ADs are elite athletes and can run very fast

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Another thread in the saga filled up (so no forwards link)

I think maybe we're endurance athletes, or maybe multievent like a decathlon

Thoughts with @LivinLaVidaLoki 's brother

I also absolutely love the idea of walking round with an empty coffee cup. Brilliant. Bonus points for making them check it.

@smallandimperfectlyformed
I'm ok, thanks. Unfortunately, local news has confirmed what I thought had happened.

Anyway, I'll go duck-spotting tomorrow. The quackers are often joined by "fishermen" in the form of herons. They're magnificent creatures, there's something prehistoric about them, although it's funny when they take a break on the roof tops of the modern housing estate nearby.

@AaahWoof

DD1 was trying to work out how she could start a political party and take over from Boris as PM this afternoon. Well it's progress from wanting to flush him down the toilet.

If your DD1 gets her party off the ground, I'll vote for her! Especially if flushing Boris down the toilet is in the manifesto.

@LivinLaVidaLoki, sending good wishes to your brother - I hope he starts to recover very soon.

@TheOrchidKiller Sorry to hear you witnessed that not a nice thing to see.

Herons are amazing aren’t they and surprisingly big! A bit of pterodactyl about them.

I’ve seen this tonight. Such sad stories up and down the country: www.victimsoflockdown.com/your-stories-1?fbclid=IwAR1WW4dNd5tD4EiUAqe4HnE1YPPC-CNOPw-9CyRq6pwzaZa82tHmloBkWTU

@LivinLaVidaLoki I hope your DB recovers quickly

I can't sleep tonight. I am just churning over and over.

I briefly looked on a thread about schools reopening and I thought to myself that it doesn't matter when they reopen because we can't count on them staying open. A precedent has been set. In person education can be snatched away at any time now.

And I have learned that my DD is less worthy of an in person education because of her parents' professions or lack thereof.

I don't know. I just keep going over and over it in my mind. We are not getting out of this ever because there will always be a new virus to do this with.

Feel like this: it's eerie, though. Fair warning.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=b89W4mijN4c&feature=youtu.be

I thought that by being a SAHM, I could be useful for my children and manage my autism and dyspraxia. Instead, it means I am a total failure.
I am posting here because I don't know where else to go. I feel so alone.

@ISaySteadyOn - If you look at my history, I’m not a regular poster on this thread (as in the “spirit” of the thread). But I am plagued with insomnia and realise what it’s like to be awake in those hours where it can seem like no one else is around.

All I can say is, IMO opinion, a precedent hasn’t been set. Yes, it feels like it now - it’s truly shit what we are having to deal with. But I really don’t think that any political party in the UK has any desire to take education away from children. It HAS been stripped, in various ways, for now, but education will be the first thing that they try to bring back.

And please, don’t think that your DD is less worthy because of her parents occupation. Again, very easy for me to say. It is an unfortunate situation, absolutely, but do NOT put that pressure or guilt on yourself.

You are not a total failure. You are a SAHM because you put your children first - that is most certainly not the sign of a failure! You have, for now, been dealt a really crappy hand. But it ISN’T your fault. This is a really rubbish way of putting it, but if a friend of yours was saying this to you, would you berate her and put her down? No, you would be there to support and encourage. So value yourself as you would a friend - you are not a failure.

I don’t have experience of autism or dyspraxia whilst dealing with children, but I hope that someone else may be able to offer more meaningful advice in the morning. And hopefully offer some guidance around trying to gain a place in school (I’m childless, so don’t want to fudge my way through current legislation and get it wrong).

I hope you are able to get some sleep.

And, in the kindest possible way, don’t go seeking out videos like that.

That is NOT what any UK govt wants for its citizens. Whatever party anyone on this site votes for, this is NOT what is wanted for the future.

I’ve not come across anything like that in “day to day” online presence. So I’m going to take a guess that you’re searching for information to make sense of things. If that’s the case, try to take a bit of a break. You’re going to find content which is weighed heavily in one direction or the other. And you can then end up turning yourself in circles.

