Page 4 | Could you marry for money ?

Waxonwaxoff0 · 19/12/2020 20:26

I've always thought no. But after this shit year and the worries of whether my job is secure it's actually tempting!

Hawkins001 · 19/12/2020 20:34

Of the option was there then yes

Sproutsarecooking · 19/12/2020 21:00

I did, although he married me for love I think. We're not massively wealthy but very comfortable, he earns about 3 times what I do and pays for pretty much everything. He supplies and keeps my car on the road and pays for the house stuff.
I work but my money is my own.

We rub along together, more like friends than husband/wife and while there are things that frustrate me sometimes, I like my lifestyle.

I think a LOT of people marry for money/security.

june2007 · 19/12/2020 21:06

" I aint saying she,s a gold digger..."

seriousandloyal · 19/12/2020 21:10

I was brought up to never ever depend on a man for money and that has served me well over the years.

NastyBlouse · 19/12/2020 21:12

My mother married for money. It wasn’t a lot of fun being brought up in that distant, loveless household I can tell you.

MrsHugsxx · 19/12/2020 21:22

No. I married for love. I would be miserable with a man who I didn't love and wasn't sexually attracted to no matter how much money they had.

IJustWantSomeBees · 19/12/2020 21:23

@nevereverplease

Wow, six figures? Do you happen to work in the law field and do you also happen to be looking for a mentee?

Cluckycluck · 19/12/2020 22:00

Ididn't marry for money though as I found love at a young age. DH now runs a very successful business and earns more than six figures a year, neither of us came from money and we've been together since we were sixteen so definitely didn't marry for money. However, I'm not stupid and realise that having money makes our lives and marriage easier.
Obviously if marrying for love is an option you would go for that but if it isn't marrying for money, status, family ties is what anyone would do. Traditionally we marry for these reasons over love.

nevereverplease · 19/12/2020 23:14

@IJustWantSomeBees good guess but it wasn't the law field 😂

nevereverplease · 19/12/2020 23:15

@Sproutsarecooking were you never attracted to him initially?

PontiacBandit · 19/12/2020 23:16

Well I couldn't be with a cocklodger so I guess that is marrying for money. As long as we both contribute financially I'd be happy.

CayrolBaaaskin · 19/12/2020 23:19

No I couldn’t but lots of people do. But I think if you marry wholly or partly for money you wouldn’t be with that person if they didn’t have money. So there is something about them (maybe a lot about them) that you don’t like and you’re going to have to hide that for the next 40 years. I couldn’t do that. Also the power balance will always be wonky and I want to be an equal.

Quads4x4 · 19/12/2020 23:20

Why not? Sex goes to pot after children and love fades anyway. Money, mutual respect and shared values are the best foundation. Holding off for fairytale love stories do us no good.

Quads4x4 · 19/12/2020 23:24

You will find at some point men will let us down, betray or hurt. And when they sooner or later do, its a damn better sight walking out with diamonds millions and rubies. This forum alone is filled with women too poor or financially stuck to leave or putting up with cocklodgers or noncommital 'partners'.
Now if you can fall in love with a rich man thats even better. Otherwise its plenty enough that HE loves you and is rich.

ToastandJamandTea · 19/12/2020 23:25

I would do anything for love.... But I won't do that.

Thewithesarehere · 19/12/2020 23:28

@CayrolBaaaskin

No I couldn’t but lots of people do. But I think if you marry wholly or partly for money you wouldn’t be with that person if they didn’t have money. So there is something about them (maybe a lot about them) that you don’t like and you’re going to have to hide that for the next 40 years. I couldn’t do that. Also the power balance will always be wonky and I want to be an equal.

Best post on this thread so far.

Planty13 · 19/12/2020 23:39

Nah. I married someone unemployed and with low motivation. He is now not far above minimum wage, excelling in his job but still with little drive or motivation. Still love him though 🤷🏼‍♀️

My aunt married someone with no wage and still in education and he has been very successful in their field and earned very very well. She cannot talk to him though and he has zero social or conversational skills.

Sproutsarecooking · 19/12/2020 23:51

@nevereverplease, yes I was attracted to him and am fond of him 20 yrs later but I don't really love him.

Labobo · 20/12/2020 00:41

No way. I'd only marry for love and can make my own money.

Maigue · 20/12/2020 01:14

@DailyPotion

It will be an unpopular view but I think most people marry for money to some extent. They'll all say they loved him but his earning power/career prospects will have been part of the attraction.

Well, one half of ‘most people’ must be the ones with the money, surely?

Smallgoon · 20/12/2020 02:06

I'm 35 and single, so yes I would.

perditaplum · 20/12/2020 03:11

I am highly unlikely to get married but money is about the only thing that would make me even consider it before saying no.

DeeCeeCherry · 20/12/2020 03:14

If I liked the man, I could. Liking is as important as loving, for me. & I'm not bothered at all about anyone judging me for it so in that respect it would be fine

thelegohooverer · 20/12/2020 07:16

I’m curious what this thread would be like if earning your own money wasn’t possible. We’re an incredibly privileged generation of women to be in a position to reject the notion of marrying for money.