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Naked opinions

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PrincessGraceless · 16/11/2020 20:38

What are your thoughts about a dad being naked in front of adult daughter (early 20s)? Not swanning around the house, but walking around bedroom after a shower, with daughter sitting on the bed chatting. Neither seem bothered by it. So ok I guess? (She would not do this herself btw - not even partially-dressed, being very private.)

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CuppaZa · 17/11/2020 00:08

Grim

MrsMarrio · 17/11/2020 00:15

I find this odd. There were 5 males in my house growing up and would be mortified if anyone of them were casually strolling about nude. Or if even my mum was. We didn't make a big thing about it if one of us walked into the bathroom by accident if we were showering and say if any of them needed help when they were naked i.e they were stuck in the bath I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest helping them but just casually talking to me naked no way!

Halo1234 · 17/11/2020 00:25

Hmmm my initial reaction is its weird. However cant think why. A body is a body is a body. and 2 year olds dont think its weird so it is a society norm and we must learn to find it weird I suppose. I wouldnt want my dad to do that and would say omg get some clothes on. My kids are 8 and 5 and if I was in my shower or bedroom and they happend to pop in I wouldnt send them out but would get something on as quickly as I could. Its a personal boundary.....if they are both fine with it then its fine but not for everyone. Sure most families do things other would think as weird. Expect mine obviously we are totally normal whatever that is.

tobee · 17/11/2020 00:32

Well that's kind of what I wonder. Have people told people that's it's wrong to be naked?

There's kind of a feeling not of "it's grim!" but "it's grim...." iyswim

notangelinajolie · 17/11/2020 00:58

As a mum, I always had a bath with the door open and I could almost guarantee that one of my DC's would wander in and plonk the toilet seat down for a chat. It would have been a very rare bath to have had no visitors. My DC's are all adult now and don't live at home (although one of them is usually here for one reason or other) but sometimes they still wonder into the bathroom when I'm in there. It's weird because I would never walk into the bathroom when they are in the bath but maybe because I am their mum, seeing me naked those boundaries just don't apply. Perhaps your DD is the same with her dad. Have to say though that they haven't ever done the same with their dad - although he does still make the dash from the upstairs bathroom to our downstairs bedroom with nothing but a towel to cover his modesty regardless of who is around. Being naked in itself shouldn't be an issue but we aren't all comfortable in our skin - if your DD is ok with it then I don't think you should think too much into it.

DinosApple · 17/11/2020 07:06

The thing is, was it a one off? Did he come out of the bathroom and hadn't realised she was there, then rather than either freak out, they both just carried on as that would be quickest over?

Or has he always wandered about naked right from when she was a tot?

Either way why not ask her if she's bothered by it?
If it was my dad I'd have left the room and my dad would have dived back in the en suite!

I'm perfectly happy in my own skin around my DC though. They never give me a moment's peace when I'm in the bathroom or getting dressed! It might change when they're teens though.

SpillingTheTea · 17/11/2020 07:19

That's so weird.

Allwhiteeverythin · 17/11/2020 07:30

Nah not weird if that’s how she’s been brought up.

I walk around naked all the time. I suppose I thought in the back of my mind that as they got older I’d stop but they just kept coming in my bedroom/bathroom and didn’t blink an eye so if their not bothered why would I be.

We are a house where people are naked a lot though. No neighbours so I’ll frequently get up and make tea in the morning naked or go down for a snack with no clothes on. Kids/teens would absolutely let me know if they were uncomfortable, they are not backwards in coming forwards

Bluntness100 · 17/11/2020 07:33

I never understand this. Oh I wander round naked in front of my adult kids. Just cover it up for goodness sake.

BeautifulandWilfulandDead · 17/11/2020 07:37

Normal in my house, but if one of the dc decided they were uncomfortable for any reason, I would respect that.

00100001 · 17/11/2020 07:57

@Sparklingbrook

DD is in parents room, presumably aware that Dad is in the shower of the ensuite

That would never happen in our house. DS doesn't have any reason to go in our room.

Really? Confused DS17 often comes in our room for a chat
Sparklingbrook · 17/11/2020 08:29

@00100001 yes really. We chat but not in our bedroom. I don't think that's unusual.

Pollynextdoor · 17/11/2020 08:57

Still no one has given an explanation for why it’s so bad to see your parents naked other than YUK which isn’t that articulate.

formerbabe · 17/11/2020 09:02

@Pollynextdoor

Still no one has given an explanation for why it’s so bad to see your parents naked other than YUK which isn’t that articulate.
If something makes you uncomfortable then that's enough. You don't need to provide a logical explanation.

