and struggles to engage with schoolwork at home so I'm often telling him to submit classwork at 9pm. On other hand he has made a bot that signs into teams each morning so he doesn't have to wake up for registration . He should be choosing his options now but nothing has been said. Dd16 is in year 11 and is working hard but struggling to get all her art coursework done and we have had zilch from the art department - no replies to emails, no contact during lessons, no checking in. Both the art teachers have primary school aged kids but I still don't think it is good enough. And i can guarantee they'll be ranting and raving that the students haven't finished their portfolios when they go back to school.

Can't wait for half term just wish that was the end ot it.

Wow the Great Barrington lot are out in force on here. Discredited herd immunity approach.

Secondary kids were the most infected subset of the population by far. They were 7 times more likely to be the first case in their household and twice as likely to pass it to a family member. That’s why schools had to close.

The good news is that infection rates in secondary kids has dropped massively since they closed in December, showing that school was the major centre of transmission for that age group.

If it continues to fall, we can get them back to school. BUT we shouldn’t be putting them back in the same conditions as they were in September or it’ll all just kick off again.

I think every student across all ages should get a year off and repeat the same class next year. Doesn't matter if they miss a year if everybody does. They should no be asked to study under lockdown. It's ineffective anyway. Not much sink in even if they do their lessons and do their best. After few hours of screen lectures their brain is fried! Mine will be! Even at my work, which is conducted 100% via a screen, I don't have to listen to someone talking to me all day, and focus and take it all in like my life depends on it.
Give them the freedom. It's the decent thing to do under these circumstances. Write off this school year and release the parents from this extra stress. Like we don't have enough with all the rest of it.
No disaster will happen if they are one year behind on education/career.

@orientalknife

No kids should be locked down

It's a fucking disgrace and I'm surprised there isn't more uproar

Oh seriously stop overreacting ! You do know there is children in this country who are CEV have been unable to return to school and have been in their family bubble for a god damn year now yet I come on mumsnet and I find huge overreactions to kids having been in lockdown now for 6 weeks ....I think they might be fine !

@Sadsiblingatsea

Do parents feel the ‘cure’ of lockdown is worth sacrificing their kids for? Shield the vulnerable and let the healthy live their lives. I’m amazed there hasn’t been a revolution but when people are frightened they will put up with anything

Back to this nonsense again as well I see. I will keep my children locked up forever then just so yours can carry on with their lives. You know my child who was perfectly healthy until they caught a virus which has left them with long term health conditions....but people like you are too selfish to realise it could happen to your own kids and then would you still feel the same about having to keep them locked down for potentially years just so the 'normal healthy' people can get on with life ?

My son is in reception so I’m at the other end of this wonderful experience.

Trying to reach a four year old to read with his toddler sister screams and tries to grab the iPad with his lessons on = impossible. I can’t get him to hold a pen or pencil to write as he has motor skill issues. He was due to get 1-2-1 help in the classroom but that has obviously been delayed now.

He only has live zoom calls once a day but it’s so sad when he tries to talk to his teacher but doesn’t understand that she has him on mute. He looks so hopeful trying to get her attention and then gives up as he doesn’t get how the system works. Four and five year olds don’t want to chat online, they want to be physically there playing with their friends.

The school has been very supportive and I’m very grateful to the teachers for sending brilliant recorded phonics videos but the days feel endless.

@noblegiraffe - I wondered how long it would be before you arrived like the cavalry. Eventually schools will have to open, and eventually teachers will either have to decide that it is not the environment they want to work in, or, as so many are doing, realise that schools and most other walks of life, will never be and have never been completely safe and just get on with it.

Once the necessary people have been vaccinated, as they are being (and yes I am volunteering in a vaccination centre) done in huge numbers then schools must return.

I hate the feeling that I get from you and indeed from my DD's school, that children are such an inconvenience for schools.

No sure how this thread on difficulties of motivating a teen is at all wrong.

Op and others it’s so hard to see if your dc are lagging. We had it in summer term as provision was different and it was tough.

No - Not