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Here we are again, gaining sequels even more rapidly than the Fast and the Furious...

Monthly doubling over today. Grumble.

Can beat the sweat thing. Read over a friend's shoulder that the BBC had a note saying that chatting spreads the virus.

The intent is to destroy all human interaction, isn't it? That video I posted threads back starts to seem less farfetched.

I get a daily email from a German newspaper (Handelsblatt). This was in today's email.
It shows the reduction in GDP this century depending on how long schools are closed for. Obviously they are talking about German schools but good to see the analysis is being done somewhere.

Some hope here ( though Germany)
twitter.com/MichaelPSenger/status/1352392845068361728?s=19

And I don't understand it enough yet but I'm curious about the new WHO communications about PCR testing.

So this separation doesn't seem to be going ahead, he won't move in with his parents because he thinks it's too covid risky because he works and the youngest is in nursery. I'm sure it's an excuse because we saw them at Christmas but I can't really argue with their health. He wants to pretend everything is normal until 6 months after lockdown finishes and then we can decide what to do but the longer this goes on the more trapped I'm beginning to feel.

I've been looking at moving out but it's a very drastic decision, I was hoping to separate temporarily incase it is all lockdown related. I really don't know what to do for the best, having him around isn't helping because he's so insistent that everything will be ok and he's constantly trying to get me to get physical. The more he pushes the more I want to run away!

@mightbealittlebitmad 6 months after lockdown finishes could be September, that is such a long time for you to be living like this. I can't remember, have your parents passed away? I hope that you do have someone to talk to. You are worth more than this

[quote smallandimperfectlyformed]@mightbealittlebitmad 6 months after lockdown finishes could be September, that is such a long time for you to be living like this. I can't remember, have your parents passed away? I hope that you do have someone to talk to. You are worth more than this [/quote]
My parents are a couple of hours drive away, they are happy to have us for the short term but it's not ideal.

His parents are an hour away so I said every other weekend he can take the kids there and every other weekdays for 3 nights he can stay here and I'll try stay somewhere else.

I'm feeling more and more trapped by the day so it's going to end up with one big explosion where I have a massive go at him which makes things so much worse. I need to stay calm.

My poor friends and my mum are getting their ears talked off lately. It's helping but I just want to sit with them in person with some wine and some chocolate and sort it all out.

Is anyone else finding the Ds in their life are getting worse....and those weren't Ds are now getting scared?

I live in a very large block of flats and there's been a serious outbreak of D this time. One neighbour even tried to tell me "coronavirus didn't exist before". (Actually it was part of a larger conversation where he turned out to be unware of SARS even though he's older than me. I suspect he just forgot it because the media didnt' make such a fuss).

I'm surrounded by Ds, or people who have fallen for the "divide and conquer" rhetoric.

@2020BogOff

I keep thinking about the health thing. I don’t want to sound sanctimonious (as I have some minor health issues myself caused by years of hard partying and no exercise) but if we really want to protect the NHS we need to do three things:

Cut back on alcohol consumption
Eat a healthy diet
Do 20 to 30 minutes of hard exercise every day

The reduction in alcohol consumption would be an instant easy win as cases of violence would immediately fall. The other two have longer term effectiveness.

If the government found ways to promote healthy living instead of focusing on scaring people, and if we as a nation could move away from using alcohol as a crutch, we would have more capacity within the health service for pandemics and other non preventable diseases.

Healthy diet and exercise have also been shown to keep T cell immunity strong into old age, and help to prevent dementia.

Instead of encouraging health the government seem intent on making us unhealthier.

I don’t know what the answer is, as the reasons behind poor relationships with alcohol and food are often deep-rooted, but I do know that self responsibility should be promoted by someone who understands people’s behaviour. It’s a shame Dominic Cummings could not turn his very excellent manipulative techniques to do some good and figure out how beat to encourage a truly healthy society.

@mightbealittlebitmad. You poor thing. That is no way to live. Do you really believe it to be lockdown related or has it just highlighted issues that were hidden?

