Could you marry for money ?

[Lardlizard]

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I wouldn't because I've always been able to work and earn my own living (in fact dp was unemployed with no obvious prospects when we first got together).

But I would probably consider it if I was in desperate circumstances, like the young mum in My Name is Joe. I'd have to like and respect the person, but if I was in dire straits, especially if I had kids to support, then I would marry a steady earner who liked me without loving him myself.

I'd never marry for money if that means marrying a higher earner because you want a lavish lifestyle and loads of material stuff.

I wouldn't. I did and he had all control over money. I had to beg to get the weekly shop, I had no idea how much money he had, and he made it really difficult for me to work by refusing to do drop offs and pick ups at the childminder so was left with little as well as paying for all childcare, doing cooking and cleaning. Never again. I value my independence now.

I think there is a difference between marrying someone without a job or only very minimum wage to marrying a millionaire. who is probably wanting a trophy wife,is the other end of the scale and wont make you happy either . Regardless most people tend to marry within their social circle ,and usually have similar jobs /backgrounds .Simply due to moving in similar circles .Many friends meet through mutual acquaintances ,work or Uni .

I think anyone who marries for money will earn every cent. Life is hard enough when you share it with someone you love, but it's a long, hard slog to wake up every day to someone you don't love. And, like a bad job, the day comes when you'll wonder if the "pay" is enough.

As others have pointed out there is a big difference between money being your sole reason for marrying someone and money being a factor in your decision-making. In a previous relationship the man I was with couldn't hold down a job for longer than about 3 weeks and I ended up paying for everything. I would never have got into another relationship like that, no matter how much I liked and fancied him. Now I am the higher earner, DH will probably never earn what I do but he has always had a job and worked hard.

@PopcornAndWine agree with everything you said.

Would I marry a man who I didn't like, wasn't attracted too but was worth millions ?

No. Of course not.

Nope,had the opportunity once knocked it back...no regrets...

No way. I did have the opportunity and that made me even more sure I never could. In the end I married my soulmate and it was a blessing.

In a flash. However at nearly 40 and on the wrong side of attractive plus a toddler in tow not many billionaires would be offering.

No. I couldn't have sex with someone that repulsed me.

I think I could, would depend on the arrangement. I quite like my life (being single) but could maybe be persuaded into an agreement where I just had to live with someone and attend the odd event/family get together as long as I had a lot of freedom to do my own thing possibly using the money supplied by my rich husband.

I remember having a conversation with an old manager who told me her sister married for money, I said I couldn't do it, I'd have to marry for love, her response was she did, her love of money, what attracted her to men was their wealth, how is that any different to being attracted to someone for their looks/humor/personality. I had never thought of it that way.

I love the quote Better a dinner of herbs where love is, than a feast withal but no love therein

I have been deeply in love with DH for nearly 30 years. Through really hard times when we had bailiffs knocking at the door, to now when I'm swanning around in a Range Rover Sport and carrying a Mulberry handbag.

But it isn't actually the money that makes me feel rich. It's loving DH, and being loved by him that makes me feel blessed.

No, I couldn't.

I've had wealthy partners who were emotionally bankrupt, and partners who didn't have 2 pennies to rub together and had huge chips on their shoulders about the fact.

DH and I are a great match - neither of us is bothered by material things, we feel the same about securing our financial future together and we are very happily married because we have similar views on nearly everything.

We're definitely not wealthy, but we don't really want for anything financially or emotionally.

I wish I had.

I earn a very good wage, and although my DH brings in decent money, I earn more than twice what he does.

He is not able to control me financially, so tries to do so in other ways, as well as being an absolute miser.

It's a joyless existence, and I'd rather be miserable surrounded by his gold.

Agree with @nevereverplease on this one. I am ambitious and a high earner and wouldn’t have gone for someone with no prospects in general or else it would be imbalanced in terms of lifestyle expectations, certain values etc which will unlikely be successful in the end

I would. Wish I had.

Life is hard, and having someone able to provide a good standard of living is something to value.

Yeah but being trapped in an unhappy marriage would be awful too. Don't know if the sacrifice is worth the money.

Yes, as long as they were fine with me being with them for just their money yes.
I wouldn't lie and say I was in love with someone because they have money though.

Yes, as long as he's kind and wants to marry me!

No, I couldn't because I have my own money. I also wouldn't because I suppose I could have set out to marry a multi billionaire but there's absolutely nothing about that lifestyle I really want, let alone anything I'd prostitute myself for.

That said, I wouldn't be with dp if his aim in life had been to be a sahp, or working nmw, I couldn't have maintained my quality of life if I was bankrolling someone else's so in the sense I'm with someone that doesn't need my money I suppose I have.

Could have. Didn’t. Turned him down.

Dating a working class boy doing a working class job. And love the bones of him and wouldn’t swap for all the (tens of) millions.

Absolutely. No qualms. I haven’t mind.

My mum always said "marry a man with ambition, drive and grit and you can build riches together.