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Naked opinions

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PrincessGraceless · 16/11/2020 20:38

What are your thoughts about a dad being naked in front of adult daughter (early 20s)? Not swanning around the house, but walking around bedroom after a shower, with daughter sitting on the bed chatting. Neither seem bothered by it. So ok I guess? (She would not do this herself btw - not even partially-dressed, being very private.)

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Sparklingbrook · 16/11/2020 21:42

My parents wandered from the bathroom to their bedroom naked and we might go in and out of the bathroom if they were in the bath as children but that all stopped by the time we were early teens.

Mum2jenny · 16/11/2020 21:44

Normal to me. Bodies are just bodies and everyone has one.

SkedaddIe · 16/11/2020 21:44

It's normal and healthy. It's also expected that a parent is more comfortable with nudity in front of their child than vice versa.

It takes time and maturity for people to be entirely comfortable with their naked bodies.

Sparklingbrook · 16/11/2020 21:47

It takes time and maturity for people to be entirely comfortable with their naked bodies

I don't know what that even means. I am entirely comfortable with mine but don't need to chat naked to my adult children to show this.

00100001 · 16/11/2020 21:48

@Sparklingbrook

I have a nearly 19 year old DS and he's currently in his room. There's no way I would wander in there starkers for a chat when I go for a shower in a bit. If I did feel the need the good news is that I own a dressing gown. Perfect.
That isn't what's happening in the OP though...

DD is in parents room, presumably aware that Dad is in the shower of the ensuite.

And DD is 20 years old. If she had an issue, she would say something... Or avert her gaze, or leave the room or say to her mum she didn't like it...

Kolsch · 16/11/2020 21:48

It doesn't bother me or us at all.
My adult daughter wanders into the bathroom while her dad is in the bath.
Bodies are just bodies. Nudity isn't anything to be embarrassed or ashamed of.

Sparklingbrook · 16/11/2020 21:50

DD is in parents room, presumably aware that Dad is in the shower of the ensuite

That would never happen in our house. DS doesn't have any reason to go in our room.

formerbabe · 16/11/2020 21:51

It takes time and maturity for people to be entirely comfortable with their naked bodies

This phrase sounds a little bit coercive to me...if someone doesn't feel comfortable than that is their right.

formerbabe · 16/11/2020 21:51

*then not than

SkedaddIe · 16/11/2020 21:54

Coercive?

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PrincessGraceless · 16/11/2020 21:56

She wouldn’t say anything to me. She’s very private. I suppose that’s why I’m asking. I don’t want to say anything to him if it’s ‘normal’. Thanks for feedback - really interesting.

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diamond4u · 16/11/2020 21:57

I don't think that's normal I find it very weird very odd. How did it come about being so normal for them both. Has this happened all of DDs life?

herethereandeverywhere · 16/11/2020 22:00

Depends how you/they have been raised and what your/their 'normal' is.
Many Germans for example would see this as completely normal and wonder what the fuss was about. In the context of health spas, saunas etc they'll also think this was completely normal between strangers. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Pollynextdoor · 16/11/2020 22:01

It’s normal for us. My dad was always naked in front of me and I am naked around teenage sons. Don’t think anything of it. It’s nothing sexual about it.

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PrincessGraceless · 16/11/2020 22:04

@Pollynextdoor

It’s normal for us. My dad was always naked in front of me and I am naked around teenage sons. Don’t think anything of it. It’s nothing sexual about it.
Agree - nothing sexual about it. I suppose turning it on its head - if I had a 20 something son, I wouldn’t dream of walking around naked in front of him. But as I said - I’m uptight.
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Whatsnewpussyhat · 16/11/2020 22:09

Why was she in his/your room knowing he was in the shower? Were you there too?

If I wanted a conversation with my parents it would be in their bedroom unless they were in bed ill.

woodhill · 16/11/2020 22:12

Just a big no no in our family

SkedaddIe · 16/11/2020 22:13

Agree - nothing sexual about it. I suppose turning it on its head - if I had a 20 something son, I wouldn’t dream of walking around naked in front of him. But as I said - I’m uptight.

What are your cultural backgrounds? Are you both British?

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander · 16/11/2020 22:13

Normal to me. Early-mid teens I hated seeing my Dad naked !and wouldn't let him see me naked.
By late teens I'd outgrown that embarrassment. We used to go on holiday and Dad would be in the bathroom shaving while I showered. I'd stay in there to do my hair/makeup if needed while he showered.
I walk around naked in front of my teen boys. They know they can tell me if they don't like it.

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PrincessGraceless · 16/11/2020 22:14

@Whatsnewpussyhat

Why was she in his/your room knowing he was in the shower? Were you there too?

If I wanted a conversation with my parents it would be in their bedroom unless they were in bed ill.

Just happened to be there - popped in for a something, that kind of thing.
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Deadringer · 16/11/2020 22:15

Who would want to look at their dad's tackle. Yuck.

Sparklingbrook · 16/11/2020 22:17

Where does all this walking about naked in front of teenagers take place? Does nobody have a bedroom door?

I don't think you should wait for teenagers to tell you they don't like it. What if they don't know how to say it?

formerbabe · 16/11/2020 22:18

@Sparklingbrook

Where does all this walking about naked in front of teenagers take place? Does nobody have a bedroom door?

I don't think you should wait for teenagers to tell you they don't like it. What if they don't know how to say it?

Couldn't agree more...just put some knickers on ffs, it's not a huge inconvenience is it?
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PrincessGraceless · 16/11/2020 22:19

@SkedaddIe

Agree - nothing sexual about it. I suppose turning it on its head - if I had a 20 something son, I wouldn’t dream of walking around naked in front of him. But as I said - I’m uptight.

What are your cultural backgrounds? Are you both British?

Yes
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BaronessBomburst · 16/11/2020 22:20

Wouldn't bother me at all. It's just my dad. There's a huge difference between coming out of the shower and just getting on with it and strutting around for an audience. At what age should he start covering up?