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Do you know anyone who did the "I'm just going to the shop to buy a paper" thing and who then disappeared forever?

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AliceAir · 29/01/2021 22:07

Another thread on here reminded me of a girl I was in school with years ago. Her mother apparently popped to the shop to but some potatoes and never came home, and was never heard of again.

I'm not meaning people who have met with foul play but people who have decided to disappear and then done so.

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SilverOtter · 06/02/2021 13:26

My great great grandmother, Hannah, was living in a small Hertfordshire village with her family when she fell pregnant aged 16. She gave birth to my great grandfather in March 1902 and cared for him for the first few weeks of his life. She registered him but put no father on the birth certificate.

By the 1910 census, he was living with his foster family and Hannah had vanished. I've never been able to find any trace of what happened to her - no death or marriage records and I haven't found her on any passenger manifests of ships leaving the country. My great grandfather never knew any of his biological family, despite growing up in Hertfordshire not far away from them.

My hypothesis is that she adopted a new name and started over, which must've been much easier to do in the 1900's than it would be today! It's a mystery I dearly wish I could solve and I often wonder what happened to Hannah.

Zakana · 06/02/2021 15:42

My younger DSis one night when she couldn’t sleep, decided to start a search on one of those ancestry websites. We have a tiny family, it’s just me, my DSis and our grown up kids now, my mother died in 2007. About six months later, an alert pops up stating someone is looking for details about my mother. One of my aunts who I have not seen since I was tiny got in touch. Rather than answer a lot of questions, it just made us ask more, we inadvertently opened a can of worms. My mother, from the age of 16 to 25 years old had five boys, all under the age of 7, lived in a caravan with an extremely abusive and violent husband, she upped and disappeared, we never knew any of this. Her father banished her from the family because she had left her husband and children. Then found out her ex-husband was up on a rape charge and arson with intent to endanger life some years ago with at least one of the sons, got a long stretch inside for it. My mother never saw any of her family again, and she came from a large family.

Just to confuse matters, my birth certificate does not have a father on it, but my sister’s does, the name being the man I always called dad. Now appears my mum could have been pregnant with me already, the man I called dad was a bit older than my mum and helped her get away. I guess what I am saying is that my sister and I are half sisters, not full sisters as we had been led to believe.

The long and short of it is my sister and I have decided not to approach that side of the family anymore, we are happy as we are and are very close.

Imagine though, living in a caravan with five boys under the age of 7 or 8 and an abusive violent husband and getting no help from your family, and in fact, them cutting off all contact with you, I just wish she had told us while she was still alive, perhaps she didn’t know how to tell us.

DeusEx · 06/02/2021 18:27

@SilverOtter wow! What an enormous family secret - and so sad for your poor mum :( wise to leave that side alone given how they treated her, I think...

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Whatwhenhowwhy · 08/02/2021 11:03

My grandmother left her 2 children age 3 and 18months in about 1959ish with their dad never to be seen again my mum found a letter from her that she was never shown saying she missed her son but there was never ever any contact and despite attempts to find her no luck so I assume she didn't care or want to be found and their dad wouldnt allow it anyway I have traced family history on various websites and heard various rumours then death notice in her name appeared with same date of birth in a different country so think she emigrated moved on and didn't want to know anything about her kids

Zakana · 10/02/2021 08:55

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Those poor children being left with an abusive father zakana, that’s heartbreaking.
That’s the thing though, sounds like they were a chip off the old block, much like their father, he wasn’t abusive to them, just my late mum according to the relatives i have had contact with. I just can’t imagine being so scared that I would leave my kids, the relative did say she was going through hell, upped and left overnight with my father (at least the one I thought was my dad until now).
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Zakana · 10/02/2021 09:26

@Handsoffstrikesagain

The children are most likely a chip off the Old block because they were brought up in an abusive household and no doubt witnessed violence towards their mother and themselves.
Just wish my mum had talked about it, and not treated it as a taboo subject.
wheredidtheygoto · 10/02/2021 16:38

I have a friend who is the youngest in her family by over 20 years. When she was 3 her eldest brother got married and moved to another country with his wife. His wife was pregnant at the time.
One day a stranger knocked on his parents door and handed them their infant nephew. He was about 9months old. He was raised by his grandparents and has never seen or heard from his parents since. No one knows where they are.

Another one where the man was working in another country and returning home regularly to see his wife and 5 kids. He went back to work and left her pregnant with number 6 and he never returned. That baby is now 62, never met his father and has no idea where he went.

hopingforicepopweather · 14/02/2021 15:29

I left my family at one point for a few months. I did keep in touch though.

shrunkenhead · 14/02/2021 15:48

I often wonder what happened to the chef, Claudia Lawrence, who went missing in York.

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