ADs and their very long lists!

[LivinLaVidaLoki]

We were up to 999 posts so thought we needed a new thread!

@LivinLaVidaLoki

And the AD stands for anti dementor. There are creatures in Harry Potter called dementors, who suck all hope and happiness from you and eventually take your soul. Way back at the start of the pandemic thread after thread was posted on by posters like this and anyone who'd dare question anything or disagree with anything (like putting cheese in your coffee) was bullied off these threads. And so any actual discussion disappeared and it became an echo chamber of misery.

We are the antidote to that. We follow the rules,but not the "roolz" and we question and discuss with respect to each other. It's all very civil.

Ahhh gotcha! Please ignore my previous comment.

I definitely belong here 👍🏻

I have a question about schooling, i wonder if any ADs can shed light on it

If you want to take your child out of school to home school, is it a massive task in terms of paperwork? I'm thinking of people who might want to take their children out of school for any number of reasons at the moment.

Then if you want to send them back to school later, whether a few months or years, is that again very hard?

Thanks.

@AcornAutumn

I have a question about schooling, i wonder if any ADs can shed light on it

If you want to take your child out of school to home school, is it a massive task in terms of paperwork? I'm thinking of people who might want to take their children out of school for any number of reasons at the moment.

Then if you want to send them back to school later, whether a few months or years, is that again very hard?

Thanks.

You just write a letter saying that you wish to de register them and take full responsibility for their education going forward

80s - thank you
What happens if you want to put them back into school?

@amicissimma

Thanks all. I shall go to Tesco tomorrow and peruse their washing stuff shelf and see if I can persuade them to stock at least one of these suggestions by sheer willpower. I'm not optimistic, it's quite a small branch.

Try a chemists.

@TabbyStar

We've found the NHS has been there for urgent situations, and the GP has been pretty accessible too, although more online and by phone (this is an improvement IMO), but the routine non-urgent outpatients / planned procedure stuff is not happening, and of course some of those may become urgent.

Curlygirl I'm not sure what the official line is, I think it's guidance rather than law if I was forced to guess, but I would just go to the usual one. We've not been checked travelling around.

My son is a student theatre nurse and he’s been looking in on loads of hip, knee replacement ops and breast cancers in our local hospital

In theory getting them back into school isn't a huge difficulty, but your preferred schools may not have space and then you will just get offered the nearest that does. That is when it becomes a gamble

Acorn - returning kids to school you apply as if you've just moved to the area afaik. So if your local school doesn't have a place, your child may have to go to a school out of catchment.

@Mrsfrumble - my ds1 is 'high functioning' too but we still managed to get him an EHCP once he had a diagnosis. A friend has a DD who masked at school but fell apart at home, especially on Sunday evenings. The school said she wouldn't get an EHCP because she was 'fine' at school. She had to apply herself and got it that way. Worth considering for the medium term as it makes a lot of difference at secondary.

That was @AcornAutumn , I need more practise at replying to people

If you are home edding look for local groups I. Your area
You are allowed to meet up for education purposes

Thank you for the answers.

@Lostinacloud

Just seen the thread about the dfe considering masks in secondary schools and everybody clamouring to mask up their kids as soon as possible. Lots of people citing other countries doing this months ago. I can’t be bothered to engage on there but I would love to tell them all that from what I can tell masks in schools seem to make fuck all difference and that France in fact only claim them as a success because it means they don’t have to close any schools or classes for isolating anymore. This is not however because they make much of a difference to virus spread but instead it is due to their mask wearing and track and trace policy. Under current French regulations, if you have not spent more than 15 minutes unmasked with somebody else then they will not be considered a close contact if you later test positive.

There have even been complaints from parents because schools were found to be timing lunch eating time as exactly 15 mins and then kicking the kids out with masks back on because then if any one child tests positive, nobody else in the class, year or school has to isolate because nobody has been out of a mask for longer than 15 minutes. They practice this same policy in workplaces too.

My DC are in a french school and I know absolutely tons of parents and children who have tested positive (including mine), especially when we had the bigger numbers now seen in the UK back in late October/Early November. Anecdotally, I’d even say that since they introduced masks at Primary school level, that was when I really noticed a rapid rise in cases amongst the parents and kids!

