What makes you un-mumsnetty?

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

For me

• I park in parent and child spaces when I have my kids with me. I don't make my life harder by parking in a tiny normal space just in case that childless bloke in the Porsche 911 who runs into Asda like Linford Christie might have a better reason for it than me

• if I have a bad experience I complain. If I find my £40 steak swimming in fat with a pube in it, I don't refrain from saying anything just in case the chef has had a bad day.

• I go to the supermarket during the pandemic, I don't leave shaking and sobbing and riddled with guilt over it because I bought a Galaxy. I even take my kids with me.

• I don't "seethe" if, when the secret Santa budget is £5, I get a Bayliss and Harding gift set. I accept that £5 means limited options and I say thanks, move on and don't take it as a personal alight for years to come. I don't have the hump becauSe they didn't personally whittle a keyring from wood in the oak tree that tenderly grows in their back garden

What makes you unmumsnetty?

@Ginfordinner

I shop in M & S for my clothes

So do I. All my underwear comes from M and S. I don't have Katie Price sized boobs and M & S bras fit me perfectly and are comfortable. I don't have to rip my bra off as soon as I get into the house.

I have even tempered skin and love receiving toiletries, and can use any brand of skincare without any problems.

I do have Katie price sized boobs and M&S are still great for bras. Less choice but very comfy.

GlummyMcGlummerson thanks for starting this I was thinking today MN is not for me after several times leaving and coming back because they are just mental now I might even stay... after I make DP a lunch for work

@SendHelp30
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so outing, I’m glad he’s not a cyclist or ppl would know my address😭😭

Topseyt they say benign neglect I say real life. My kids are very well behaved happy kids (I don't have children) I'm 90% sure because they know being a wee fucker isn't cool.

so outing, I’m glad he’s not a cyclist or ppl would know my address

I know him! He's in number 8

@PopcornAndWine I met a really sexy guy when I was out last year. His sister put him off me as I didn't drive so how would I get to ikea/B and Q etc? I tried to explain that I live in an immaculate, modern flat and have been to both once in the last five years as I spend my weekends socialising, not looking at tiles etc but she was having none of it! She was also worried about how I got my shopping. Eh I walk to a supermarket, I'm only feeding me so don't need car fulls of crap!!!

I think if you can say "I'm working class" or "middle class", you should also be able to say you're upper class without being accused of being posh/pretentious. Why should saying wc/mc be okay but not uc?

I think saying 'I'm working class' isn't really unmumsnetty because here, you're either that or mc. It's all over MN. Now, saying you're upper class, that's a very unmumsnetty thing but be prepared for the reverse snobbery!

I think many 'feminists' are hypocrites.

I'm not a dog lover but not a dog hater either. I'm neutral about animals and don't care for the 'pet culture'.

I don't eat meat (anymore) but I'm not vegan either.

I can eat meat if I want to and really like KFC and Mcdonalds. I think 'fine dining' is overrated.

I don't think liking classical music makes you 'cultured' or intelligent or whatever and many people (want to) go into it to seem that way. I think it's no different to liking or being knowledgeable about any other kind of music. (p.s: I like classical music because I prefer music without words and it's really soothing. I also like all sorts of instrumental music).

I like it when a man (or anyone for that matter) is nice to me: if he says hello, offers to help, calls me 'love' or 'sweetheart', etc. As long as they're not being sarcastic or mean spirited, I like people being nice for no reason. I'm that way too (but it's unmumsnetty to say such things about oneself).

I don't think everything requires a diagnosis to be true/real: I believe people know themselves and their children much MUCH more than a 'specialist' can in 2 or 5, 10-20 minute sessions.

I take long breaks from MN when I find myself suddenly full of bile and hatred over some topics and people here! I know it's my problem and don't point fingers. I come back when I'm refreshed.

I think wearing knickers under PJs is absurd.

I feed my dog milk chocolate. He’s working his way through the Quality Street at the moment, we share it.

[quote Onlyherefortheconspiracies]@PopcornAndWine I met a really sexy guy when I was out last year. His sister put him off me as I didn't drive so how would I get to ikea/B and Q etc? I tried to explain that I live in an immaculate, modern flat and have been to both once in the last five years as I spend my weekends socialising, not looking at tiles etc but she was having none of it! She was also worried about how I got my shopping. Eh I walk to a supermarket, I'm only feeding me so don't need car fulls of crap!!![/quote]
You mean - gasp - you are a fully functioning adult who cannot drive? What sorcery is this??

@popcornandwine
I know right. Own house, business and life. Without needing either a man or a motor. She was utterly bamboozled My favourite thing EVER is when folk say it gives you independence then drive round their wee town in it. I've visited Libya and Syria and lived alone for the best part of 16 years, I'd say I'm quite independent!

