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We might be craving tiles, but we'll leave the woodchip and artex alone unless we're feeling very brave...

Welcome into another thread covering the whole range of life and death, novelty vegetables, DIY, any other randomness and musings about a certain pandemic.

Oh and our local hospital is asking people not to come to a and e unless its life threatening as they are seeing a large increase in people turning up and it makes social distancing hard.

My DD had to go to A&E, she called 111 and they said a doctor would call her back in 2 hours, but I knew she was at risk of sepsis. To be fair A&E were super speedy and had her on IV antibiotics within half an hour of arrival, but still, good job she had me insisting she went. On the other hand 111 did advise me to hang up and call 999 when I was worried about my DM so I guess it goes both ways. It all seems so variable and random.

@LivinLaVidaLoki The hypocrisy is astounding.

Thought some of you might like to see this Twitter thread. The replies are about 50/50

twitter.com/joanna_louise0/status/1333322039067815936?s=20

Hope your DD is okay @TabbyStar

@MercyBooth
I kept seeing that on social media. I love this response...

"I’m sure that person would be honored to know that you were so moved by their passing that you rushed to Twitter to shame people. Thank you for being so morally superior!"

If there's a deletion message above, it was just some random, irrelevant spam. More random and irrelevant than our usual ramblings

@LivinLaVidaLoki There has been so many of them on social media over the last several months. The replies are split though which wasnt happening a few months ago.

Thanks Mercy she's okay, a bit knackered but she'll fully recover, she wasn't allowed anyone with her in hospital so it was a bit scary to begin with (she's not quite 18 but was on an adult ward) but I think then she enjoyed the novelty and everyone made a fuss about her. I'm off to collect her in the next couple of days (illegally probably!)

I hope more pubs, cafes, hairdressers, barbers, beauticians, theatres, concert venues and restaurants follow suit and ban all MPs and SAGE members from the premises

I hope this catches on @Worldgonecrazy

The stress really got to me over the weekend. I was crying angry and fed up. When i went to bed on Saturday i had a pain in my shoulder, When the pain started to go down my arm i got up and took some Nurofen. It seemed fine after that. Stress im guessing. So fed up. I was in Tesco earlier and started crying in the Christmas aisle. The stress of all this plus menopause i think.

I've been taking boarege/starflower oil- for menstrual cycle over emotion- I think it seems to be helping.

@MercyBooth
I've had a recurrence of old pain recently. I think it's a mix of being tense, having to do some office work at home, & wearing PPE. We got new masks & visors at work & I hold my jaw & head completely differently.

I've been trying to do old relaxation techniques again, which is helpful, but it's exhausting having to schedule it in, on top of the rest of life.

Hope everyone sleeps better tonight.

I hate the hassle of getting ready for bed- so tempted to join the cat on his blanket by the fire...

[quote TheOrchidKiller]@MercyBooth
I've had a recurrence of old pain recently. I think it's a mix of being tense, having to do some office work at home, & wearing PPE. We got new masks & visors at work & I hold my jaw & head completely differently.

I've been trying to do old relaxation techniques again, which is helpful, but it's exhausting having to schedule it in, on top of the rest of life.

Hope everyone sleeps better tonight.

I hate the hassle of getting ready for bed- so tempted to join the cat on his blanket by the fire...[/quote]
I too hate the hassle of getting ready for bed. Dogs out, dogs in. Pills for dog. Lock doors, lights out, teeth brushed, jammies, glass of water, find reading glasses, find kindle, find ear plugs, find netflix. Whereas dogs and cat just curl up and sleep sigh........

When I was doing my nurse training, way back in the 1970s, one of the better consultants said. The difference between God and some doctors was that God knew he wasn't a doctor, whereas some doctors.....

They want to 'cure' you, using drugs. If you don't fit into their specific shaped 'hole', then it is your own fault. Drugs cure - and if they don't, again it is your fault. They can't accept that they are not omnipotent and so if they can't cure you - then it is your fault.

There are fewer doctors like this now than there were then but there are definitely far too many of them.

Finally got a rather sad DS2 (7) to bed at 11pm. He's struggling with friendships. There's only 10 other boys on his year (one of whom has communication and social skills very strongly influenced by ASD). He's well liked, but has no close friends and is struggling with lonliness. Add in the toll of a month with no distracting extra-curriculars (not that there's close friends there). While he has DS1 only 2 years older, he's not the most orthodox company.

I'm toying with asking about football teams. Until March, DS did football courses organised at school. It seems to be a football crazy school and most are on teams, and while DS loves football and has a good instinct for it, but he's feeling squeezed out because everyone else is on teams. Most of the friendship groups were established in nursery and have stayed consistent whereas DS came in from a private nursery.

We didn't rush into football teams because it's quite intrustive into family life, and we have no significant interest in it. We don't want to hold him back either, and until all the stupid fucking virus measures came in, he had access to training which fitted in with a broader range of hobbies.

