Naked opinions

[PrincessGraceless]

What are your thoughts about a dad being naked in front of adult daughter (early 20s)? Not swanning around the house, but walking around bedroom after a shower, with daughter sitting on the bed chatting. Neither seem bothered by it. So ok I guess? (She would not do this herself btw - not even partially-dressed, being very private.)

I didn't call anyone "uptight". If you read what I wrote I asked why it's coercive. You answered a whole different thing

I wouldn't call the dc uptight. That's not the same thing at all.

@tobee

I wouldn't call the dc uptight. That's not the same thing at all.

You said uptight parents are more likely to have uptight children, didn't you?

This 'uptight' thing is getting a bit confusing.

@Sparklingbrook

This 'uptight' thing is getting a bit confusing.

It really is! I saw the word in the thread and it pissed me off...don't especially care who used it first

I said I wouldn't call dc uptight @formerbabe. As I assumed you meant say to their face. I might think they were overly anxious. I used the word "uptight" as I was quoting op. The word itself has name calling connotations, so I wouldn't use it to dc. Coercive has connotations of abusive behaviour.

Can anyone actually explain what’s wrong with the situation as described? Other than just saying they don’t do it and think it’s a bit strange (to them)

@PrincessGraceless

Maybe dh is as British as Prince Philip and is just channelling his inner German and Scandinavian lol.

A pp mentioned that German people would see this as normal behaviour.

I wasn't aiming any of my comments specifically at you @tobee. In general, I am very uncomfortable with people being told there's something wrong with them for not being completely comfortable with nudity. If someone doesn't feel comfortable that's their choice and its perfectly fine.

I couldn't think of anything worse. I think its weird that your dd is happy to be in the room with her dad while he's naked.

I don’t see many of the “naked posters” calling people not comfortable with nakedness weird, but plenty of posters thinking it’s weird to think nakedness is no big deal. No one is forcing it upon our children by proactive seeking them out dancing around them naked.

Well maybe some people are uncomfortable with being told they are weird. But each to their own and we all likely not to have to thrust our own behaviours on each other.

I'm 32 and I'd probably never recover if I saw my dad naked tbh. But if they're both comfortable then crack on I guess? I get why you're looking opinions though, you're probably reluctant to bring it up with your daughter for fear of making her feel awkard/like she's done something wrong?

Yuck. No, just no.

@formerbabe

I hate posters on here calling those of us who don't want to walk round naked 'uptight'. I'm not uptight and I actually find it quite coercive and creepy to try to insinuate that there's something wrong with someone because their boundaries are different to theirs.

Agreed.

Also, they're called private parts for a reason.

Well not everyone call their parts private

I think the coercive thing stemmed from my first comment.

I was commenting on OPs daughter not being comfortable with her own nudity but conversely being comfortable with her fathers nudity and her father being comfortable with his own nudity.

I think that is normal.

In the context of their household and their norms the father should be more mature than the daughter and this may mean that he is more comfortable with his body 'warts and all'.

@Sparklingbrook and @formerbabe chose to take this out of context and project this onto themselves and see it as 'creepy' or 'coercive' because I'm implying they're immature for not them not personally being comfortable with their own nudity.

For the record I don't think they're immature, personally I just think they're prudish but that is fine if that is their norm. From Burqas to towels people should be allowed to wear as little or as much as they want imo.

@Pollynextdoor

Well not everyone call their parts private

Indeed!

Interesting reply @SkedaddIe .

I don't really see anyone explaining why it's yuck but understand that they don't feel the need to explain.

@SkedaddIe

I think the coercive thing stemmed from my first comment.

I was commenting on OPs daughter not being comfortable with her own nudity but conversely being comfortable with her fathers nudity and her father being comfortable with his own nudity.

I think that is normal.

In the context of their household and their norms the father should be more mature than the daughter and this may mean that he is more comfortable with his body 'warts and all'.

@Sparklingbrook and @formerbabe chose to take this out of context and project this onto themselves and see it as 'creepy' or 'coercive' because I'm implying they're immature for not them not personally being comfortable with their own nudity.

For the record I don't think they're immature, personally I just think they're prudish but that is fine if that is their norm. From Burqas to towels people should be allowed to wear as little or as much as they want imo.

I never once said either of those words.

Oh dear Lord, no.

[shudder]

I would be horrified, unless there was a good medical reason for it. Even then it would need to be momentary, to deal with the emergency at hand, and should never be spoke of again.

Blimey that's quite a severe response!

Actually, Nikhedonia, does it count if the father is wearing socks? I assume like Victorian tables, ankle coverings can be used to ensure decency.
I don’t have private parts. Do I need to call 111?

@CherryPavlova

Actually, Nikhedonia, does it count if the father is wearing socks? I assume like Victorian tables, ankle coverings can be used to ensure decency. I don’t have private parts. Do I need to call 111?

Whatever is acceptable in your house.

Weird.

Not wanting to be naked in front of other adults is not uptight!!