Again, hopefully in the morning, those with children and similar experiences can offer advice as to suitable places to offer guidance/get support. But please don’t bring yourself down by actively searching out these types of videos.

Remember. Are our freedoms curtailed right now - yes. Are people keeping an eye on those curtailments once we come out of this - yes. This is not a full scale stripping of our rights. I am complying for now because it’s the right thing to do. But I’m not blindly accepting forever, nor are most people. That video is NOT our future.

@Furries I wish I could write like you. That's a really lovely response, that's genuinely reassuring. It's so easy to get overwhelmed at the moment (especially when seeking answers and looking on the internet to find them).

@ISaySteadyOn

I avoid most online stuff now as it's just doom and gloom. The saying that misery loves company is so right.

The problem is that it is hard to find sensible balanced views.

The responses to Derbyshire police on Twitter are worth reading if you need a bit of cheer.
Bonus marks to the bloke who suggested that if a coffee isn't a picnic, perhaps it's more of a "liquid canapé"

Surely the Derbyshire police must know that overstepping their remit is not good for public perception.

I am a law abiding person but when I see that behaviour from the police it makes me suspicious about their motives. A few bad apples breaks confidence.

@Furries

And, in the kindest possible way, don’t go seeking out videos like that.

That is NOT what any UK govt wants for its citizens. Whatever party anyone on this site votes for, this is NOT what is wanted for the future.

I’ve not come across anything like that in “day to day” online presence. So I’m going to take a guess that you’re searching for information to make sense of things. If that’s the case, try to take a bit of a break. You’re going to find content which is weighed heavily in one direction or the other. And you can then end up turning yourself in circles.

Again, hopefully in the morning, those with children and similar experiences can offer advice as to suitable places to offer guidance/get support. But please don’t bring yourself down by actively searching out these types of videos.

Remember. Are our freedoms curtailed right now - yes. Are people keeping an eye on those curtailments once we come out of this - yes. This is not a full scale stripping of our rights. I am complying for now because it’s the right thing to do. But I’m not blindly accepting forever, nor are most people. That video is NOT our future.

Thank you so much. This is what I think is true in my calmer moments. Sadly in my less calm moments (and there have been a lot of those recently) I think the opposite. I do worry for DS. He's lived under restrictions for over half his life now. Not that he really knows but it still makes me sad. Thank you for backing up my more rational mind though. Without this thread and the positive news thread I really think my mental health would have collapsed this year.

@Sonicthehedgehogg - thank you, I know I’ve popped up on here as a moan bugger recently, but I hate seeing posts in the middle of the night where people feel so lost.

From a vain POV I’d love to screenshot your post and send it to my old English teacher!

I’ve just watched the video again that was posted above. And it’s made me feel really bloody sad. I totally get how frustrated, ignored, desperate people are feeling at the moment. Equally, the hospital situation at the moment is way above what I think anyone can legitimately claim as being a “normal” winter crisis. That video is vile. It’s totally playing on emotions from BOTH sides of current feelings - nothing educational about it, its been made for “kudos” (am tired, best word I could think of).

Yes, I’ve popped up on here once in a while having a “pop”. I’ve only done that because I am not a “D”, but have sometimes wanted to, in honesty, try to force my opinion on this thread.

FWIW, I get annoyed by some of the extreme posts elsewhere. Equally, delving on here isn’t too pretty (sorry, but it can seem very cliquey and “one knows best”).

I am fed up of some of the multiple posts elsewhere. But a, also fed up of the responses along the lines of - frothing, salivating, wetting themselves, won’t be happy until xyz, curtain twitchers etc.

I honestly think that the majority of us fall in the middle. It’s TRULY FUCKING SHIT. But those in the majority lean very slightly one way or the other. And it then becomes difficult to “defend” your position. You’re either labelled “hysterical’ or a “rule breaker”.

And you’re right, it is so easy to get overwhelmed when looking for answers - which is inherently what we are all searching for. And we will all come up with answers that suit our own narrative, which makes it even bloody harder to communicate with everyone!

Well, that was an epic insomnia post. The bonus is probably that I need to go to sleep now!

Just want to say to Sonic - what I’ve said in this post is not directed at you - it’s just that it got tagged on to replying to your post.

