I'm totally fucked and had enough of home schooling now....

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And it's appears half the people on my FB feed are feeling the same. I don't even have young kids but the fact I have to force my teens out of bed, remind them to brush their teeth and get dressed is a battle itself. I have one child who refuses to go out and another who refuses to stay in. I'm so done with this shit. How our kids will ever catch up at school and the unseen damage this is doing to their mental health is just unimaginable. Sorry just a rant but I have given up nagging them as it's not helping any of us 😔

I know that @CallmeAngelina
I just wrote the post quickly. Without spelling out the fine print

Sympathising here. Thankfully mine are older so no home schooling but my heart breaks for DS, 19 last month. He's a promising musician who has seen all his planned( and salaried) shows and performances cancelled, and probably the same this year. His social life was rehearsals, band calls, practising with his mates. All stopped. He has hardly been out of the house for a year at a time when he should have been out and having fun, learning the ropes, having relationships etc. Its sad to see him just playing his bass in his chair in front of a computer screen. He said his life has no purpose now.

I find people on facebook to be a lot more dramatic than people I know in real life.
In real life, everyone understands that schools aren’t safe at the moment and therefore doesn't want their kids going back at the moment. The ones that have kids in school because they’re keyworkers would rather their kids be at home. Of course they all look forward to life being ‘normal’ and hope that happens ASAP.
And not all kids are going to need to catch up. Lots of kids are engaging with live lessons or work that has been set and will be on track. 3 of my daughters teachers have stopped giving homework because they’re getting through so much in lessons that they’re ahead. I hear their lessons and see the work set, it’s all been excellent so far.
I think some people just want their kids in school regardless and even if they felt home learning was working, they would find a problem.
I think I’ve said this on another thread, but I know a mum who is shouting how awful it is on Facebook, their child can’t cope, Microsoft teams doesn’t work, their child can’t access lessons a lot of the time etc. And this isn’t true as my child is in contact with the child and they’re fine and have been in every lesson, done the homework and isn’t having any access problems.
My kids all know school isn’t optional. They get up, shower, have breakfast and then spend the day doing school work. As for refusing to stay in, that’s not an option here either. They know we’re in the middle of a pandemic, they can’t just go out as they want. Thats not the schools fault nor is your kids not listening.

It’s a shit situation but there’s no alternative at the moment.

Oh call me Angela.

What are we now? Maybe ten whole months of you hoping schools just stay closed? Telling parents ‘not to get their hopes up’ or ‘adjust their expectations?’

If they DO open on March 8th, I’m expecting plenty more posts from you saying they are open ‘for now.’ Or maybe ‘watch this space’ or even statistics on mutant variations which will ‘likely close schools.’

I can’t think why you’d be on a thread where parents are expressing that they are at the end of their tether with home schooling? It’s honestly like you seek these threads out to come and heap misery on people who are already pretty miserable.

I thought you were a teacher? Are you part time? You spend a lot of school time on mumsnet looking to menace worried parents.

I missed your ‘avoid disappointed.’

You are so predictable, love.

I have well and truly had enough of homeschooling right now. Have x2 teens who cracking on online but desperately miss their friends and sports. Having to have 6yr DSS as his mum struggling so he’s with us additionally midweek Wed eve to Fri morning alongside the usual every other weekend but partner working outside home (teacher in special school) so I’m having to homeschool/entertain him and it’s all getting bit too much now. Have 9wk DD and she’s not great sleeper at night and I got 90mins sleep so just want to sleep now she’s sleeping but can’t with DSS here. Just want this pandemic over and life to return to some sort of normality befire my maternity leave ends.

@Spudlet

DS is 5 and we are struggling with home learning. He had additional needs and should be being assessed for an EHCP, but that’s all been pushed back now of course. So he will have no extra support in place for next year, and they were already worried about him coping with the transition. I’m worried sick.

Yesterday the children were encouraged to ‘dress to express their feelings’ and one of his classmates put their uniform on, because they want to be at school.

I don’t know what the answer is, but this is really shit. I had a stressful experience yesterday, it would always have stressed me out but I had an absolute screaming meltdown about it (alone in the car). I wonder if I’d have done that without all this shit going on in the background.

They are still doing EHC assessments and must stick to the legal time frame. If you haven’t already put in an application then do it now. If you have, make a complaint about the delay.

It must be a nightmare for people with school age dc at home.
Mine are grown up, one of them is a teacher and says even the dc that are in school are so fed up because barely any of their friends are there and there are so many extra ridiculous rules.
We are all so over this monotonous existence.

@CountessFrog

Oh call me Angela.

What are we now? Maybe ten whole months of you hoping schools just stay closed? Telling parents ‘not to get their hopes up’ or ‘adjust their expectations?’

If they DO open on March 8th, I’m expecting plenty more posts from you saying they are open ‘for now.’ Or maybe ‘watch this space’ or even statistics on mutant variations which will ‘likely close schools.’