People don't walk round the supermarket naked. If you rocked up to a job interview and the interviewer was naked, you'd think wtf? If you went to a friend's house for dinner and they opened the door to you with no clothes on, you'd be reasonably shocked I'd imagine?

Nikhedonia · 17/11/2020 09:15

@Pollynextdoor

Still no one has given an explanation for why it’s so bad to see your parents naked other than YUK which isn’t that articulate.
Why do people need to justify why something makes them feel uncomfortable, when it's not really a concern to others?

There could be a lot of triggering reasons why naked bodies aren't 'just body parts' to other people.

Pollynextdoor · 17/11/2020 09:28

But no one is saying you must be naked around your children on this thread or have i missed that? It’s just people saying what they personally feel comfortable with. Why is it not ok for me to say that you are weird for not wanting to be naked (I don’t think that by the way), but perfectly fine for lots of posters to say I am weird, it’s yuk or grim?

@formerbabe, no one is talking about walking around the supermarket naked here are they?

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 17/11/2020 09:34

I don’t understand this wandering round necked in front of teens/young adults🤢

What’s wrong with a dressing gown. Why do you need to wander round naked in front of them? Why would anyone walk round naked? I just don’t get it at all.

ClaireP20 · 17/11/2020 09:36

@Lifeaintalwaysempty

I would think it seems extremely extremely unusual for a dad wound be happy to have his penis out in front of his daughter, and for her to be comfortable with that too.
This. Odd.
TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 17/11/2020 09:36

‘ Still no one has given an explanation for why it’s so bad to see your parents naked other than YUK which isn’t that articulate’

Because it feels like oversharing. Yuk, walking round naked in front of teens is just so many shades of wrong.

Inappropriate
Uncomfortable
Forcing people into a situation they may be unhappy with

formerbabe · 17/11/2020 09:38

no one is talking about walking around the supermarket naked here are they

No but you are asking why some people aren't comfortable with nudity because a body is just a body. Clearly, it's not that simple because if it was it would be socially acceptable to be naked and it isn't.

Illberidingshotgun · 17/11/2020 09:39

There doesn't appear to be anything in what you have written to suggest that either of them feel uncomfortable with what is happening.

Each of us have our own thoughts and boundaries around nakedness, and this varies within families -some family members may feel relaxed about it, others not, and that's fine. As long as no-one is made to feel uncomfortable, or do anything they don't want to do.

Presumably if your DH was uncomfortable with it, he would have asked her to leave the room before getting in the shower, or grabbed a towel quickly when he realised that she was still there. If this is an ongoing behaviour that your DD isn't comfortable with, then she wouldn't come back to visit, she wouldn't go into the bedroom (or, if she still lives at home, she would have done everything she could to move out).

It sounds like they have a lovely relationship, and this is nothing to do with nakedness, it's just that they enjoy chatting and being together. I would be hesitant about questioning either of them about it as is may taint precious time together. However if it makes you feel uncomfortable (not a criticism of you, we're all different) then perhaps just avoid seeing these interactions.

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 17/11/2020 09:40

Why would you wander downstairs to make a snack naked?

What if a kid turned up with a friend?

Pollynextdoor · 17/11/2020 09:40

Who is forcing people into situations they are not comfortable with? Posters are describing being naked in their own bedrooms or bathroom and teens being used to this/not caring coming to talk to them. People are talking about getting dressed, coming out of the showers.... and then some posters likens that to going shopping naked and constantly waltzing around the house with no clothes onConfused

formerbabe · 17/11/2020 09:41

@TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince

I don’t understand this wandering round necked in front of teens/young adults🤢

What’s wrong with a dressing gown. Why do you need to wander round naked in front of them? Why would anyone walk round naked? I just don’t get it at all.

I agree...why are so many people naked so much at home? I have a shower and get dressed. If my dc walked in on me getting changed, it's not the end of the world, but if they needed me and i was getting changed, I'd stick my dressing gown on.
Sparklingbrook · 17/11/2020 09:45

@TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince

Why would you wander downstairs to make a snack naked?

What if a kid turned up with a friend?

Wouldn't matter. It's only a body apparently, if the friend didn't like it that would make them uptight presumably? Nudity is normal you see. Grin
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