What have you been judged for?

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Similar to another thread: what do you silently judge people for?

What have you been judged for in the past?

I have been judged for my political opinions and also for feeding the cat too many prawns

Had my first dc at 26...I looked quite young and I have quite a London accent. I remember asking a hv about my ds needing extra vitamins...I wanted to know from a purely medical/health point of view. Her response was 'are you on benefits?' because they're free if you are. I repeatedly tried to explain to her that the cost wasn't an issue and did he need them? It was such a painful conversation.

I feel very judged as I'm overweight and have a London accent...I'm actually quite middle class and well educated.

I've only ever really received open judgement on MN:

Being told i was not fit to be a mother because I wanted to take the MAP as I didnt want to be pregnant at that time.

Being told I had 'no business' on a sleep thread because my first baby was a poor sleeper - I was told that if my baby was being raised by someone who 'knew what they were doing'.he would sleep.

Being called a 'disgrace to the teaching profession because I was going to send my toddler to his childminder during the first lockdown.

I wont lie, they upset me.

Too fat, too thin.
Too passive, too ambitious.
Too common, too posh.
Too clever, too dumb.
Too rich, too poor.

Cannot win. Do not try.

I like this The Mash comedy news report of Women Have Told Everyone To Just Fuck Off.

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Having a large gap between my kids. When I became pregnant with my 3rd and final my oldest was 12 (so really not that big of a gap) Yet the amount of people that were astounded and even told me.

I’d wonder what they’d think of my parents then - 16 years between me and my sister!

Having my first child at 19
Having two children very close together
Being a SAHM until the youngest was 3
So many other things to do with my children!

Lots of things if the other thread is anything to go by!

One of the joys of getting older though is that you just dgaf anymore.

IRL, probably not that much, as people tend to be too busy with their own lives to care what others are doing.

To be totally honest I have never cared what people "judge" me for, it's irrelevant.

Home educating

Being disabled, having a mobility car & a blue badge, My ex sil said I was a scrounger & she went to work to pay for the benefits I'm on.

Having big ages gaps - 18 years between eldest and youngest.

After reading the other thread I think it's safe to say we are all being judged daily for pretty much everything.

Living in a flat. I've never known judgement like it. I own my own home, solvent, successful but it is all on one floor so I am one of life's failures.

Using a sling for ds (a rod for my own back apparently)
Having ds before getting married (the wrong order apparently)
Many more things!

Northern accent so people assume I'm uneducated and thick.
Wearing scruffs at work (was clearing out cupboards of years worth of rubbish) girl I went to school with really looked down her nose at me, was shocked when she found out I was a Director!
Not Wearing designer gear and face full of slap, I wear clothes for comfort and probably have a lot more money in the bank than them.
Helping a friend out by sitting on the entrance to her event.

I really couldn't care to be honest!

[quote StrippedFridge]Too fat, too thin.
Too passive, too ambitious.
Too common, too posh.
Too clever, too dumb.
Too rich, too poor.

Cannot win. Do not try.

I like this The Mash comedy news report of Women Have Told Everyone To Just Fuck Off.

[/quote] Is this the woman from Snog Marry Avoid. I really like her

Having read the other thread it seems people like my get judged for

Being a working mother
Being an atheist
My politics
Going on holiday with my husband and leaving children with grandparents
Using a dummy, reins etc
Allowing my kids to have fruit shoots, turkey dinosaurs, MVDs
Using Scottish words

Not having children
Not really changing my taste in music/clothes as I have got older

Definitely for being fat, and I suspect for having my first and only child at 37.

Having a father who had an 11 year affair ( and I found out after he died ) then met up with the lady

Returning to work when my DD was 4months old
Being overweight
Going to Orlando on holiday (common apparently)

At the age of 40, I no longer give a toss but it hurt when I was younger

Another one for living in a flat. It’s larger than most houses around here but as Boris would say, Alas, Alack, it’s all on one floor. Next slide please.

Being a strict parent. I am, I think my daughter is better off for it, it works for my family. Yep, including sleep training and weaning rather than having a two year old attached to my nipples at all hours, and not offering alternatives when food is unreasonably refused.

I have been judged a lot over the years. Teenage Mum, SAHM, having twins (as if I could help that), single mum, getting into a relationship as a single mum. The list is endless!

By far the worse for me though was the friend I had that stopped talking to me when I became homeless with my children (thanks to the ex)!
I wasn't good enough to be associated with her apparently. Bloody stuck up bitch 😡

Not being British

Not being ashamed of being a woman and dressing and behaving the way I like. Because I can.

Being promoted and working in a so-called "male environment". The judgement was mainly from other females funnily enough

On MN, I am guessing for having 4 kids, for having a great husband I get on really well with., going on as many holidays abroad as we can afford every year, for not living in slippers in my own house, for changing my bed sheets weekly and running 1 or 2 loads of laundry a day before work And I forget about my rather expensive wedding and extravagant wedding dress!

Smoking (it actually helped me to stop and I'm so glad I did)
Having an affair (didn't manage to stop that one)