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What makes you un-mumsnetty?

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GlummyMcGlummerson · 01/01/2021 13:47

For me

  • I park in parent and child spaces when I have my kids with me. I don't make my life harder by parking in a tiny normal space just in case that childless bloke in the Porsche 911 who runs into Asda like Linford Christie might have a better reason for it than me
  • if I have a bad experience I complain. If I find my £40 steak swimming in fat with a pube in it, I don't refrain from saying anything just in case the chef has had a bad day.
  • I go to the supermarket during the pandemic, I don't leave shaking and sobbing and riddled with guilt over it because I bought a Galaxy. I even take my kids with me.
  • I don't "seethe" if, when the secret Santa budget is £5, I get a Bayliss and Harding gift set. I accept that £5 means limited options and I say thanks, move on and don't take it as a personal alight for years to come. I don't have the hump becauSe they didn't personally whittle a keyring from wood in the oak tree that tenderly grows in their back garden

What makes you unmumsnetty?

OP posts:
Imissmoominmama · 02/01/2021 13:36

Isn’t MN social media though...?

Ginfordinner · 02/01/2021 13:38

I am actual friends with people on my Facebook. They don't post passive aggressive posts or the kind of rubbish that people on mumsnet complain about.

I don't put my Christmas tree up in November then take it down on Boxing Day.

scentedgeranium · 02/01/2021 13:40

My husband doesn't have a hobby that's outing.

Sorry if this has already been said. Entertaining but LOONNNGG thread!

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Sparklingbrook · 02/01/2021 13:40

@Imissmoominmama

Isn’t MN social media though...?
Everyone says it is. But I don't think of it as that as it's an anonymous forum. I think of FB/Instagram/Twitter as social media in that you are yourself and posting pics of your life for all friends and family to see under your own name. (If you choose to have accounts which I don't).

I don't use MN to keep in touch with people or overshare pictures of my private life!

KosherSalt · 02/01/2021 13:41

@carlaCox

Also intrigued to see several people post on this thread that they don't use social media - MN seems extremely anti social media to me!

It does and yet I've seen about a million threads complaining about something someone has put on Facebook. Yawn. If it offends you that much just get rid of it.

Because so many threads are about (1) I feel so lonely and as though everyone else in the world is having a great time I see their Instagrams! (2) My boyfriend still hasn't said he's in a relationship on FB despite the fact we've been together nine years and had two children! (3) How do I get ripply abs/a gang of girlfriend to do Girly Things with/a smily, amenable toddler/a shiny grey floor and completely empty grey house other people have these things, because I see them on SM! (4) my husband follows fifteen twentysomething models who twerk on Instagram (5) my SIL is a bitch because I always like all her FB posts and she never likes mine (6) every time I say something to DH, he gets out his phone and starts scrolling through FB etc (7) How do I train my children to limit screentime when I'm always glued to my phone? etc.

It's hard not to conclude that for many people, social media is bringing nothing but bad stuff to their lives.

jessstan1 · 02/01/2021 13:42

Being eternally grateful that mumsnet was not around when I had a young baby or child.

UpShutTheFuck · 02/01/2021 13:48

@jessstan1

Being eternally grateful that mumsnet was not around when I had a young baby or child.
Amen to that Grin
BLTLover · 02/01/2021 13:54

And my child is small and I haven't lost any sleep over it. Good lord hes not over 50th centile! Who cares

Soutiner · 02/01/2021 14:26

@jessstan1

Being eternally grateful that mumsnet was not around when I had a young baby or child.
The best post I have seen written on here in years.
midsomermurderess · 02/01/2021 15:12

This whole thread is pretty much un-Mumsnetty in that people have largely stuck to the topic (not haring off having decided what they think it should be about), no one has sanctimoniously declared it to be horrible, and there has been no squabbling and bickering amongst posters. It's rather refreshing.

Eastie77 · 02/01/2021 15:51

@GlummyMcGlummerson when DD was a few months old I took her to the office and let all my colleagues have a cuddle and hold. The horror. One took her out in the buggy for walk while I had a coffee with my boss. I'm baffled by the posters on MN who describe how painful and distressing it is when their relatives (usually the narc MIL) hold their baby and the primal urge they have to grab baby back etc.

