ADs and their pampered poodles

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Here we are again, gaining sequels even more rapidly than the Fast and the Furious...

Not germane to the conversation but I thought a gratuitous cat picture might be nice.

@ISaySteadyOn

Not germane to the conversation but I thought a gratuitous cat picture might be nice.

Always welcome! How gorgeous.

Thanks Piccadilly

What a handsome animal ISay.

DD had jabs today; I now understand anti-vaxxers better - I found I instinctively did not want them to be putting any kind of substance in my baby, and that's before we get to the fact it includes involved needles. I'm now emotionally shredded; she's Calpolled up and sleeping peacefully.

ADs and their gratuitous pussy pictures?!

Small my DD was massively sensitive to everything, not sure when she stopped but I just was sensitive to how she was feeling and didn't push her, and acknowledged her emotions whilst also providing "criticism" in a fairly offhand factual way that wouldn't make a big deal out of it. She's pretty good at laughing at herself now age 17. The book how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will taught massively helped my approach to all that sort of thing.

@TooManyPlatesInMotion, @110APiccadilly, thank you. She is a rescue and she knows she's gorgeous. She is also incredibly soft and I don't know what I would do without her.

My old man. Had him since he was a tiny kitten

@smallandimperfectlyformed

Speaking of resilience, my 5 year old doesn't show very much at the moment. She is very bright but hates being told if she has made a mistake- today she wrote the letter a with the tail the wrong way around and I gently corrected her. This led to her scribbling over her work, crumpling it up into a ball and telling me 'mummy I am just going to do the wrong thing'. Eventually she did rewrite her work but tasks that are supposed to be quite quick take forever because of this. I uploaded her work to the class website and explained the behaviour- her teacher has said she is surprised and asked if a phone call will help. She is very shy and wouldn't say boo to a goose so I do understand that I am her safe space but I am concerned by a lot of things about her- so were her nursery last year too (she was assessed as being behind in communication and motor skills - communication mainly because of shyness but she had even been put in a social group). Sorry, not even sure why I am saying this because I don't know what anyone can do but she is struggling and so, therefore, am I.

My 8 year old DD has similar reactions to any corrections of her work that I point out, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't have the same reaction at school. I always give the feedback very gently too, but she just can't take it from me in the way that she can from her teacher.

Thank you Tabbystar I think I may even own that book but haven't read it (my oldest was difficult too, to be honest parenting doesn't come naturally to me). This evening she has been spitting on me again, she is absolutely exhausting! I am trying to stay calm but it is difficult. Anyway, I will be speaking to her teacher tomorrow and hope that they can speak to someone about the assessment she was supposed to be having (obviously a massive backlog) - as if the poor woman doesn't have enough work to do!

Thank you to you too ElizabethG81. To be fair, I was a bit similar as a child and if I wasn't good at something immediately I hated it and didn't want to do it, hence my lack of ability in maths now. However I would never have screamed at my mum or done any of those things as I was even meek at home!

@ISaySteadyOn
Just done a double-take & gone to check the whereabouts of my black & white cat!
Snap!
(Old photo as he is curled up in bed now, disguising himself as a blanket).

@flower11, @TheOrchidKiller, they're lovely boys 😺

I think the issue with children is that we are their parents, not their teachers. There's a difference between doing a bit of homework or reading with them, & having to do all of the work every day for weeks. The relationship is all wrong - they come to us for cuddles when school is tough, but here we are, trying to get them to do the tough schooling. And there's little in the way of reward at the moment.

None of this is your fault. I had one child who was a nightmare with working at home (all pre-pandemic), especially if she thought she couldn't do it, & I have one who just gets on with it. I don't know why they are so different. Unfortunately, I have no helpful tips.

I've been dreadful at bedtime reading in the past year. 5 years after starting the learning to read with a child that turned out to be very dyslexic, my reserves were wearing thin anyway, but I'm just to done in with them to fight it and weedle it.
Fair play to DS1, he will quietly read in his room, either post meltdown or at night.
DS2 hasn't really clicked with reading for pleasure yet. Then again, DS1 was about this age when he suddenly twigged that there were words with meanings around him... not something DS2 has had the chance to notice.

I'm just burned out from the constant company of family, and stupid stuff like not being able to listen to the radio when I want to. And if I stick earphones on, it seems to attract everyone to come and yap at me mercilessly.

I think I'm getting to that stage of the month when the morose hormones kick in.

@SirSamuelVimes

ADs and their gratuitous pussy pictures?!

I love it

[quote Victoriacres]@TooManyPlatesInMotion not all who become critically ill or requiring hospitalisation are clearly vulnerable. Hence the anecdotal reports of seemingly healthy people, fit and well, being floored by the virus, not necessarily dying, but off work for weeks if not months. ICU/hospital admissions this wave include many 40-60 year olds with mild or no underlying conditions, people who would not be first in the queue for vaccination but are 'economically productive'. This could amount to 1000s of individuals. Agree that most people have the illness mildly but a large minority take longer than the much vaunted 14 days to recover.[/quote]
I had it Christmas 2019 and it lasted 5 weeks and has left me with residual random kidney pain. There was no test to confirm it then though. I really should get my kidneys checked out for long covid.

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New thread

Reminds me of posting about phallic aubergines

@Taswama

There's an interesting (and as far as I saw civil) thread over there on the link between obesity and severe covid and that the 'fit and healthy ' 40 somethings in ICU are obese but its not mentioned. Are obese younger people getting the vaccine early than people of a healthy weight?

Also, any link to data on age of deaths / severe illness due to covid much appreciated.

A couple I know late forties are both morbidly obese with numerous health problems between them. They have both had their first jab.

@Buzzinwithbez
Youu had a virus which was at that time unlikely to be Covid and are now suffering from post viral syndrome which has been around for forever.

Post viral syndrome is shit but it isn't new.