I let my DD have her ears pierced when she was 7. I don’t know how I’ve managed to evade public hanging.

I think your child Ptolemy is cruel and it’s an absolutely vile name.

@SendHelp30 I KNEW it was her!! @HerMammy 😂

I also sometimes come in to* contact with (shudders*) transgender or non-binary people through my line of work and don't automatically despise them.

I don't eat a lot of chocolate but when I do I like Cadburys Dairy Milk or even own brand chocolate (my taste buds aren't that refined that I can tell much difference).

I've never been hit or abused by my husband.

I sometimes buy and wear clothes that I think my husband will think I look nice in even if I'd normally not wear them. I wear my hair in a style my husband likes (fortunately its an easy to manage style).

We hold hands when out walking.

I have a loo brush (I suspect we all have really)

Our house isn't all that tidy, we have other things to do than housework.

I go holidays on my own (always have) as my husband has different tastes in holidays. I still go on holiday with my husband (and children when they were little) so extra for me.

We put the telly on when we get up and switch it off at bedtime, my husband refers to it as chewing gum for the eyes.

I read a lot of young adult romance type books and historical romance. (Husband has read some and thinks they're not far off soft porn)

I don't like modern comics/comedians.

I'm of an age where I watched Les Dawson, Benny Hill, Dave Allen etc and still find them funnier.

I can't keep up with the latest PC language

I don't get involved in debates about god

If you send your children to a religious based school you need to accept that religion will be taught.

I love conspiracy theories, make me feel sane.

I find it appalling when people feel they can rip others to shreds... even if on AIBU. Surely you could find a constructive way to word your response (or don't respond at all)? Always wondered if those people would talk to their friends that way.

I practically live in jeans/leggings, sweatshirt and trainers.
I love gaming and would think nothing of having an all day session (and DH wouldn’t mind either).
I have great MH.
I’m 61 and don’t give a fuck about MN opinions.

I have a job, not a career, and I suspect a lot of people are the same here, even when they say they are very senior and important to the company.

I hate Toast clothing and cannot fathom the love of the shockingly ugly dresses and jumpers. Per Una from M&S used to be ridiculed a lot on here because the designs were so misplaced and out of touch, but a £160 mud-brown Little House on the Prairie frock that comes to a very unflattering canckle length is apparently, very desirable.

I have a dog. Which in itself, apparently means my house is a cease pit of filth, except if I were upper class and then that would be acceptable.

My dog is neither a gun dog, nor a cross bred poodle thing, but he is a loon and not fugly.

I'd not heard of Toast, just looked at website.....yep ugly. And the prices! £26 for a pair of socks! I'd expect them to make the tea at that price!

I work when I want, pre covid.
I'm not governed by money, working and childcare issues
Never used nurseries
Don't have a high earning dh, manage on a low income.
Have a real gifted child, beyond comprehension of most.
I'm a Romany Gypsy
See success as how happy you are in life
Not materialistic, no designer handbags costing hundreds
No expensive make up/ skin care
Not bothered about holidays, life is one holiday
Live frugally, believing time with family is more important than earning more.

Liking Toast is not definitively Mumsnetty. It's a brand among many that some people like.

I don’t have my own bank or savings accounts, just a joint one. There are investments in my name, but DH arranged and manages them, I don’t have a clue about them or what they’re worth, I trust him completely.
I don’t have a running away fund nor any ducks to put in a row.

I bought a pedigree dog, I didn’t rescue one. He’s off the lead for pretty much our entire walks.

Have no problem with private schools or healthcare.

I have never, when having been amused or shocked online, “howled” or spat my drink out all over the keyboard.

I don’t even know why I’m here!

I have a toilet brush
I dislike Zoflora
I like Pandora jewellery
I like Radley handbags
I like being called Mrs DH Name
I hate being called Ms
I love DH more than DCs
I am financially supported by DH

Another thing I just have to mention (sorry to lower the tone of this thread):

No it's not 'cool' or 'funny' if you did drugs in your youth or even now. I grew up in a deprived area of London and two of my neighbours were murdered because of rival gangs dealing. Families and neighbourhoods have been destroyed. Just because you were too middle class or not the right 'fit' to get stopped & searched by police and got away with it with your life & career intact, doesn't mean you can ignore those that you've destroyed. You are fuelling the drug trade and would be the same ones to 'tut' about crime in London.

Ah that feels so much better to get that off my chest! As you were people.

Sorry that post wasn't to anyone here in particular, just the general attitude towards this subject on MN that irks me!

I am married to a gamer and I love that he's a gamer. MN hates gamers 🤣

Have a toilet brush.

I gave a Bayliss & Harding set as a gift. My Mum loves them.

I don't hate my parents for giving me a box of Thortons.