[quote Worldgonecrazy]@mightbealittlebitmad. You poor thing. That is no way to live. Do you really believe it to be lockdown related or has it just highlighted issues that were hidden?[/quote]
I think it's just highlighted issues in all honesty that I didn't realise were there. We've been together for 14 years, 2 of them were spent at at Uni living apart so we didn't see each other every day/night. 2 of the years were spent living an hour apart so we only saw each other for 2 days once a week. When we moved in together I worked shifts so there could be 5 days a week where I didn't actually see him. We spent a lot of time doing things separately, watching TV and eating separately so we've always lived very separate lives. Maternity leave was different because we had a small baby, I wasn't totally isolated from everyone but on both occasions tempers were frayed and I was on the verge of walking out.

Now I'm just finding it all so hopeless. During lockdown 1 I felt trapped, felt resentful at him being able to lead a normal life whilst I was stuck at home with the kids not able to see anyone.

Once it was lifted I felt free and hated being at home. I stayed at work later to avoid coming home, made arrangements with my friends to go out, went to stay with my mum for a week and didn't miss him at all.

The more he tries to push us back together the more I want to walk out the door. If he's upset about our situation he wants comfort from me, if I don't want to hug him or sit with him he gets annoyed. I've been called a twat, selfish, a bitch, been told he hates me, the kids will hate me, I'll end up alone because nobody will want me if I'm living in a council house on benefits, our families will hate me, I'll have no money, he will have no money so I'll ruin all our lives. Then he says he loves me, doesn't want to let me go, he will do whatever it takes to keep us together.

My head is spinning because I'm trying to figure it all out, the house is a state and I'm talked at all day long by the 5 year old and trying my best to engage him in homeschooling but it's a struggle. I'm looking for places to live but viewing them with the kids is impossible and nobody wants to come look after them for an hour or nobody is able to.

@AcornAutumn One of my friends who has been quite dementory from the start has definitely got worse. I don’t know why, she’s very fit, good diet, no underlying health conditions but she is petrified of catching Covid. I asked her if she wanted to meet up for a walk today as the weather is nice but she’s apparently only going out now to collect her shopping as it’s too dangerous outside

My diet is appalling at the moment. Can’t summon up the energy or enthusiasm to cook properly any more and I love cooking. If it can’t be shoved in the oven and washed down with wine I’m not interested. Lacking the motivation to look after myself currently.

@mightbealittlebitmad

iheart I think there's a number of factors at play with this, but I suspect one of them is it that makes lockdown "justified" to them.

to everybody.

I have some minor health issues myself caused by years of hard partying and no exercise

I somehow managed to keep up lots of exercising whilst hard partying though I still also have minor health problems!

This is interesting, if upsetting, from Japan. A 14% increase in suicides amongst women, over 300 child suicides, but a slight decrease for men. Seems to back up a lot of what's been said on these threads over the months of a disproportionate impact on women and children from lockdowns. I wonder what a similar study would find here? Very sad. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/uk-55763212?nsmchannel=social&nsssource=twitter&nscampaign=bbcclive&nslinkname=600ab079424aad02ec84d60a%26Japan%27s%20suicide%20rate%20rises%20amid%20pandemic%262021-01-22T12%3A15%3A32.037Z&nssfee=0&pinnedposttlocator=urn:asset:07876b74-bb5b-4e2d-bd64-ea5359eeee7c&pinnedposttassetid=600ab079424aad02ec84d60a&pinneddpost_type=share

14% is an enormous increase, that is just awful. I don't doubt a significant increase here too.

Feels like the news cycle is ramping up the far again. SkyNews (who I switched to away from the BBC as they were being less hysterical) had the lead story headline "say goodbye to your wife and unborn child" up last night all the way through to this morning. That is fear mongering pure and simple. I'd complain if I didn't know they'd just file it in the ignore box.

