Tell me something that you wish that you'd experienced but haven't...

Boobahs · 2020-12-26T22:58:56+00:00

Thinking about things that we’d hope to happen next year, but is there anything in life that you wish that you’d experienced but haven’t so far? For me, I’ve never lived alone. I went from living with my parents, to living with a partner, then back to my parents when we split, then moved in with my DP and we now have 2 young children. I've never experienced just having the physical space and time to do whatever I please, whenever I want to. I'm sure that lots of this has been romanticised in my head when I see programmes/films when people live in apartments on their own and obviously there's a flip side to it with loneliness, money worries, etc... so I know it's not all positive. I would never regret my life now, I just sometimes wonder if I missed out on a huge part of life that other people have experienced. So tell me, is there anything that you wish you'd experienced but haven't?

PegasusReturns · 26/12/2020 23:02

I’ve never lived alone either and also like the idea. I have 4DC and a DH at home so not much chance.

Pre covid I used to travel a lot for work spending time in hotels and loved the nights I had totally to myself.

HerBigChance · 26/12/2020 23:03

A really lovely relationship where I know someone has got my back. My past relationships have been okay, but it took many years, and therapy, to discover that this was missing in them. The bar has been raised dramatically.

CompleteCobblers · 26/12/2020 23:04

I always wanted to go to a Bruce Springsteen concert and be the girl who gets to do the Courtney Cox bit

DarkDarkNight · 26/12/2020 23:05

Self assurance. I just wonder how that would feel.

Serena1977 · 26/12/2020 23:06

Having the courage to travel, I get nervous just having a week in Spain.

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Boobahs · 26/12/2020 23:07

@PegasusReturns

I’ve never lived alone either and also like the idea. I have 4DC and a DH at home so not much chance.

Pre covid I used to travel a lot for work spending time in hotels and loved the nights I had totally to myself.

Ooooh, I don't remember the last time I slept all night with no interruptions, a night in a hotel would be amazing!

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digthroughtheditches · 26/12/2020 23:08

A fulfilling job in passionate about. Do they even exist?

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Boobahs · 26/12/2020 23:08

@HerBigChance

A really lovely relationship where I know someone has got my back. My past relationships have been okay, but it took many years, and therapy, to discover that this was missing in them. The bar has been raised dramatically.

I hope you find someone who can give you that x

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Boobahs · 26/12/2020 23:10

@Serena1977

Having the courage to travel, I get nervous just having a week in Spain.

I don't get nervous travelling, but I wish that I'd had the money and carefree attitude to see more of the world when I was younger.

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RealisticSketch · 26/12/2020 23:11

I would love to have had a boss who want a selfish t**t/psycho nutter/arsehole/incompetent twerp. I really think it has held me back. I have friends who have progressed because someone mentored them /speed their potential and gave them recognition etc etc basic stuff really but I've never had a boss who was even basically a decent human being. I have been a sahp for a few years now (and done private project at same time so added strings to my bow) but I'm really really nervous at the prospect of going into employment again as I will really be looking to develop and have some sort of career but struggle to believe I won't just be stymied by ghastly people with power over me as has been my experience previously.

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Boobahs · 26/12/2020 23:11

@digthroughtheditches

A fulfilling job in passionate about. Do they even exist?

I used to really enjoy my job but I don't so much now, especially since having children. Is there anything in particular that you'd like to do?

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Chimeraforce · 26/12/2020 23:11

Being normal
Being a Mum without severe PND for years.

RealisticSketch · 26/12/2020 23:16

@Chimeraforce

Being normal Being a Mum without severe PND for years.

That sounds incredible tough. I hope you find peace one day.

ExpensivelyDecorated · 26/12/2020 23:17

Living somewhere else. I'm very happy where I am, and have lived in a few other places but always within about 100 miles of where I was born, part of me wishes I'd lived abroad or in further away parts of the UK.

PinGwyn · 26/12/2020 23:18

Mine is a bit strange, I'm happy with my life but sometimes I can't help but look at young, carefree folks off out having fun on holidays with friends, travelling for gigs or nipping to the pub whenever they fancy and wonder...

DH and I have been together since we were 14, moved in together at 16 and became parents at 18. We're now in our mid 30's and sometimes I wonder how life could have panned out.

GlumyGloomer · 26/12/2020 23:21

Uni. I may one day get a degree but I'll never have that iconic student experience. I had a total meltdown during A-levels, and work was the best choice for me back then, but a part of me will always regret it and wonder what could have been.

RealisticSketch · 26/12/2020 23:23

boobahs I have lived alone and it was a mixed experience. Some of it was total freedom and zero accountability but I need people around me to be truly happy so I much prefer having someone to share my life with. I suppose that's your point, I've got that experience to know that, which you could appreciate in theory but have never lived it, and would have liked to have done.
I wouldn't say living alone really brought anything to my life or changed me as a person for the better.
I suppose I'm trying to say, I don't think you've missed much.

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Boobahs · 26/12/2020 23:23

@RealisticSketch

I would love to have had a boss who want a selfish t**t/psycho nutter/arsehole/incompetent twerp. I really think it has held me back. I have friends who have progressed because someone mentored them /speed their potential and gave them recognition etc etc basic stuff really but I've never had a boss who was even basically a decent human being. I have been a sahp for a few years now (and done private project at same time so added strings to my bow) but I'm really really nervous at the prospect of going into employment again as I will really be looking to develop and have some sort of career but struggle to believe I won't just be stymied by ghastly people with power over me as has been my experience previously.

Here's hoping you get to experience that when you get back into work

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wellthatsunusual · 26/12/2020 23:24

Living in another country, even if just for a year.

catpoooffender · 26/12/2020 23:24

I wish I could have experienced giving birth vaginally, or at least feeling contractions. I was induced due to pre-eclampsia and having heard hideous things about the drip I had an epidural first. Then ended up having an emcs. We are unlikely to have another DC.

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Boobahs · 26/12/2020 23:24

@Chimeraforce

Being normal Being a Mum without severe PND for years.

That sounds really tough, I hope you've got some support around you x

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lilylongjohn · 26/12/2020 23:24

Become a vet. I always wanted to be, but for reasons I won't go into I didn't. I've got a good job now which I enjoy, but it's always been in the back of my mind.

NaturesEnd · 26/12/2020 23:26

I'd like to experience a hallucigen, lsd or mushrooms. No idea how to obtain said things so very unlikely.

Hathertonhariden · 26/12/2020 23:26

A happy marriage.

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Boobahs · 26/12/2020 23:26

@GlumyGloomer

Uni. I may one day get a degree but I'll never have that iconic student experience. I had a total meltdown during A-levels, and work was the best choice for me back then, but a part of me will always regret it and wonder what could have been.

I know what you mean, I did a degree later in life whilst working so never had that whole wild uni experience either

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