Shall I just shove a tenner in a card in future?

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A month or so ago, I sent a good friend a birthday present for her dc, something that my dc of a similar age enjoyed playing with, and that I genuinely thought would be liked.

I didn't receive any acknowledgement for afore said present, and this evening she has posted it for free on a small fb group along with some other unwanted crap. She knows I am in this group and therefore will have seen it.

I don't know whether to put a comment like 'I'll have that back then!' in a jokey sort of way, or pretend I haven't seen it, realise that I am clearly shite at buying presents, and put aside the presents I've got for her dc at Christmas and just put a tenner in a card?

That's a dick move to do it so publicly and right in your face. I would message her privately and ask her for it back.

Oh no! That's terrible! I'd likely not say anything, but I wouldn't make any further effort either.

She’s posted it as free giveaway unwanted item knowing you’re in the group?
rude.
Fuck the tenner in a card. I’d give her her haw in the future. Only Pound shop card

I wouldn't bother with the tenner tbh

Btw I’d ask for my gift back rather than it sit on a free for collection site

Thanks, glad I wasn't just being precious about it!!

Thing is I know I am not great at present buying, it really stresses me out, and I really don't have much disposable income as a single parent!

Plus I know if I get something for dd that I know she really wouldn't like or use, I still say thanks etc, and then either quietly regift or charity shop!
Feels a bit like she wanted me to see it!!!

Yes she wants you to see, it’s provocative and unkind

Really rude, it could have been a duplicate but that is clutching at straws!!

What was it? I'm sure it was a lovely
Well thought out gift OP.

Really rude, ask for it back.

I don't think it was a duplicate, it's quite a specific toy and I sent her a pic beforehand to check it was suitable and she didn't say anything about it not being wanted!!!

She is ghastly and rude. You gave her heads up in gift & she didn’t crack a light
If she didn’t like it that’s the time to say.

So very rude of her. I bet she forgot your see it though. I can't believe anyone would do that on purpose.

Post on the group saying you’d love it - take it back then give the kid poundshop chocolates after this.

Incredibly rude. I wouldn’t send her anything in future.

My first thought was duplicate.
Op maybe something has happened? Is this really out of the blue, if so.. Perhaps give her the benefit of the doubt?

Otherwise, yes... Thoughtless

‘Friend’ did this to me with gift I saved up for and gave her, except she put it in her parents shop window with a big for sale sign! Dick move.

Very rude - and very rude not to have thanked you for it. I'd put aside the Christmas gifts - either return them or give them to somewhere - and to no tenner in a card either.

Definitely not a duplicate. As I said, I didn't receive even an acknowledgement of it.

Feel a bit sad really that she would have put it up there for free for me to see, I did put thought into it and wasn't like I just sent her any old crap.

Also she's been a good friend in the past, I would have thought she would have said something at the time when I sent her the pic of it!

Hey ho.

@Verrucapepper oh my god!!!! That's terrible!

I wouldn't be sending anything in future.

Ok,on balance if she’s been a good friend I’d ask her how your gift ended up on Giveaway site
Has she got new mates recently or had any life changes (other than covid)

Nope, not that I am aware of! We speak most days over messenger, and she's not mentioned anything new.

Just wondering whether or not to say anything, I feel a bit embarrassed to be honest, that she thinks my present is just unwanted clutter!!!

I would just comment on the post “can I have this please?”. She’s giving it away after all.

Then I wouldn’t be spending time in future thinking of thoughtful gifts for her family. At least you know where you stand with her now.

Unbelievably rude behaviour.

Just wondering whether or not to say anything, I feel a bit embarrassed to be honest, that she thinks my present is just unwanted clutter!!!

Rise above it and stay classy - she clearly isn't!

I would never send her anything again. Why would you?