@tabbystar 😎😎😎😎

I think I'm in trouble. OH said no mixing with grandkids. He left for bike ride an hour ago. I saw his v expensive electric bike at neighbors so grabbed it and put behind garage. Hes not turned up yet so presume he's still in neighbors. He's going to go nuts when he thinks it stolen isn't he

I don't get that @justasking111, does that mean your husband has gone to your neighbours? After telling you that you can't meet up with your grandchildren? I am sorry if I have misunderstood. Some of the things you say about him make me worry about you, there was the financial stuff the other day. I hope you are ok

to all those living in untenable situations at the moment. My fear is that things like that are getting worse and worse due to lockdown.

I feel wrung out today. Have been trying to get work done and failing. DD my usually amazingly cheerful, optimistic child was weeping today due to school. We gave it up as a bad job and I took her for a bike ride and to feed the squirrels. She's back to her usual happy self but it takes it toll. Our neighbour who is in our childcare bubble, had DS over for a "change of scene" for his home schooling. Totally crazy that something simple like sitting in someone else's kitchen helps. How on earth have we got here?

Then secondary geography - a model volcano and DS decides the way to go is paper mache. We made the "glue" from flour and water, my amazing best friend talked me through the best way to approach it over the phone and then, when we have finished constructing this vision, I find the bloody dog eating the "glue". FFS. All this whilst trying to deal with DD and her buddy on live French.

We are cutting down on alcohol @Worldgonecrazy - for what it's worth I think you are 100% right on the health issue. The reason the UK is so far down the river of shite for Covid is that we are such an obese nation. However, that said, I will be having wine tonight.

@Seriouslymole

to all those living in untenable situations at the moment. My fear is that things like that are getting worse and worse due to lockdown.

I feel wrung out today. Have been trying to get work done and failing. DD my usually amazingly cheerful, optimistic child was weeping today due to school. We gave it up as a bad job and I took her for a bike ride and to feed the squirrels. She's back to her usual happy self but it takes it toll. Our neighbour who is in our childcare bubble, had DS over for a "change of scene" for his home schooling. Totally crazy that something simple like sitting in someone else's kitchen helps. How on earth have we got here?

Then secondary geography - a model volcano and DS decides the way to go is paper mache. We made the "glue" from flour and water, my amazing best friend talked me through the best way to approach it over the phone and then, when we have finished constructing this vision, I find the bloody dog eating the "glue". FFS. All this whilst trying to deal with DD and her buddy on live French.

We are cutting down on alcohol @Worldgonecrazy - for what it's worth I think you are 100% right on the health issue. The reason the UK is so far down the river of shite for Covid is that we are such an obese nation. However, that said, I will be having wine tonight.

Oh god. I remember the fucking volcano model for geography. Even in normal times tempers were lost Will the dog be ok?

I think I've worked out a route to run tomorrow that isn't calf-deep in mud in the hills, chest deep in water in the valley or knee-grinding, pedestrian dodging pavement pounding.
So much for Run Every Day January, I'm really struggling on finding somewhere I can exercise legally and without drowning!

I saw a new variant on the leaping into bushes/the road scenario today. Walking towards someone, I kept over to one side. He went to leap into the road, but thankfully looked behind and saw cars coming. So instead he started walking backwards away from me! Eventually crossed the road to avoid me.

@Pleasenomoreglitter

I saw a new variant on the leaping into bushes/the road scenario today. Walking towards someone, I kept over to one side. He went to leap into the road, but thankfully looked behind and saw cars coming. So instead he started walking backwards away from me! Eventually crossed the road to avoid me.

Did you laugh? I wouldn’t have been able to help myself!

Big news! This afternoon school called to offer DS a vulnerable child place! Apparently his lovely class teacher has been pushing for the past few weeks and has finally succeeded. There have been tears of relief from DS and me, and tears of disappointment from DD that she can’t go too. She’s too young to understand that the long term benefits of not having autism outweigh the short term misery of being stuck at home with me.
We’ll be classic bitching fodder if MN is to be believed, as most people know I’m not working, but don’t know DS has SN. I couldn’t give a crap.