Tell me something that you wish that you'd experienced but haven't...

[Boobahs]

Thinking about things that we’d hope to happen next year, but is there anything in life that you wish that you’d experienced but haven’t so far?

For me, I’ve never lived alone. I went from living with my parents, to living with a partner, then back to my parents when we split, then moved in with my DP and we now have 2 young children.

I've never experienced just having the physical space and time to do whatever I please, whenever I want to. I'm sure that lots of this has been romanticised in my head when I see programmes/films when people live in apartments on their own and obviously there's a flip side to it with loneliness, money worries, etc... so I know it's not all positive. I would never regret my life now, I just sometimes wonder if I missed out on a huge part of life that other people have experienced.

So tell me, is there anything that you wish you'd experienced but haven't?

@NaturesEnd

I'd like to experience a hallucigen, lsd or mushrooms. No idea how to obtain said things so very unlikely.

If it's any consolation, I have experienced this and it was a huge mistake. I'm certain it was a contributing factor to the severe depression that I suffered for many years.

Having more than one child - not medically possible sadly would've loved a big family

I had the opportunity at one point to potentially become a children's tv presenter and I let my insecurities scupper that very much regret it.

I've been lucky enough to travel including living and working overseas and would highly recommend grabbing any opportunity to do so to others.

I'd also say it's NEVER too late to go to uni, I did it twice as a mature student and it was an amazing experience. Yes I wish I'd been able to do it earlier but there are advantages to doing it later too.

Grab the opportunities to do things wherever you can, take a job you're not entirely sure what it is, go to a club the other side of town, take a spare ticket to a concert by a band you don't know that well...

Life is really too short not to try things, to accidentally discover a job that's perfect for you, to meet people who challenge you and make you question your opinions and beliefs, find new music and actors and interests.

I'm seeing my daughter do this now, she's away in England studying but it's not just that which is making her open her mind it's also the people she's meeting in her new location, the jobs she's doing to supplement her income. I'm having some really great conversations with her and I'm loving that she's having this experience (albeit "muted" with covid)

I'm limited on what I can do now but I'm hoping it's not permanent and that I still have new places, people and experiences to have.

@catpoooffender

I wish I could have experienced giving birth vaginally, or at least feeling contractions. I was induced due to pre-eclampsia and having heard hideous things about the drip I had an epidural first. Then ended up having an emcs. We are unlikely to have another DC.

I was induced the first time and experienced contractions but the induction failed, so ended up with a EMCS, then had an elective with my second so haven't experienced a vaginal birth either. Luckily it doesn't bother me, but I can imagine that it's tough if it's important to you x

@Hathertonhariden

A happy marriage.

That's sad to read that, I hope you find happiness soon x

I always wanted to live in a big city for a while. I was supposed to go and live with my nan in Central London for a year or so after uni but she died before I got there. I was so excited at the prospect but could never have afforded the rent to go and don it by myself.

I also wanted to go and live in another country, not to emigrate but to immerse myself in another culture for a while.

A large circle of friends.

Having a career and being completely independent.

Would love a proper relationship. Have never had a relationship that's lasted more than 2 years. Been single for 8 years now - not even a date in all that time. No idea how other people manage to find someone new within weeks of splitting up with a partner. I must have a severe resting bitch face as no one ever approaches me

I wish I could experience having money in the bank,and not just a months wages max one day a month!

I'd like to see a tree hit by lightning. I mean I imagine I would... in reality it would probably be quite dangerous to be near it.

Related would be seeing a volcano erupt. I've seen a bit of a lava flow and it was so cool, but a decent eruption from a distance would be better.

Being a prima ballerina.

Winning the lottery.

Being a spy. Possibly a ballerina spy.

Unconditional parental love and supportive.

It must be amazing to have that.

Flying on Concorde. I’m fascinated by the whole story of it and am genuinely sad that I’ll never get a chance to try.

@HerBigChance

A really lovely relationship where I know someone has got my back. My past relationships have been okay, but it took many years, and therapy, to discover that this was missing in them. The bar has been raised dramatically.

I’m totally with you on this! Good luck 💜

@EugenesAxe I've seen a car hit by lightning, in the street where I was stood. Nobody was in it hence it's an awesome anecdote and not a tale of tragedy. It was very impressive! Also lightning is fatter than you think!

Where did you see lava flow?!

Oh being a ballerina would be incredible

I wish I'd been able to experience being carefree and doing whatever I wanted to do. I've always lived as if I have a duty to be the most responsible person around. I've never really had fun or done something crazy just for the fun of it. I was super serious as a kid too.
I definitely live to work, not the other way around. I'm too stuck in my ways now to do much about it.

I also wish I'd have been able to find a job I love doing. I think that would have made a huge difference to my life.

A ballerina spy

I'd give anything to experience having a child of my own. It just doesn't seem to be happening for me and not sure it will.

@Joeblack066 thank you! I have lots of other things in life that I'm very grateful for, but it would be nice to be in a good relationship too.

I bet there were loads of ballerina spies back in cold war times. It's just that they don't want you to know.

Erm well this is really irresponsible, but I wish I'd tried opium. I had the chance when travelling but bottled it.

Have tried lots of other drugs but not that. I am really lucky that I don't have an addictive personality (other than for chocolate!)

Wow @BaddestDaughter, I'm pretty jealous now! Never sure if the tyres earthing the bolt thing would be true, or if it could arc badly on the way through. I read a book about weather that had myriad stories of pretty scary kinds of lightning... probably a case of be careful what you wish for 😂

Lava flow was in Guatemala - popular tourist volcano called Pacaya. Probably the best country I've ever been to; sad the guerilla warfare seems to have started up again. I visited in a window of more peaceful times.

Having a group of female friends to do stuff with

True love in any form. Not from my mother, I was abandoned by father before my birth and neither in the two relationships I have had. But I still believe it is possible.

@Boobahs living on your own is fantastic! I had 13 happy years on my own. Obviously some odd lonely moments about being single but the independence and space of a house to myself (shared with Dcat) was fabulous.

I would like to experience not being anxious. I’ve always been on edge my whole life. Not in a crippling way-I function “normally” most of the time (with a few low points where I needed help). But I worry about so much, so often. I would love to not be like it.