I can’t think why you’d be on a thread where parents are expressing that they are at the end of their tether with home schooling? It’s honestly like you seek these threads out to come and heap misery on people who are already pretty miserable.

I thought you were a teacher? Are you part time? You spend a lot of school time on mumsnet looking to menace worried parents.

This, from someone who professes to work in mental health, yet who last week sneered at a poster who was in tears with stress. Oh yes, because she was a teacher, and apparently teachers don't deserve compassion.

The poster posted something incorrect, which may well serve to give false hope to those who yes, are at the ends of their tethers with all this. And you are wrong; NOWHERE have I expressed the desire for schools to stay closed - the GOVERNMENT closed them as a public health intervention. Teachers had no say in that, despite what U4T bots might say, but if you're asking if we were "happy" to be working in the petri-dish of infection that we were in December, then I can't imagine there were many teachers who would say yes. We could see more clearly than anyone else what the situation on the ground was like at the time.

Yes, I'm part-time, if you're worried, although I have been working 13+hour days 5 days a week plus 7 ish on weekends since this latest lockdown began I also worked full hours from May half term, as my school opened to all year groups at that point. Don't expect a medal for that, but it's just to set the record straight as you seem determined to paint me as some sort of lazy fucker. Why is that, I wonder?

I'm fed up too. I don't even have any grounds to because both my teenagers get up and do it all themselves.
But I am totally fed up.
However email from school today hoping they can return after Feb 1/2 term. And funnily enough I wasn't happy with that. Because I think it's too early. Too dangerous. So clearly I'm all of a dither.

there are so many extra ridiculous rules.

🙄 Well, I’m sure they’re not actually ridiculous and are there to try to keep children and staff safe.

@Seriouslymole

"The NHS is a service which should be serving us, not being protected at massive, massive cost to the next generation."

The NHS is serving us. The protection is to prevent it being overwhelmed and effectively grinding to a halt. The death rate is not the only metric, huge numbers of people are in icu in order for them to recover, not to mention the normal business of the NHS such as cancer treatment, a subject I have a direct interest in as my DH is undergoing treatment.

[quote Seriouslymole]@noblegiraffe - I wondered how long it would be before you arrived like the cavalry. Eventually schools will have to open, and eventually teachers will either have to decide that it is not the environment they want to work in, or, as so many are doing, realise that schools and most other walks of life, will never be and have never been completely safe and just get on with it.

Once the necessary people have been vaccinated, as they are being (and yes I am volunteering in a vaccination centre) done in huge numbers then schools must return.

I hate the feeling that I get from you and indeed from my DD's school, that children are such an inconvenience for schools.[/quote]
Yup

It's ok, @seriouslymole has just apologised on another thread for misunderstanding my posts.

"or, as so many are doing, realise that schools and most other walks of life, will never be and have never been completely safe and just get on with it."

What, you mean like we all did up until Christmas, when even the Government finally realised operating as normal with no mitigations was a crazy idea?

Didn't even log in today couldn't be arsed
We had a pj day everyone be happy 😃

It's nearly half term
💐

In the meantime ☕️🍫🍷

Email the school, tell them you're doing your best & to please not keep on at YOU. Tell them to contact the kids directly. Tell them
It's stressful enough without additional nagging.

And all those a holes sayings kids spread it around.... and all schools should be closed
Get a life

all those a holes sayings kids spread it around

Do you mean SAGE? Based on evidence that they do?

@Oblomov21

I'm fed up too. I don't even have any grounds to because both my teenagers get up and do it all themselves. But I am totally fed up. However email from school today hoping they can return after Feb 1/2 term. And funnily enough I wasn't happy with that. Because I think it's too early. Too dangerous. So clearly I'm all of a dither.

Where are you Oblomov? Do you mean earlier than 8 March

Cansu... six weeks... my eldest had six weeks in isolation between Sept-Dec in year 11 due to cases in her year, hadn’t been near them but the entire year group shut, now this plus last year so please don’t give me six weeks. By the time this ends she will have missed half a year of schooling in the most crucial year.

Hmm. Kids don't spread it around?

Tell that to the staff of a friend's school where a child was sent in ill before Christmas, was sent home, tested positive. Their teacher, TA and several other members of staff subsequently tested positive. 2 family members of those staff members caught it and were hospitalised, requiring ventilation.

Yeah, arseholes.

@Toocold

Cansu... six weeks... my eldest had six weeks in isolation between Sept-Dec in year 11 due to cases in her year, hadn’t been near them but the entire year group shut, now this plus last year so please don’t give me six weeks. By the time this ends she will have missed half a year of schooling in the most crucial year.

If the school went back, then surely it was similar to that then? More SI, rather than school closed. What's the difference? So I don't really understand people wanting school to open as it is. I really hate the fact school is closed, but it's way better than going back now without any difference from last term, and don't know if dc is in or out of school week after week, as well as added SI in the mix.

Xerochrysum

I didn’t say I want the schools to open...

Although having said that I would imagine schools will have to change re: covid and cases once the most vulnerable have been vaccinated as we will not be doing track and trace forever and things will change this year.