ADs are elite athletes and can run very fast

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Another thread in the saga filled up (so no forwards link)

I think maybe we're endurance athletes, or maybe multievent like a decathlon

It’s quite something when schools are saying that if ‘too many’ parents use the school for its intended purpose, the school might withdraw its functioning as its intended purpose. It’s Kafka-esque.

We are taking a key worker place for DS and yes I feel guilty. But I have got to the point where I am no longer willing to watch him be collateral in all this if I can do something to help him. And he really needs to be in school - it wasn’t exactly fun watching him disintegrate last time, and the reason for that happening was in large part because in his old school he was never important enough or believed over other kids or thought to be at all intelligent/nice enough to bother with, except to punish when he reached his limits. So we weren’t exactly starting from a place of great self esteem and mental health in the first place.
And we are going to need people (his age included) who are in a good enough place to help rebuild after all this. Keeping him down Just Because isn’t going to help with a post-lockdown world.

I don't qualify for a keyworker place because I'm on furlough but if this lockdown goes on for too long and I struggle to homeschool I will be using my husband's position in MOD to try get him a place and I won't feel guilty because if I get to that point it is necessary for his learning and for my sanity.

@Seriouslymole it is so sad that you have been made to feel that way. You should be proud of doing what’s best for for your family. Ignore the idiots who say otherwise.

I've just heard a piece on the Alexa BBC news about how much gyms are losing per week plus an estimate of the extra health costs to the Government of people not exercising. It felt like a very small change in the BBC narrative. Then they mentioned the Clap for Heroes thing and I felt stabby again!

I haven't spoken to a single person who is going to clap tonight!

I'm definitely not clapping .

Ooh you’re a Stabby Tabby!

I had the massive rage this morning over an article in our local paper saying how people could rely on them for accurate information on the covid crisis! The same paper that has published scaremongering articles every day and has deleted any comment which asks for clarification or context.

Thank you all for making me marginally better about it. I have DS at home but his school is very strict about who they have in. The children in school are accessing exactly the same as those out of school and I'm not sure how much they are allowed to mix. His school in fairness is providing a very full timetable. I hate the fact that he is not interacting with any of his peers though - it's rubbish.

And, no we won't be clapping here either - for a start it's too bloody cold. The reaction on Twitter to it has been hilarious!

Just got a patronising text from school about how well we are all doing adjusting to online learning. DD2 finds it v distressing so I am not doing it. But I am bothered by my change in feeling towards the school. I loathe them and their attitude.

I don't think I would have been doing much online learning if DD was younger, as a lone parent running a business, how could I have? Though having said that I'm still in bed now because I'm too demotivated to do anything at all!

I have to agree @Isaysteadyon
My dds are 9 months and 3 yrs old, but honestly hearing some of the vitriol spouted by teaching unions and some teachers I'm just not sure if I want my children going into an environment where there is a chance of some of the people who are supposed to support and nurture them instead just plain disliking them

I know it isn't the case for a majority of teachers but I remember having huge problems when I was at school with certain teachers who just didn't like me which further compounded my problems with anxiety and authority

I have taken key worker spaces for my children without any guilt at all. Both DH and I are key workers and both of us need to and are expected to be working. My employer would be asking me why I hadn’t taken up key worker provision if I didn’t.

I’ve been watching this thread for a while but haven’t posted, but wanted to say I’m also one of those bad people sending my primary aged DCs to school ... dh is a key worker, police, I am not but have a v busy job which I do from home but it cannot be done properly with home schooling also (which we did do largely in last lockdown) As far as I know from the DCs classes we aren’t taking up spaces for other key worker or vulnerable kids.
I figure that I can contribute to the economy by carrying on working( and paying quite a lot of tax) plus also support my colleagues with small kids who aren’t able to send them in by picking up their workload if needed.
Plus the police have been so underpaid and underfunded for so long that if we have a school place available because of dh’s job now I’m not going to feel bad about it!

(Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest. And put here rather than on any other threads that are suggesting I’m a bad person for sending my kids to school!!)

Mine are at school today on one of the few scraps I was offered because of the family's vulnerability - after withstanding 10 minutes of bullying and guilt pressurising from the head to the point I was no longer able to speak. As a family - we need a full time place really for me to keep it together - I had multiple panic attacks yesterday and the noise and constant MUMMMMMYY was feeling physically like I was being scrubbed with panscourers all over. I know this isn't normal - I have a strong suspicion I'm autistic with this level of sensory abnormalities that I can normally mask but flare up when my mental reserves are low - but it was almost physically painful.

And you know what - as much as I'm sure all the places in our school have been taken up by pisstakers - after last year, with the three weeks to flatten the curve turning into what it did - I would not blame ANY parent for taking a place and grabbing it with both hands, feet and anything else they can to make sure they're not fucked over when this drags on.

I wouldn't either. I just didn't know where to start for DD2 and I am rubbish at confrontation.

My eldest is at school (autistic). We were guilt tripped into not sending them in at the beginning last time (best to only send in if you really need to...) but he was doing part time by May and it helped enormously.
Youngest (also autistic) is currently at home but going in tomorrow. He coped amazingly well last time but at least he had his brother to play with. If school are basically providing the full curriculum he will be better off there, but last time it was a lot of colouring in and playing so I thought he'd be better at home. The stress of teaching him and trying to work really affected me though so I don't want to go through that again if I don't need to.

Mine are at home. I was guilted into not sending them as a part time critical worker. Dh has the same status but works at home on the computer. They would be doing the same work at school but dd would be better emotionally and mentally with the school/ home divide and seeing her friends.

Yesterday did not go well as, all their work is on line.for geography she had do draw a picture she couldn't get it right on screen so the tablet was thrown and lots of tears. She never recovered from that and then spent the afternoon colouring. I offered for her to draw on paper and me upload. Woking on the tablet is completely different to doing it at school and she can't cope with her autism. School dispute the autism so I don't get any where with them on that one.

Just when you think things can’t get much worse the bloody boiler packs up! Can’t get the parts until tomorrow and it’s minus 2 here. Luckily I’ve got a plug in radiator so can at least keep one room warm. Could actually cry at the moment!

My heart goes out to all those homeschooling. It was bad enough getting ds to do his homework. In all seriousness I don't think my marriage would have survived homeschooling him.

Is it ok to not so stealth boast if I credit 110A's post above?

I got DS to do 4 different pieces of work today. And DD2 did maths no fuss.

That’s brilliant @ISaySteadyOn!

We’re having an unusually good day today. DD powered through her maths without any help, and DS turned in a really nice piece of creative writing. With no shouting or tears! Fingers crossed this afternoon is similarly productive.

I would take a keyworkers school place, without any guilt. Plus I’m not clapping, didn’t last time so definitely not doing this time either.
I’m just really fed up and depressed. Lockdown, the weather, the days of nothing.
Doing everything online is different, they seem to forget some people don’t have excellent skills. No idea how to draw on my iPad for example.
Supposed to be going for a walk today with DD but can’t be bothered to leave house