What have you been judged for?

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Similar to another thread: what do you silently judge people for?

What have you been judged for in the past?

I have been judged for my political opinions and also for feeding the cat too many prawns

[Fizbosshoes]

"allowing" my kids to be fussy eaters
allowing them to co sleep
what I permit them to watch on tv

[NothingIsWrong]

Living in a house that has a name but no number. Apparently I'm a posh bitch.

Using keyworker provision for my children during both this and the last lockdown.

[grassisjeweled]

Low carbing
Not drinking
Being healthy in general
Being good looking
Having a nice house
Blonde too, but only in the UK

[grassisjeweled]

Oh yeah being slim is another one. Women HATE it

[Fembot123]

When I had D.C. but couldn’t drive, I can now.

[Fembot123]

@grassisjeweled

Oh yeah being slim is another one. Women HATE it

Do we? I don’t ☺️

[BumbleBiscuit]

Being childfree (by choice).

Many people find it hard to believe a woman could possibly not be interested in children. Not only not interested, I actively dislike the company of children. I have known since I was a child I’d never have children. Mid-30s now and people still tell me I’ll change my mind one day! DH is the same, he had a vasectomy at 19 and nobody bats an eye, because he’s a man!

[indemMUND]

My eye make up, clothing, piercings and tattoos. On a daily basis.
People have actually been shocked that I have a child. I quote: "...She's yours?! Oh... well you look at her beautiful little face and then look at you... it just doesn't really add up does it?"
On the other hand I'm often mistaken for a teenager when I'm actually in my thirties

[Iknowwhatudidlastsummer]

@grassisjeweled

Oh yeah being slim is another one. Women HATE it

MN posters do hate it.

[AppleCinnamonVanilla]

Living in a nice area. By colleagues.
This is also by family members who know damn well we saved a long time to achieve this.

Reducing my hours of work to three days. I mean, how dare I not be there all week kissing the feet of the managers. Who did I think I was!!! 🙄.

Getting on with my job and not being bitchy about my colleagues.

For talking about nice simple things like nature, music etc instead of being bitchy about my colleagues.

Watching what I eat and getting on with it AND NOT GO ON AND ON AND ON ABOUT IT....I must be hiding something obviously 🙄.

[MotherWol]

IRL, the only thing I’ve got negative comments for is cycling with my child. Amazing how some drivers are about your safety, that they’ll drive inches from your arm to scream at you about how dangerous it is .

On here, I’m sure there are plenty of things I do that other posters don’t like, but that’s not really the same thing.

[Hels20]

The behaviour of my children. They are both adopted and one has significant trauma which can sometimes manifest in violence, directed at me. Not helpful when people in the street stop and tell him off...they have no idea. We are working through it but it isn’t an easy fix.

I used to judge people with badly behaved children - now I realise the behaviour is often because of something - whether ASD, trauma, attachment issues.

[WankPuffins]

@Hels20

The behaviour of my children. They are both adopted and one has significant trauma which can sometimes manifest in violence, directed at me. Not helpful when people in the street stop and tell him off...they have no idea. We are working through it but it isn’t an easy fix.

I used to judge people with badly behaved children - now I realise the behaviour is often because of something - whether ASD, trauma, attachment issues.

People can be interfering arseholes who need to realise that what they see is a snap shot of a life

[MrsHugsxx]

I was told off by a stranger for letting my toddler cry in her buggy while I was on the phone ( I was crying to my DH about something bad that had happened) and feeling utterly stressed, drained and neurotic while my dd was having her 10th meltdown of the day. Phoned my DH for comfort and to put things into perspective. These two women started following me, listening to my conversation and telling me I shouldn't be on the phone and should be dealing with my daughter. I ended up telling them my personal business and the look on their face, they knew they were in the wrong. I was on the way to a parent/ toddler group. I turned around and went home and cried on and off about it for the rest of the day and still think about it sometimes.

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@MrsHugsxx

I was told off by a stranger for letting my toddler cry in her buggy while I was on the phone ( I was crying to my DH about something bad that had happened) and feeling utterly stressed, drained and neurotic while my dd was having her 10th meltdown of the day. Phoned my DH for comfort and to put things into perspective. These two women started following me, listening to my conversation and telling me I shouldn't be on the phone and should be dealing with my daughter. I ended up telling them my personal business and the look on their face, they knew they were in the wrong. I was on the way to a parent/ toddler group. I turned around and went home and cried on and off about it for the rest of the day and still think about it sometimes.

It's awful how these things stick with us even years after. Fuck the pair of them.

[SendHelp30]

Being a SAHM for a few years
Working part time
Driving an SUV
Having a personalised plate on said SUV
Going on AI holidays
Not putting a “proper” or “full” names on my sons birth certificates


😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[MrsHugsxx]

A couple of days later I had all kids with me and a random elderly man told me he loved seeing big families like mine and I was a lovely mum and I really felt like he had been sent to me to say that and it made me feel so much better.

[SendHelp30]

Oh and today by my parents; for voicing we were considering another child.
Not sure what this decision has to do with them. We’ve never asked them to have any of the DC over night, nor help with childcare for work, we could afford another.

Still made me feel crap though and like I won’t now :(

[Maverickess]

Being a single parent
Being overweight
Working in hospitality
Working in care
Living in social housing
Having a low paid job
Being naturally blonde (in fact all of the above at some point have been attributed to being blonde, well that's when I'm not accused of lying about it being natural anyway)
Having a dog
Being furloughed the first time round.
Being a key worker this time round.
Understanding the need for covid restrictions.
Understanding that the covid restrictions are really, really hard on some people.
Not being able to drive.
Being 'into horses' but also being poor. Apparently you can only like horses and know things about them if you're rich.

[RoseMartha]

I have been judged for divorcing my abusive now exh, by his family and some of his friends, but to be fair to them he told them he had done nothing wrong and he totally believes that. I have been blamed for splitting up and ruining the family. I saw a couple of them when I was out walking recently and smiled but they blanked me and turned away.

[StoneBasket]

For being the victim of severe childhood sexual abuse..

[WorriedMillie]

Breastfeeding
Not breastfeeding
Co-sleeping
My career
Giving up said career for a different, lower paying career
Being a SAHM
Going back to work
Having a child outside marriage

Zero fucks given on any account

[Lockdownshmockdown]

@MrsHugsxx

A couple of days later I had all kids with me and a random elderly man told me he loved seeing big families like mine and I was a lovely mum and I really felt like he had been sent to me to say that and it made me feel so much better.

Bless him. It's sometimes hard to remember wee moments like that when arseholes seem intent on ruining your day. He sounds like one of life's good 'uns.

[Dippysauceus]

Being raped and childhood sexual abuse (still ongoing with one person who's cropped her ugly head back up in my life unfortunately)
Mental health
Stutter

[alwayshappensonnye]

For having a successful NHS career despite being under 35. On a few occasions I have entered senior meetings to be asked who I had come on behalf of.

I'm not a judgy person, but what my success has enabled me to do is see potential in in others. If someone's quite young and hungover at their desk, it doesn't bother me as long as the work gets gone. Because that person was quite often me when I fist joined.