I would like to believe that the government is on our side, understands the pain that THEIR lockdown is causing, and will relax things as soon as they spin it as "safe" to do so. But it is increasingly hard to believe this, with their cack-handed approach, and campaign of fear.

And I agree with @ISaySteadyOn, the irreversible line that has been crossed now is that a precedent has been set. A massive one: that the government can simply snatch everything away when it suits them. Even though the government will give us the positive spin when they want people to be moving again, people will be reluctant to set up business from now on, just in case the government snatches it all away again at a moment's notice, like they have done three times now.

Incidentally, there was no clapping in my area. I was all prepared with my megaphone to shout "Boo for Boris". I'm also reading that use of public transport is well up on last March, so there is tacit rebellion going on. The tide is turning. Keep up the good work, ladies and gentlemen. Resist the fearmongering. No doubt we'll be seeing and hearing adverts everywhere with the "stay safe" drivel: I've now completely boycotted radio and TV because of this.

Our governments don’t give a shit about our well-being.

They don’t care if we die. What they don’t want is to be seen to preside over the total collapse of health services, as it’s bad for votes.

@starfish88 - am really sorry re the less calm moments. Am not going to pry, but I hope that you and your son are able to get the optimum mutually caring environment that you can.

It’s good to see that you’re on the positive news thread (and thank you for the reminder, I haven’t been on there for far too long).

Mental health is going to be a huge factor in the current and future timeframe. Firstly, though it’s hard, try not to berate yourself for your feelings. Secondly, I hope that services will improve due to the current situation (I’m emailing my MP to highlight this).

I kind of fancy an 8pm every Saturday for everyone to scream into their pillow “this is fucking shit”, but I’m quite a grumpy person due to Ive’ve-mentioned insomnia!

Happy birthday, dingit !

For anyone who can/wants to contribute.

The Government's response to covid-19: human rights implications of long lockdown

committees.parliament.uk/work/855/the-governments-response-to-covid19-human-rights-implications-of-long-lockdown/

Dreading lectures returning next week along with the kids school work. Dh has taken every morning off to do that with them but the noise and the tasks set for dd2 that just need a lot of input for her to do - I keep having to step in at times anyway.

Dd1 is really missing her friend and trying to keep a lid on it and failing

Something I've realised overnight is that I feel very resentful that my life has been invaded and overtaken with barely 12 hours notice. I am now a prisoner in my own home for most of the hours of daylight because this time around I have to supervise the DCs at the computers for live learning as both of mine straddle the am and pm shift. I know I'd get torn appart beyond this thread, but I resent that I now can't bugger off for an hour or two's running to recharge my body and soul. Well I can, I can say fuck it, but then I'm actively neglecting their access to education.

We've swung from 4 months of being neglected by the school to the opposite extreme where it has invaded our lives and controls what we can do and when in our own bloody home.

I'm the kind of person who needs to be out of the house to do things. I find it very draining in the house because there is always the background distraction of other stuff to do. It's a constant mental battle. I'm too drained by supervising the DCs and managing their emotions to cope with other domestic stuff after (I really do suspect some kind of neurodiversity) I need time alone, genuinely on my own and also external company to thrive.

I resent that I can't even listen to the radio in my own home because we have to be able to hear the video clips all the time (me included because the DCs need me to follow it to support them, so headphones aren't an option). It sounds trivial, but it's actually quite a deep invasion of my autonomy over my life.

I already sacrificed my career for my DC's needs. I get no renumeration for this. My social standing that I got from volunteering, that sense of contributing to the wider world was stripped off me 10 months ago.

But hey beyond this thread, I'm just a SAHM.

I heard on the radio yesterday about the number of deaths 1300 and was really shocked about this, also the number of daily cases. This thing is really getting out of control now and I just don’t know what we can do about it. Is locking down going to make any difference or is this just the fallout from Christmas Day mingling?
Are any of you going to get the vaccine. It’s being offered at my work now and I was going to hang on a while.

I’d have it if I were offered it; I want to be able to travel abroad. But no-one’s offering as I’m under 50 and not in a priority group.