It's sad to see DS2 struggling socially. Ironically DS1 with his ASD has found a close friend that fits. DS2 has always been so sunny and confident and good at communicating, but he is good with older children and adults and gets shy with his peers. He is a daydreamer with a vivid imagination (very me as a child) and I think it is a case of just not having a suitable tribe to click with rather than a deeper underlying issue as with DS1. But I can't change the tribes at school. Football is the only way I can think of to try to influence his social network.

He was so sad with lonliness in June, and he's found the last month hard again. I knew he wasn't in the best mood as it showed in his behaviour, but I thought it was more simply that he was missing swimming and karate.

@BogRollBOGOF
My tip is look for a football club that does training & friendly matches rather than taking it too seriously. Then you can dip in & out if you need a weekend off.

Forest used to do that when DS was young, & they were really good at things like good sportsmanship. The boys got the chance to play each week but not as part of a league. It was structured training but no pressure to be "the best". Much preferred that set up to the one we reluctantly moved onto for logistical reasons- touchline was full of sweary dads who were all convinced their own lad was the next big talent.

We let him join a team eventually - like your DS he wanted to be in a team but we didn't want it to take over our lives. I have left all the arranging to DH as he likes footy. I haven't missed it during lockdown, but I suppose it will be the last season he gets to play for them now.

I certainly think some boys need the physical exercise & they need to do a shared activity with other boys, to belong to a tribe, as you say.

Thanks @TheOrchidKiller

For the 2nd night in a row and about the 10th this month, here I am, wide awake.

For you @mercybooth

Something else that caught my eye yesterday was a post over there about someone who went into hospital and tested negative then a while later tested positive.

There were a lot of responses along the lines of "at the hospital I work at we all know that the tests we do on entry have a high false negative rate" and so on. I mean, they couldn't possibly have caught it in hospital could they????

Until we accept and deal with hospital acquired infections properly, how is the situation in hospital going to get any better?

A friend of mine just shared that twitter thread. Love that there is the following response:
"Hundreds of millions will starve so that rich westerners can hide from a virus with less than 0.25 ifr. Who cares whether you say spiteful things when ur complicit in the greatest human suffering in generations?"

@LivinLaVidaLoki

A friend of mine just shared that twitter thread. Love that there is the following response: "Hundreds of millions will starve so that rich westerners can hide from a virus with less than 0.25 ifr. Who cares whether you say spiteful things when ur complicit in the greatest human suffering in generations?"

Yes love that...

Me too.

@BogRollBOGOF, my DS is having similar trouble. He sees a friend occasionally outside and he needs a tribe of boys. When he was in school though, there wasn't a tribe that he was allowed to join. Too bad we can't get them together. From your description, my DS would absolutely love to be friends with yours

I have a dream that someday when all this is over, we can all hire a big field and have an AD festival where we drink whatever, eat whatever, watch our children romp about like puppies, break up disputes between them or leave them to it while we laugh together.

Re: hospital acquired infections.
We assess risk based on likelihood and perceived outcome. Everyone has different tolerances for different risks. Sometimes you can put things in place that reduce either factor (I am less likely to be injured in a motorbike accident if I wear a helmet, even more so if I don't ride one at all).
People need to be cared for, and that means getting up close and personal. Hospitals are busy places and social distancing is impossible, so naturally some transmission is going to occur. With hospitals and care homes alike, they have a double whammy of increased risk in that the vulnerable patient/residents are more likely to have poorer outcomes than the general public (how bad will it be) and that they are also more likely to acquire it because of their care needs (how likely is it). PPE is a form of risk mitigation, but it can't exclude the risk. The govt made some crucial mistakes at how to manage the hospital (and care homes) situation, but either place was always going to have higher rates than the community.

"I certainly think some boys need the physical exercise & they need to do a shared activity with other boys, to belong to a tribe, as you say."

DS2 is very physical. As a baby, he needed hours in the jumperoo to burn out
I've always found it easier to bond with people over a shared activity than being thrown together by same time same place. It was really sore last night with DS2 opening up about how sad he was feeling.

Football dad culture is definitely off-putting. I've tried to keep the DCs' activities broad and about participation rather than about competition. Generally I love junior parkrun because it's casual, but occasionally you do get vile, competitive parents. Once when tail walking I encountered "go-pro mum" who started off on this slightly reluctant poor 5 year old with a barage of motivational guff, and then moved on to disappointment because the 5 year old wanted to drop out and didn't want to run. Fortunately after one lap they did drop out, but the mum was recording it on the Go Pro to show dad

I'll send DS's teacher a message later. It's the kind of thing that I'd rather talk about face to face.

He was mentioning more people back in y2 and I think there is an impact of 5.5 months off school in this. I'm not really networked with the other parents as I tend to loiter with y5 and that where what nursery you went to matters as they all seem to friend up at the nursery gates and the friendships are too tight to wriggle into (this applies to both year groups).

Well talk about hypocrisy! My local MP voted for the tiers which is no surprise as he’s a twat, however he has an article in the local paper today asking people to send cards and letters to those who may be suffering from loneliness. You’ve just voted to extend the very reason for this you prize prick!