Page 6 | Could you marry for money ?

Littleyell · 22/12/2020 22:32

No. A lot of people think they could... could they actually though?

Movingtonewyork · 22/12/2020 22:35

@Iamthewombat

No, I was quite clear that I think that you are deluded to say that you could have attracted, in your own words, ‘a multi billionaire’ for marriage if you had set out to do so.

That is why I asked, jokingly, whether you were Heidi Klum (who had a child with an Italian billionaire) or a movie star. You are clearly neither. Although you evidently think that you could have been if you had “sacrificed all that to conform”. How noble of you to hide the light of your world class beauty, charm and intelligence under a bushel,, all for your principles.

I think you should stop digging that hole now.

What an unpleasant post. Do mumsnet not moderate this kind of thing?

MsTSwift · 22/12/2020 22:38

No I was asked on a date by a man from one of the wealthiest families in England but turned down in favour of dh. Dh despairs at what a hopeless gold digger I am!

Whatwouldnanado · 22/12/2020 23:17

I think marrying for money is wrong especially if there is no love and attraction, but marrying where there is money is no bad thing if it means you share the same good work ethic, financial sense and support each other.

flatpack1 · 23/12/2020 01:50

Yes 100%

ChequerBoard · 23/12/2020 01:55

No. I'd rather work hard and make my own money. I would never want to be financially beholden to someone else .

NewAndUnusual · 23/12/2020 03:17

No. I knew from being about 10 years old that material things hold no interest for me.

I would very much like to love and be loved one day. Money and marriage are of little importance.

ImNotMeImSomeoneElse · 23/12/2020 03:39

I probably couldn't. I can't see anyone choosing me as a trophy wife, somehow. Too bloody minded

Would I?

Yeah, maybe, if there was genuine affection on both sides.

TrainspottingWelsh · 29/12/2020 21:01

@Iamthewombat
You're delusional if you believe world class beauty, charm and intelligence are the key to the type of gold digger relationship I was referring to. And as it's an anonymous forum, if I was deluded enough to believe they were the necessary, or only prerequisites, I could have falsely claimed to possess them. My mistake for assuming you were genuinely asking, and therefore responding in kind, rather than looking for a reason to be antagonistic on a light hearted thread. However you're deluding yourself if you believe everyone is limited to your life experiences.

@Movingtonewyork thanks, but some randomer on the internet really isn't worth being offended by

FlyingByTheSeatof · 29/12/2020 21:43

I wish I could

Zoflorabore · 29/12/2020 21:49

I would

KitKat1985 · 29/12/2020 21:54

I would (if not already married). With the caveat though the person was likeable even if I didn't love them.

PopcornAndWine · 29/12/2020 22:24

Can I ask a question to those who would happily marry for money?

What is it that you would like to gain that you don't currently have - simply more comfort and security? More luxury items/holidays etc? Or the chance not to have to work yourself and spend time at home with your DC? Or something else?

This isn't intended to be in any way goady - I am genuinely interested in peoples reasons! As I said downthread I couldn't have married for money as the main or only reason but I couldn't marry someone who brought nothing to the table financially either.

ThatsNotTheTeaHunty · 29/12/2020 22:48

Yep.

rookgizzardpie · 29/12/2020 23:10

I can think of nothing more depressing

SnowyOwlWan · 29/12/2020 23:14

If I liked him anyway. If somebody is a lazy, selfish, ugly ass then no. Although lots of ordinary men morph in to just that when they have toddlers whose care they leave to you!

SnowyOwlWan · 29/12/2020 23:28

@PopcornAndWine

Can I ask a question to those who would happily marry for money?

What is it that you would like to gain that you don't currently have - simply more comfort and security? More luxury items/holidays etc? Or the chance not to have to work yourself and spend time at home with your DC? Or something else?

This isn't intended to be in any way goady - I am genuinely interested in peoples reasons! As I said downthread I couldn't have married for money as the main or only reason but I couldn't marry someone who brought nothing to the table financially either.

yeh, it's all about security I'd imagine? Women who are beautiful who could do this (marry for money) they could use their looks to get a foot in the door, be the candidate who was remembered, paid a little extra..... good looking people have a silver spoon. I wouldn't use that to marry a man you wouldn't want if he were broke. Use it to get your own job. And if you're really beautiful you'll probably be paid more than the unattractive people working nearby

AnnaSW1 · 29/12/2020 23:44

No.

Could have done this twice but I wanted total love and lust too.

Gettingthereslowly2020 · 29/12/2020 23:54

I used to be very proud and say I'd never marry for money.

I do earn my own money and would never give up work completely but if a rich man who was also kind and caring wanted to marry me, I'd bite his hand off now!

I want security and stability, I'm sick and tired of doing everything my bloody self. As a single parent working full time, I'd love to be able to go part time 4 days per week and get a cleaner. Maybe even get my hair cut more than once a year. Perhaps even a holiday abroad! Our quality of life would be amazing and he wouldn't even have to be that wealthy.

Yes, I could look into retraining and earning more money myself (and I am doing this) but it would be so much easier to marry rich and not have to worry about money all the time, to not have the stress to deal with. I could focus on pursuing a career that I'm passionate about and not just any that will bring in the most money.