Sorry to be nosey, but I didn't realise you are French? Totally the same impression re schools in France - my family are in France and I've also had the impression that the masks are validation for them to do whatever they want! I messaged my MP the other day about why schools in our borough are closing even though the rates and rate of growth is relatively low (comparing with boroughs where primaries were originally going to be open). He didn't reply though!

Heard yesterday morning, btw, that my chemo would be delayed "because of the risk of Covid" (because obviously blood cancer can wait). Was very relieved to get a call 2h later from my consultant, who is quite old school and takes no shit, that he was categorically opposed to any delays and had reinstated it. I fe very fortunate, because he has been great throughout, and even though he's semi retiring and cutting back his work from this year, he is still going to be in charge of my treatment. But others, I fear, will not be so fortunate.

MN are deleting threads Over There.

@Jourdain11 Your consultant sounds fab.

Quelle sorte de threads?

[quote MercyBooth]@Jourdain11 Your consultant sounds fab.[/quote]
I know - I am very lucky!

@Jourdain11 not french but over here for a few years with work. I agree with your family, masks are heavily relied upon and although I rarely see non compliance with mask wearing, I really don’t think it’s made any difference to case numbers. I was living in the UK for the first half of the year but only got covid over here in October and where I live mask wearing has been mandatory even on the city streets since we moved.
So relieved to hear your consultant isn’t towing the line.

DS1 has an EHCP application in the early stages. The ASD was diagnosed at the end of Nov 19, so by the time I'd got my head around around it and printed off the paperwork it was March... then school didn't lay eyes on him for 5.5 months.

It's a nice cosy school a 5 min walk away and he's a big fish in a small pond and can cope with masking through a school day... I cop the fall out at home.
I suspect that secondary school will be a totally different story and with the dyspraxia he just doesn't have the independent and organisation skills for his age. Add in literacy difficulties that makes reading draining and writing frustratingly slow and illegible (does use a computer where appropriate)

The ASD is subtle to the casual observer. He's one of those bright, quirky kids who can be intense. At the start of y1 his teacher asked the class what Roald Dahl was famous for, asked DS1 and got a very detailed account of the fighter pilot phase

Anyway. I need him in school. Home learning was a disaster. He does not do video calls. I don't have the emotional reserves left to battle it. I can't escape on a scenic 10 mile run to save my sanity in the mud and faiing light.

The desperation for so many parents to close the schools truely baffles me.

In some parts of the world, people risk their lives for the right to go to school.
Why are we so quick to throw that away?

Woke up feeling more positive, that’s gone now.
Pleased your consultant is on your side Jourdain11.
This site is weird tonight, feel the fear is being ramped up, feels quite sinister( I don’t normally wear a tin hat, I promise).
Last night DH said we can have a dog, we are going to try and get a rescue. So hopefully that is something for us to look forward too.

I am just broken. I can't stop crying. I feel utterly hopeless and abandoned.

I used to think I might matter and have things to contribute, but I don't.i am nothing.

But a disease vector who must be contained. They won.

@Jourdain11 One thread deleted was the one mentioning at 8yo dying of Covid (oh, the dementors just loved parroting that!).

In other news: Police unable to break up French rave. This is the sort of civil unrest which I predict will happen over here, as the public show that they have simply HAD ENOUGH. Bring it on. Are there any protests in London today? It's difficult to find out, as the BBC tends to hush this up (on Saint Boris's orders).

for everyone struggling.

Mr BogOff is still feeling like shit but muddling through. Thanks for the well wishes.

Really hard not being able to leave the house. I keep thinking oooo I need to post this letter or grab some food from a shop and then have to remind myself that I can't. We are fortunate though as we have a garden so it's not all bad here.

Had a test myself yesterday as snotty and coughing more than normal (I have a normal cough anyway). Wouldn't have bothered for that but obviously with a covid ridden coughing DH it was best to do it now than wait. Results for DH were back within 48 hours so can't fault them there. Hoping to get mine tomorrow.

Trying to avoid the other place as it's just crazy.

We have been discussing 2021/2022 holidays. Need something to bloody look forward to.

@ISaySteadyOn

Woke up early again stressing about the mask thing. DS’ school have said when they go back on 18th Jan they have to wear full face masks the whole time. I am more worried about this than about anything else throughout the whole thing.

DH was a member of the NEU - he is still on their mailing list for some reason. They are having an emergency meeting tomorrow so it will be interesting to see what that brings.