Ginfordinner · 02/01/2021 15:52

@midsomermurderess

This whole thread is pretty much un-Mumsnetty in that people have largely stuck to the topic (not haring off having decided what they think it should be about), no one has sanctimoniously declared it to be horrible, and there has been no squabbling and bickering amongst posters. It's rather refreshing.
This ^^ (which was rather a mumsnetty thing to do Grin)
peaceanddove · 02/01/2021 16:01

I always pack for my DH. He hates it, and is shit at it. Whereas, I'm on the British Olympic Packing Team and can pack for 2 weeks in the sun, in less than 20 mins.

My DH does zero housework and zero cooking. I never feel like I'm a 50s housewife, or supressed by Da Patriarchy. He works thrice the hours I do, plus he happily pays for a cleaner and we ate out several times a week (when we could).

Sometimes we don't sit down and "work through our differences like sensible adults" [yawns] Sometimes we shout, or bicker like kids and say hurtful crap that we don't mean. But I'd give him my heart on a plate if he asked it of me, and I know he would do the same.

I often eat like a greedy teenager with access to limitless funds.

We always sleep naked probably why we still have quite a lot of sex

I have very little time for people with self diagnosed anxiety. Sometimes feeling anxious is just a perfectly rational response. As someone who suffered terribly with post natal anxiety I know what genuine anxiety feels like. It doesn't make you a bit shy in a group, or wary about driving at night - it makes you want to take a bottle of pills just to make the mental anguish please, please stop Sad

JimmyTheWeed · 02/01/2021 16:10

I have committed the ultimate sin on Mumsnet. I don't drive.

Spidey66 · 02/01/2021 16:16

@JimmyTheWeed

I have committed the ultimate sin on Mumsnet. I don't drive.
Me too. In my defence I've always lived in London.
PoppiesinOctober · 02/01/2021 16:16

@JimmyTheWeed

I have committed the ultimate sin on Mumsnet. I don't drive.
Me too! That must make us feckless, lazy, lift-cadgers! Grin
JimmyTheWeed · 02/01/2021 16:20

PoppiesinOctober I know! My friends and family are sick of me always cashing lifts off them! Grin

JimmyTheWeed · 02/01/2021 16:20

Cadging not cashing.

Mylittleturkeysandwich · 02/01/2021 16:21

I think I've thought of some more.

I buy second hand clothes (very Mumsnet) I don't buy them to save the planet, I buy them because I'm skint (not very Mumsnet).

I have a second hand diesel SUV which I love.

When we go on holiday we go to caravan sites and enjoy it!

I'm sure there's loads more. This thread is great.

JimmyTheWeed · 02/01/2021 16:23

My defence re. not driving is that I live in Greater London with excellent public transport,and I have a disabled persons Freedom Pass so buses and trains cost me nothing. Plus,if I HAD learnt to drive,there is no way I would be able to afford to run a car these days on my limited income.

Namechange8471 · 02/01/2021 16:27

I also can't drive, I'm 30.
I hate zoflora, it reeks.
Me and dp are both gamers and manage to function in society also 😂

LaMarschallin · 02/01/2021 16:35

jessstan1

Being eternally grateful that mumsnet was not around when I had a young baby or child.

Oh yes - very much this.

I had no idea how many diagnoses I had to worry about, gadgets/furniture/prams etc I'd have to compare and contrast (all with stupid names like SnuggleMunchkin or something), or how many "firsts" I should have been getting worked up about - especially if my (lovely) MiL got in with the first toothbrush or something before me.

I breastfed because I was too idle to make up bottles, but was happy enough to go along to eg a restaurant loo to do it because I got self-conscious in public which inhibited let down.
I made sure not to rub my nipples on the toilet seat, so it was fairly hygienic.

Ginfordinner · 02/01/2021 16:36

I'm not a Zoflora fan either.

PopcornAndWine · 02/01/2021 16:38

Another non-driver here! Grin I generally avoid threads where I see driving/lifts in the title as I know there will be people there who will piss me off no end and make me feel like I have totally failed at life.

Also - my DH plays video games but I don't think he is a lazy, feckless man-child.

Doublechins · 02/01/2021 16:38

Ooh I have more

I make my husband's lunch to take to work. I mean I'm making everyone else's so why wouldn't I make his too?

Also I don't mind if my gran buys my kids an advent calendar each, even though she didn't ask for written permission, and this meant they had two so got two chocolates each morning 😱

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